I'm thinking of totally calling it off! I've recently been laid off from work and now have absolutely no wage coming in! my h2b has just been landed with a £300 phone bill (due to a friend ringing him, saying he has no credit and then h2b ringing him back) we still have to pay the registrar £280, we owe the venue £450 and we've not even started on the mens suits yet! im at my wits end. i have a job interview on wednesday but its only for a cleaning agency so im still not guarenteed a wage! We knew it'd be tough when we started planning as we have very little money, but the reason we were rushing it is because h2bs grandparents are getting on a bit and he really wants them there, postponing it for another year may mean that they're not all there and i dont want my h2b to go through that (all my grandparents have passed and i know the gutting feeling of getting married without them there) I just dont know what to do. Everytime i think we'll be ok and just about manage it, a horrible feeling of panic hits me and I just feel like sacking it off. xx
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CommentAuthorkirstyless
Awww bless you!! Maybe try ringing the phone company and explaining about the loss of job you may be able to pay it off gradually?
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we've done that but his contract runs out in july so it has to be paid off by then! i just cant see a light at the end of this tunnel :'-(
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CommentAuthorHa_x3
Awww hun i know this feeling..just as things start to look up/get better something else goes wrong!! .. . Could you postpone for a few months rather than a year? I understand why you dont want to postpone it a year xxhugsxx
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if i postpone i know people will offer to help...and i know it sounds daft but everyone has helped us so much already i would feel bad. :-/ xxx
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Hmmm how about BORROWING some money off family? We were about to cancel our wedding about a month ago even though we were so close, anyway my H2Bs step dad offered to lend us £500 & it basically saved the day!!
The people who care about you will most likely want to help hun! If they offer please dont turn it down, accept & return it once you can afford too xx
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CommentAuthorXbox widow
I know how you feel cos this happened to me, you just have to cut down on stuff and prioritise. If you have to postpone for a few months its not the end of the world. Is there no family members that can help you out? good luck I hope you can sort something xx
CommentAuthorclive
I know how you feel in a way, as I myself have just been handed my notice of three weeks due to redundancy. All I can suggest is take it in your stride and there's no point in worrying about what can be fixed.
I really wouldn't borrow more cash is it will just compound the issue. Try and speak to your various suppliers, as most offer flexible payment plans (i.e. pay as little or as much of as you like, when you like). I see your'e getting wed in four months, which is a long way off when job hunting, so try to find something suitable and get earning, and pay off what you can as opposed to borrowing. Doing the latter will compound the issue, as I said;-)
Good luck! xx
CommentAuthorRachelM100
my mother in law to be was in the same posistion and she became really stressed and nearly cancelled but we as a family all rallied round and took on extra responsibities......did a lot of diy things and it turned out to be a fantastic day and everyone was amazed at what we had done.
im sure you have amazing family and friends who can help xx
CommentAuthorhigginszajac
Mens morning suits at mat a lan £55 or suits at the supermarket that starts and ends with a £29 my H2b got his there and its lovely xx
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thanks guys! im going to try to do what i can before making the big decision! it would gut me to postpone now so fingers crossed i may get some work through this agency after wednesday! i just keep having total meltdowns about it, not matter how much h2b tells me all is going to be ok! we've looked at the suits at that supermarket and are going to get some from there, even if its only a few weeks before. my moh has kindly offered to buy our cake,my sil2b has bought us some charms for wine glasses as favours and my big sis has ordered us a chocolate fountain for the evening do...just to cheer me up :-) hopefully something good will happen and everything will work out ok xxx
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Had our amazing twin boys 16/05/2008
Finally becoming Mrs Davies on 31/08/2012 will make me the
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CommentAuthorhigginszajac
Will keep my fingers crossed for you xx
CommentAuthorKath2010
Oh Ziggyboo this is totally pants timing for you but you seem like you are getting through it :-).
My advice would be to prioritise, if you have paid a deposit on something but the balance to pay is a lot might be worth thinking of dropping if that money will go further elsewhere.
Sounds like you have a fab family, keep smiling.xx
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thank u! we got a really cheap deal at the venue and it is close to h2bs grandparents so would struggle finding somewhere else as good nearby! im hoping we'll manage it! i just keep having meltdowns every now and again... thanks for ur support guys xxx
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Finally becoming Mrs Davies on 31/08/2012 will make me the
happiest lady alive :-)
CommentAuthorKATG
Ahh, keep your chinup hun. Go through your list of things to do and order them into 'essential' and 'would like' and go from there. Also we have asked close family and friends for contributions to the wedding before hand instead of gifts. That has been received really well and we have already received donations into a paypal account which is helping us. You sound like you have a lovely family hunni, I hope it all works out x
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i did think that but we are going to try doing it without as we're hoping to take our twins to disneyland paris for a familymoon next year,using whatever money we receive as gifts so going to hold off asking for pre-gifts for as long as possible! i have made a list and really the only things we need is to pay the venue off-£450, the registrar-£280 and the mens suits (which i think are going to have to wait til last minute in august.) thanks for your support guys. my h2b telling me all will be ok just doesnt do the trick lol! need female help lol xxx
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Had our amazing twin boys 16/05/2008
Finally becoming Mrs Davies on 31/08/2012 will make me the
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and i need my bm dresses taken up (although they are raw cut so hopefully wont be too expensive) and my flowergirl dresses need taking in slightly. unfortunately i dont know a seamstress who i could get to do it for cheap :( xx
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well, we've decided to go ahead with it all :-) my dad has said that anything we need he will pay for :-) we are going to try to do it ourselves of course but if we're struggling with the last bits I will be able to get some help so it can defo go ahead :-) woohoo! 3 months to go :-) xxx
met the man of my dreams 22/09/2006,
Had our amazing twin boys 16/05/2008
Finally becoming Mrs Davies on 31/08/2012 will make me the
happiest lady alive :-)
CommentAuthorMrs brown - 19/08/12
Aww thats great news :) This was the first time i have read the post, Thats lovely of your dad to help you out, We had to ask my dad for abit of help it wasnt great but glad we asked inthe end x
CommentAuthorkrissy905
you sound like you have a good family and friends its nice that they can help out if need be so glad you didn't cancel x
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i really didnt want to ask as my parents do alot for us already but we were just talking about it the other day and he offered :-) so relieved. hopefully we wont have to ask for much but every little helps :-) xxx
met the man of my dreams 22/09/2006,
Had our amazing twin boys 16/05/2008
Finally becoming Mrs Davies on 31/08/2012 will make me the
happiest lady alive :-)
CommentAuthorBobsi
thats really good news. first time ive seen this post, its good you dont have to cancel.xx
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CommentAuthorSammi_with_camera
Thats great news, bless your Dad, your Sister for the fountain, your SIL2B for the wine charms and your MOH for the cake! Where would we be without family and friends :-) Mat*lan do good suits for cheap prices too if it helps. yay 3 months :-) xx
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i love my family and friends! shows who really cares when times are tough :-) Thanks hun, we've decided to hire suits and each are paying for their own so we're getting those sorted soon xxx
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Had our amazing twin boys 16/05/2008
Finally becoming Mrs Davies on 31/08/2012 will make me the
happiest lady alive :-)
CommentAuthorInDreamland
Ziggyboo, that is so lovely to hear that you've managed to get some help and that it's now going well xx
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CommentAuthorfiona
Sounds like you have lovely people around you! Glad it back on track. x
