Originally, our wedding date was going to be September 2013. Then, we found out my brother and his partner had decided they wanted to get married after 10 yrs and 2 kids together - and they chose August 2013! So there would be 4 weeks between the weddings with them going first. This would be a huge financial strain on my family but I wasnt bothered. I love my idiot bro and want him to be happy.
Then I found out they asked my only female cousin (small family) to be their bridesmaid. This girl has been asking me since she was 5 years old when I would be getting married so she could be MY bridesmaid. Ive always promised her and was looking forward to fussing over her and seeing her excitement at being a first time bridesmaid - at MY wedding. Then my bro's missus was going to take that and all the shine from me?!
Not bloody likely. So we set our wedding for 6th July 2013 BEFORE theirs and we booked the hell outta everything where they hadnt. So ours is set.
Flashforward to last month and due to paperwork issues, they are postponing... Im having the same paperwork issues but we are still going ahead!! Wee b*st*rd! I could kick him up the bum! (Born in Canada, lived Scotland for 24 years with British mother but no citizen papers)
That was one issue - the point of this rant is my hubby to be and his stubborn Irish streak!
We had 2 miscarriages mid to end of last year. We had been trying again earlier this year but then gave up and tried to focus on the wedding. Had I gotten pupped before April, it would have been great. Time to have the baby and slim down for the big day! (im a major fatty right now).
So no baking babies from April onwards was the plan...
But now im possibly up the ole duff. This is potentially amazing but on the wedding side, a disaster. I have 4-5 stone to lose and on a VLCD this will take me 5 months. There simply isnt enough time to pop out a baby and diet into a decent looking bride.
I put it to h2b that since my bro isnt getting married afterall, if I am preggers, could we not try and move our date to September again? We have paid deposits for the venue, caterer and photographer. I dont see why we couldnt just ask but he is refusing! Its fine for him, he can starve down to a healthy size but if im pupped, I cant and will be a squishy bride!
I feel bad for worrying about losing the flub when I could be expecting but *insert whine* i dont wanna be a fatty on my big day!
Oh, that feels good. Just getting it all oot!
xxx
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CommentAuthorShirleygirly
Stop stressing, with your obstetric history you don't want to get yourself in a tizz. There is nothing to say that even if you are expecting you can't slim down slightly, eating for two is a myth and can contribute to gestational diabetes. Eat healthily and do moderate exercise, Davina McAll does a brilliant exercise DVD for pregnant ladies. I don't mean to be rude here and you can give me an electronic slap but when you say you need to lose 4-5 stone anyway and you have had 2 recent miscarriages I had a lightbulb ding in my head. See I work on a maternity unit (not a midwife, but one day hopefully), a friend of mine was experiencing recurrent miscarriages and she was a few stone overweight. They don't start investigating until you've had 3 in a row so after her third she begged me to find some way to prevent another. I spoke to a midwife who suggested that because of her size she may have thickened blood in her womb which is not good for the embryo to move. She suggested 75mg of aspirin to thin the blood daily until 33 weeks, she said if its not a case of thickened blood the aspirin will do nothing to hurt you but it could be the answer to her problems. I told my frien who started the aspirin immediately on her 4th pregnancy and her gorgeous little boy is 3 now.
I know that wasn't what you asked but thought if it could save you the pain of another loss then I'd be happy.
If you're pregnant now and have an EDD of April next year, you could technically slim down by July. They say breast feeding doubles calories burnt and I have seen proof of that on several midwife friends who have done it, hard work though. Also remember you will have the stress of the final stages of wedding planning combined with a newborn. Start eating healthy now with moderate exercise now, then join a slimming club once delivered. You can do it. Don't see it as a problem, see it as a challenge. X
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CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
you say you are possibly pregnant ....... make sure before you start stressing !!!
Agree, definitely make sure before you start worrying!
If you are could you ask your dr to let you go to a slimming world group? There is a plan for during pregnancy - I didn't do it but wish I had! Haha! it's not about losing weight, but eating healthily and stops you going ott.
E weight can come off pretty quickly after baby. 6 months on ( I didn't start losing straight away) and I've lost 28lb since I've been trying to, 8lb of that in the last two weeks :-) xxx
I've also heard breast feeding makes you burn more calories and helps you slim down. The ladies on here are right hun. Don't stress xxx
Married the love of my life on Saturday 11th May 2013 xxx
Had our dream perfect honeymoon in Hawaii!
CommentAuthorOfficially Mrs Nicol
Dont stress, find out 4 sure before u panic.. :) breast feeding does help... i'm a pudgy bride to but when u find "the" dress u dont even think of that becuz of how good u feel in it..
CommentAuthorJill
Congrats if you are hun! I'd say just eat healthily - I cut all the rubbish out while pregnant and lost 35lbs... and still had a 9lb 14 baby! You can do it x
