Wedding Forum - Stressed!...

Hi I would just really like some advice. I will be honest I never wanted to get married and I've never had visions of how I wanted my wedding however all that changed when I met my current partner and he proposed on Christmas Day 2012 we have set to get married next summer. The problem I have is I don't feel excited I said I wanted a small wedding and I would of loved abroad but his parents cant afford it so where having it in the UK. I'm quite shy and am dreading walking down the aisle with all the people looking at me and I'm dreading going wedding dress shopping. I know I want to marry him but I don't like the thought of a big wedding and having to chose who to go etc. so what we decided was to have a church wedding late afternoon and then go straight into one big party and not have a formal sit down meal I feel this way I will feel more comfortable and all the family can go but now I feel like people might think my wedding is cheap or rubbish. Does anyone think this is a good idea?

Hey hun! Congrats on ur engagement first of!
Please dont get stressed out or worry over this.
I like the idea of the church wedding and then into a big party - quite a lot of people do this and its not seen as cheap or rubbish.
It gives u a ly in the morning. more time to get ready to get there.
If u dont want to walk down the aisle then maybe just walk in with ur h2b? or you could always be at the front already? Its not really a requirement. I have stairs to walk down as my aisle and I am petrified!!!
At the end of the day its yours and h2bs day - u do it the way u want. Who cares what people think ! xx

My bro and SiL are having their wedding at 4pm and then just going into a big party too.. There's nothing wrong with that at all, it's going to save you sooooo much money, and most people would actually probably prefer just a party afterwards if they were truly, truly honest lol.. IMO the wedding breakfast doesn't make a wedding, it's the ceremony and the people that come.. Don't worry about any of it.. It's your day and you do what YOU want..
And congratulations :-) xxx

There's nothing wrong with a small intimate wedding even if it is in the UK. Just because it's in the UK doesn't mean you have to have a big do. There are a lot of venues that offer intimate weddings. You could also get married midday during the week which would preclude a lot of people attending and then have a celebration later.
If you want to have a big do and a smaller ceremony a late afternoon wedding with a buffet or hog roast would allow you to skip the meal but still feed your guests.

I agree with Clive also, I recently bought 2 black maxi dresses off the bay. They come in loads of different colours inc white, they are floor length, strapless, & at only £5.49 each! BRAND NEW!!!

my BM's said they are comfortable and so I bought one as a summer dress for myself, & I have to agree they are Bloomin comfy!!

My H2B does not like attension either, he doesnt want a sit down meal because its too formal, so we are having a buffet (30 ppl = £358.50), We will have this as a seated meal but its just much less formal. We are also discussing using an ipod with venues sound system if they have one. using the local masonic hall for the party/meal (£160 for entire building for the entire day & 2 bar tenders). using a college photographer (£50 est).

Weddings are do-able for much less than people think. My aisle song is only 30 seconds long so i aim to be down the aisle bloomin quick! I will be sending my boys & BM's down first & am looking for a song for that (thinking of seeing if i can find a clip that states "mum & dad are getting married" if i can find one)