i hate with a passion being given money my self but my mum is insisting on helping us out aswell not sure how much we are going to hers sat to talk it all over if it was up to me (im stubbon lol) i would pay the whole things myself but she will loose face with me if i didnt except , she and my sister dont talk so to her im the only daughter and she is hell bent on the tradition lol (my mum is stubbon too lol , must take after her) im very greatfull she wants to help but i always find it hard excepting money because it feels like im unable to do it my self so i no what you mean but without her help my wedding probs wont be as good lol xxxx good luck huni xxx

TRICKY SUBJECT, we've just decided to pay for it ourself, i know its traditional, but also a bit cheeky. If they offer and present then I suppose that a but different, At the end of the day it depends what you feel comfortable with. I would not feel comfortable with taking money, cos I would be they want to know every detail it was spend on and might not agree.

Oof, just met with them and it was all a bit weird...they basically said they want to help but don't know how much they can give, and were a bit vague....his mother seemed to think we are getting married too soon. I think we're just going to pay ourselves and if they decide at a later date to help us we'll accept it but I'm not going to count on it, it was the weirdest conversation!

Thanks, hope so too...I think she's happy for us but doesn't want us to get married so soon as she thinks getting married means I'll take her little boy away to America ;) kind of true as we are planning to move after but it's not our main reason for getting married! I think in the end she will help us but it won't be without making her opinion on the whole matter known :(

Adam's mum isn't helping us, my mum & dad are helping with small things like my dress (only £168) & the hotel for a mini honeymoon over the weekend we get married.

But my sisters-in-law to be are great they are really going to town with how they are helping me, not financially as such but they are helping out by letting me use one of their houses as our recpetion, another's hubby is a DJ so no need to pay & my dad's GF is making our cake & centrepieces too :)

Yup..I met Adam :D

Well we had our little chat and they've gone away and talked about it and we're getting a £500 contribution from them. While my H2B is a bit disappointed as he says he knows they can afford more I'm quite happy with it, means we now actually have our full budget sitting in our bank account! So that's a load off our shoulders.

And I agree, Eilowny - how lucky are you?! Haha, I wish I knew someone who would lend us their house for the reception...

£500 is fab!! Your very lucky!! :)

I asked my Dad if he wanted to contribute and his reply was 'Your no longer my daughter and I hope your getting married for the right reasons and not trapping your partner into marriage' LOL Nearly fell of my chair with that comment lol!!

Wow, and I thought my dad didn't show enough enthusiasm....touch break shell! Hope you have other relatives who are more supportive :(