planning on changing mine, never thought i would my future sister in law isn't changing her's though and think my mom is a little insulted (give the indication that our names not good enough) all i'd say is explain it to family if you are planning on keeping your own names. the last thing you need is people mis reading your intentions.
but i do understand why you'd want to keep your name. so do what is right for you. x
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
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The only thing i would say, whilst people should be free to do whatever they want (of course) is what happens when you have kids... Will they have your surname or his? Taking into consideration the fact they will only have one (i would guess, as i don't really like having kids with 2 surnames) wont that make one of you feel like their not really yours?
I don't know.... I don't think its outdated to take a name, its just one of those nice things
CommentAuthorNannyDani
Im not too sure either... My name (Danielle) sounds very simular to my H2B's brothers name (Daniel), so every time we're talking 'WEDDING TALK' and we lovingly say "Danielle Howarth" I see him cringe as it sounds like his brothers name. But then he wouldnt change his incase his parents are insulted... its a tricky situation, not too sure what we're going to do.
I think he should just change his surname to something cool like FOX... Hi, I'm Mrs Fox, Id love it!! Danielle Fox
Danielle Cook - soon - to - be Howarth
To be married: Auckland, New Zealand 04.02.12
CommentAuthorDeeC
I sound awful but I get a bit sad when I think of changing my name. I have a really close family and I get sad when I think I'm not going to have the same name as them. It's not even a good name but it is disappearing a bit now as all the men have stopped having kids and there are no boys left with our name :( I will be glad in a way tho as I now get to have the same second name as our little boy.
I personally will be glad to be rid of my surname as on most of my paperwork it is my surname from my previous marriage so its not something i like to use, prefer my maiden name that I use on here, H2b has said you could have a double barrelled surname when we are married Noble-Shaw or Shaw-Noble, hmm prefer Shaw I think,. ,My girls will still have their fathers name though and all three of them have mentioned about changing it to Shaw, the oldest one is 19 so from her point of view she could by deed poll i think as she is not classed as a minor but the two younger girls are 11 so think they would need the permission of their father.... and that wont happen. : )
CommentAuthorFuture Mrs Doublé
I am quite excited to change surname, but the thing is H2B wants to change his beforehand as he hates his last name and has suffered from it, his last name is Double, and he wants to change it to Doublé (which sounds French but don't mean a thing) and in that case, it means we would start a new family name, having already changed name twice (I am adopted) I don't know how I feel about him changing name for a stupid reason like because it sounds better, but I love him and will take his name no matter what
Soon to be Mrs Gary Doublé
Everything is now booked
Getting really stressed and excited now
CommentAuthorUnknown
i am changing my surname. i always said i never would as once me and my sisters are married there are no more Sas's in England so my family name will die out! there has just been a new Sas born to my cousin in america but that is a girl aswell so unless he has a boy there will be no more Sas's in my family which is really sad.
I do want the same name as h2b and our children when we have them though so will become a Barker. sounds a bit commen to me as i know a few other Barkers that arent related to h2b but nothing i can do about it.xx
CommentAuthormelvis
im excited to me mrs mooney... melissa mooney!! my mums maiden name was moon... her sister was melinda moon before she got married... so its like were going full circle... mel moon mel mooney...!!! ha love it id be mrs mooney now!! xxx
Cant wait to be Mrs Melissa Mooney!!!
Hes The Man Of My Dreams
Kos 2013!
CommentAuthorMrsSaraParry!
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I've never considered anything other than taking my h2b's surname however my friend got married last year and they both ended up with a double-barelled surname. She wanted to keep hers but still wanted to take his.. That's always an option! xx
CommentAuthorkvelvick
I'm going to be Mrs Friend and I cant wait!! :) not looking forward to changing all the bank details etc though!!
CommentAuthor*katie-Mrs Vlad2B*
I am going to miss my surname (Clark) but find it is quite common so cant wait to be Mrs Vlad.... its funny because a lot of people do not know how to pronouce it so when we are called out for or table at a resturant, hearing them trying to say it is hilarious!! for some reason people say flag??!! lol! if your wondering its v - in like vase - lad! xx
CommentAuthorricky
i have taken my husband's name but only because i have unhappy memories of my former last names. it depends how you view it. If you think about how historically surnames came about then maybe the more feminists amongst us would not want to take their husband's name..surname comes from SIR NAME..when you married you became your SIR's property and ceased to be a person with rights..he could basically do what he wanted with you..you were a belonging..hence the term 'the wife' an object like 'the table' 'the chair'....if changing your last name is a symbol of love then that love goes both ways...why should you change your name to show you love him ?? why can't he change his name to show he loves you ??? not saying either is right..but if it makes you happy do whatever feels right.. my concession to it though is i don't like being addressed as Mr and Mrs R Tofts...i am the MRS that belongs to R Tofts.. I prefer Mrs R and Mr R Tofts...so i am a person in my own right.......god i go on a bit don't i lol ??
CommentAuthorclaireandpete
I'm double barreling and H2B is considering doing the same
CommentAuthorNishaVyas88
We're taking each other's names. I don't want to lose my family name and neither does he. I kinda wanted to take on his mother's name as well (divorced parents, he has his dad's name) because she's been as much as a mother to me as my own, but that would have been one hyphenate too many.
I'm curious as to how many people's heads will explode trying to pronounce the double-barrell. We both have a 'y' in our surnames, but mine is pronounced as an 'e' and his is pronounced as an 'i'. I might have to reward people who get it right on the first try, haha
CommentAuthorMrsSnedden2B
I cant wait to change my name i us to get teased for it as it was when jordan ( katie price) was at her peck in her modleing carrer and the us to say how can u have that name with no t*ts, well there not laughing now as i have fairly big boobs now lol but i cant wait to be mrs Snedden :)
CommentAuthorLofty
I'm taking H2Bs name and I can't wait to have the same name as him. I will be very sad to lose my last name though as it is an Irish name and there are not too many of us around apart from our family, but like a typical Catholic Irish family I've got 5 brothers/cousins to carry on the name! My sister has said that she definitely won't change her name if she gets married though!
Very happy to say I'm now Mrs Keates and loving it!
