Bah they sound like they are just being fussy! 45 mins is nothing... People are travelling between 150 and 1000 miles to come to our wedding and blessing...

Weddings re about pleasing guests... But only the ones who come because they know what an honour it is to be asked to share such a special day. Everyone else who thinks the wedding should be entirely centred around them ... They are ridiculous!

Chin up hun, boy you have really struck out when it comes to getting in-laws (I have read your previous posts!!!!), just remember the day is about YOU and your OH not them! If they don't want to come it will be them who miss out because you will still be married and they will not be able to get back the moment if they ever come to their senses and take their heads out of their a55. It will be a shame if they want to be so pushy and unreasonable but be comforted by the fact that the people who attend your wedding will be people who genuinely care about you both,

Eurgh people! What selfish, lazy people! They should feel honoured that they get an invite to the best day of your life! Bleurgh. x

I am really feeling for you huni, surely they will see sence nearer the time. The family should be supportive... at the end of the day..your may not be their family yet.. but you soon will be.. and its your h2b they shoul be interested in.. they should care for HIS happiness.
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I am getting married an hours drive away... mum was originally saying I couldnt do that and as soon as I took her to the venue, she said that she would sort everyone else out and they either come or they dont... therefore, she soon changed her tune. It is up to you. I am also getting married in the middle of the day 12 noon and noone is being fed properly until 3. I have just told them to have a decent sized breakfast and have ordered canapes for 12.30pm after the ceremony. Tell them to bugga off x its your day and your way.

They are being silly. All of our guests will have to travel between 150 and 250 miles to come to our wedding.
It sounds like they are using a silly excuse and if wasn't this it would be something else. It sounds like from your previous posts that the whole family are being unresonable, and I hope they wake up and come to their senses before you give their invite to somebody who really wants to be there for you both.
And imagine how lovely it would feel if they did change their mind later on and you could say 'Sorry, as you said you didn't want to come I have given your invite to someone else' lol!

when we first told the "inlaws" that we hadchoosen our venuse ...mr lalas mother said ... oh thats a bit far to travel ......its 20 mins from her house !!!! anyway she doent have to worry now as she isnt being invited

aww tsukijin that is a ridiculous excuse, i feel really sorry for your h2b also as thats prob most of his family using stupid petty excuses not to go to the wedding.

i wouldnt give in and id feel safe in the knowledge that at the end of the day you both invited them all to your day and they chose not to come so you shouldnt feel bad about that. none of it is your fault. but i would invite people who you know would want to be there and celebrate!!

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send her a letter back.... sayin well h2b doesnt seem to be important to u, we will have a greta day without you1 thanks! x

I went to a wedding earlier this year where the bride's brother thought 10 miles was too far to travel. There was no reason why such an incredibly long journey should have been difficult for him. The bride just accepted that he wasn't there, and raised her glass to everyone who had managed to make it (most of them from much further afield).

It does hurt if your wedding is not important enough for some people to make an effort for, but it is also a good way of sorting out which people are worth your time and money further down the road. Enjoy the people who realise what an honour it is to be invited, and try not to lose sleep over those who think the world revolves around them.

He doesn't even care so I don't know what I'm worrying about. My oh is a very cold person towards his own family and really has no emotion towards them because this isn't the first time they tried to hurt him by letting his sisters feelings control situations.

To my family, he is warm, caring and helpful and will bend over backwards to help any of them and he is especially close to my brothers, he misses my mum because she and my dad encouraged and nurtured him from the age of 14 teaching him things his own parents should have done with him but were too busy with his sister to care.

So now i know that he has given up caring for his family, im going to stop trying to accommodate them and my wedding will be going full steam ahead with drinks and joy, and my family will be there come hell or high water to make the day great for him

Some good news as petty as it may seem- my brother is an area manager engineer for that satellite tv provider and his bil is his trainee, so they work together and since my horrid sil and bil have just moved into a property, they placed an order for satellite. Ironically, it is my brother and his bil that has received the job due to the property type :D

My H2b's family live about an hour away from us and my family live about 4. H2bs family seem a bit put out we want to get married where we live and not where they live. It's only an hour away for them though! And my family would end up having to travel even further if we got married where they live!

Just sending hugs. I understand totally how you feel, my OH's uncle and family isn't coming to our reception because the meal time (2.30pm) is inconvenient for them but expect us to make them sandwiches when everyone else is having canapes to tide them over til they get home. Others are expecting me to provide tea of the toast cos they don't want an alcoholic or cold soft drink to toast with. It certainly seems like we're pleasing other people rather than what we would like too

You poor thing! A lot of my family are coming from Australia for my wedding. I am so lucky in that respect, they are planning to save for a big european holiday at the same time. I know though that some of the people who live in the UK that I want to come, won't, because the wedding is being held in Durham and thats too far for them! But I have decided that its our special day, and if they don't want to come, then I don't have to pay for them, and I'm OK with that!

aw i really think its selfish when family think it to far to travel but if thats how they feel then they really not worth it the day is for you and your partner joining together infront of all those that do care :) like my sil is getting married in cornwall and we live in scotland but we dont mind travelling at all because we wouldnt want to miss out on her special day and we know she would do the same for us. weird i have just realised my sil has actually posted on this post lol! x

that is a big plus! go buy yourself an expensive pair of wedding shoes or wedding accessories, take a picture then send them a thank you card for NOT coming as you wouldn't have been able to have them otherwise! Hm! That'll serve em right hehe xXx

:) gosh some people are soo fussy its unreal. I have had a few similar comments about our wedding. Our nearest family is over 100 miles away and my h2b is the same in the other direction so we opted to marry here so EVERYONE has to travel to us rather than one 1/2 of the family travelling 200 miles and the other half travelling none (didn't really seeem fair). we have had a few people say our wedding is too far away (2013), others moaned about travelling etc but thats up to them. the thing is I know they will make the effort in the end so why comment? I don't know :)

After reading this and other posts then all I can say is it's a big shame that your h2bs family are being soo difficult one way or the other, god knows what they are trying to prove with all their antics. Chin up though if you can

im a nice person really! but if people can be that petty, why not do it back ;-)

Like mariephiz said, consider it good news! Every cloud and all that!

My phrase is (and you can apply it to ANYTHING!) is something good ALWAYS comes out of something bad!
It never matters how bad it is either! I had something bad happen to me and got compensation for criminal injury...ended up getring a car, car insurance for a year, tax for a year, paying of a load of debts and treating myself to an xbox etc! Not wedding really but just saying, that phrase can be applied to anything at anytime :-) hope it helps!

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thats silly, mine and my ohs families are spread from cornwall to yorkshire, and they are all coming (at the moment anyway lol)