H2b wants to let his friends bring male friends instead of girlfriends. He has already broached the subject once and I have clearly said no but he's now bought it up again and refuses to tell his friends that they can't. I think that they think that it's just an excuse for a big piss up, well if he won't tell them, I will!! C x
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Id stick to your guns, unless you know the friend yourself! its not a free for all. i have only said h2bs friend + 1 if i know they have a girlfriend! you dont want any trouble on your big day....or having to mingle with people who you didnt specifically invite xx
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CommentAuthorUnknown
i cant understand why they would want to bring a friend instead of their girlfriends. thats a bit odd.
do you and your h2b know they male friends they want to bring? i would explain to your h2b why it is wrong that the girlfriends would be left out.
on the invite can you not put the girlfriends names? x
CommentAuthorclare0481
Well some don't have girlfriends but I presumed they would bring a lady friend or come alone, as I feel that I couldn't just put their name on the invite. H2b has said that he's having nothing to do with it. Why can't he see that it would be inappropriate?...grrr!! C x
CommentAuthorUnknown
i can see both sides of the situation to be honest.
As long they were behaved at the wedding would it matter to much if they brought a male friend to keep your h2b happy? xx
Hmmm i'd it's a hard one if you've put +1, you don't really have control over who their plus one is. For those who are couples I'm putting both their names on, if they choose not to bring the other named person we won't be catering for anyone else in their place. For those that we know are single, they'll be told there's other singles being invited so they will not get a +1 to the day. Really don't mind for the night time but I'm keeping a tighter control of the day.
CommentAuthorCupCake
Men don't like conflict at all so your OH is probably too scared to say anything to his mates incase they say he's under the thumb lol If you have put +1 that means you have left it open for them to bring who they want, if you haven't and they just want to tag along for a booze up, thats not on. x
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CommentAuthorclare0481
I've never been to a wedding where a man brings his mate, it's just not the done thing and to be honest I can't even believe they suggested it! After all, it's our special day, not theirs! C x
CommentAuthorCupCake
you need to get your H2B to talk to them then and maybe just invite them to the evening reception, if you're getting married in 3 months haven't you sorted food and stuff out yet? you could always say you can't afford however much per head it is for the extra people ?
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CommentAuthorclare0481
No, we don't finalise anything till 4 weeks before. C x
CommentAuthorMrsSaraParry!
personally I wouldnt let that happen, no way - but then your h2bs friends may be different to mine! most of our friends have partners that we know, so thats fine but the few single friends we're inviting (all male) have had an invitation just for them, no +1. There's two reasons for this, the first being that I don't want randomn people I don't know at my wedding, and the second being that they all know some of the others that are going so they don't need to bring anyone - besides that all 4 of them are going on the stag so will know each other too! If you really don't want them to do it, then I would put your foot down. I don't agree with the whole 'my day, my way' nonsense as its your h2bs day too, but if you feel strongly about it then I'm sure your h2b will understand xxxx
CommentAuthorMrs brown - 19/08/12
I agree with Terri Barker here! H2b has friends who dont have gf's and never have thought any diffrent about his friend choosing one of his friends, Then he wont be bored and he may feel abit better knowing someone else (But its only like that for the reception) At the end of the day it is H2bs day too not just the bride!
CommentAuthorclare0481
Its a formal occasion not a night out on the town and if I have all of his mates there, that's what it will turn into!! It's not about keeping h2b happy, he's not interested either way! He just won't tell his mates no! Never has been able to...don't think he ever will. C x
