Hi all im getting married on 14th May and i just need to rant lol! Its all so stressful right now i really wish i had left it another year theres so much to do i have got my venue booked and deposit paid, florist deposit,photographer deposit,cake deposit, got my dress and the bridesmaids sorted and the mens suits too, dj booked. We are waiting for more money from our family and since its xmas and we are skint too it just feels like its all ground to a halt!
Whats left to do~*
1) Buy rings 2) Marriage applications need sent off 3)Book honeymoon (not sure if we can afford this tbh) 4) Buy invites 5) Favors 6) Book consultation with pianst 7)Buy place cards 8) Get dress altered 9) Decide on what to do with my hair 10) Plan a hen do 11) Finalize guest list 12) Buy gifts for each other and the parents 13) PAY OFF REST OF VENUE AND EVERYONE ONE ELSE!!
Am i being realistic can this all be done by may 2013???? 4 months omg freaking out lol
HELP!!!!
Emma x
CommentAuthorOfficially Mrs M
right calm down!
have you got any bridesmaids? if so let them sort the hen do
Place Cards, Invites and Favours can be bought all at the same time Get your guest list done and write the invites at the same time Send the marriage application off Get the rings done in the sales after xmas Leave the honeymoon for now just book a nice hotel your dress get it booked in to a seamstress in the new year but ring and make the appointment now your hair, go for a consulation at a hairdressers and they will do a few test runs so you can get an idea Get your parents gifts done, i got a personalised hankie, flowers and trinket box for my mum and cufflinks and a personalised glass for my dad, done! Gifts for each other just get a card with some meaningful words in if you getting stressed about it
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CommentAuthorEmmaM45
Hi thanks for the reply i just need someone to talk to that has been through this lol so this can all be done then you reckon lol i like your idea for the presents for the parents!! Its all so overwhelming and one of my bridesmaids is in Newcastle so what do i do about hair trials for her she has to fly back to N.Ireland for this or just get her sorted on the day?? The other i hardly see these days so its all a bit hectic!!! wish we just went to registry office then out for dinner now lol :( I also have 2 dresses one needed altered and i dunno if i like it anymore and the other has been ordered off ebay to be custom made and will be here in Jan/Feb time. My fiance just tells me to wait till we get the rest of the money and see what we can afford after that but its the waiting around i cant do feel like i should be doing something lol with no money atm its hard i hate xmas lol!!!!
CommentAuthorAmyK
don't worry about the bridesmaids hair - the hairdresser will be able to sort it on the day - its yours that matters the most!! I was BM and just took a pic on the day of what I'd like, and hairdresser did it there & then.
If you feel you need to do something then keep looking for what you want, keep an eye on it & see what happens in the sales. Do your research now to save yourself from impulse buys and spending more than you wanted. Research now & you'll know if its a true bargain when you can afford to get it.
You can always leave the honeymoon til later if needs be.
Ask you BM to keep an eye on voucher websites for a bargain hen do (if they're stuck on present ideas what to get you - they could pay for this for you??)
your list may seem overwhelming, but plan for the next couple of weeks what you're going to achieve each day, then tick it off.
don't forget, you've already accomplished so much!! :-)
CommentAuthorMrs-Mouse-2-be
I just went through your list and I thought it might help if you categorise it into sections, needed soon and can wait a bit.
For example if I was you I would have it as follows-
Needed soon-
1) Send off marriage application 2) Finalise guestlist 3) Ater dress 4) Buy rings 5) Consult with pianist 6) Buy invitations and send them out (you could also order placement cards at the same time with the same company?) 7) Sort Favors 8) Decide on hair
I would try to save as much or clear as much money off your venue price in the meantime.
I put decide on hair towards the end of this list as it gives you enough time to think about what styles you like. But you could change the order of importance to suit yourself.
Can wait a bit- 1) buy gifts for each other and parents 2) book honeymoon.
You say you don't know if you will go on honeymoon or not and as you are struggling with money personally I would forget about honeymoons until after the wedding. We aren't going on honeymoon, we are just going away for a few days (probably 3 or 4) and probably just to my parents holiday home in the Republic of Ireland. What I'm saying is if you don't have honeymoon money now, just put thoughts of honeymoons away for a while then at the very end when all the important wedding stuff is sorted make a decision on whether you can afford to go somewhere or not. If you decide you can't then you could always go on honeymoon later in the year x
Me I have two lists, they were called needed and not needed. I surprised myself by the sheer amount of entries on the not needed list and I've chopped about 90% of my stress level off :-)
By the way I must add that instead of receiving gifts im asking guests for money only, this way we can perhaps pay a few bills after the wedding or book a last minute deal honeymoon if we choose to, so you could always do that if you want x
CommentAuthorEmmaM45
Hey thanks for the replies i really need to chill could be worse thanks for all the ideas and thanks Amy for the idea about the bridesmaid hair and ur right i accomplished loads already like i went and organised a lot of stuff as soon as we booked the venue its just mainly small things i need to get done when i look at it. I'll- Be -36 your list has made me see whats important to get done so thanks you so much for that right now my heads all over the place thinking of everything that needs to be done lol I was on you tube looking at ways to make chocolate lolly pops for my favors and how to decorate them think i'm just thinking a bit too much into it all lol You guys have really helped me more than my maid of honor lol thanks :D xx
CommentAuthorMrs-Mouse-2-be
How many dinner guests have you got? I would suggest just buying Favors instead of making them in case you have loads of them to do. Handmade stuff is lovely dont get me wrong but I think if I was trying to reduce stress levels I would buy instead of make but that's just me. One more thing, its not vital that you buy each other gifts is it? I know it is lovely but I am leaving that out myself and purely because of budget. We can buy each other a gift some other time, perhaps while on holiday or something :-)
CommentAuthorAmyK
if favours are stressing you out, have you considered buying a big box of chocs from the company of tes, they're doing half price HUGE boxes of ton of thorns at the mo' - you could just put these in little bags and job done?
I'm just melting choc into moulds and putting them in little boxes, as I know my guests will just want something sweet (and to help absorb alcohol!).
I like I'll-be-36's ideas of essentials lists :-)
CommentAuthorEmmaM45
I only have like 30 dinner guests lol so I think I'm going to buy the chocolate like u said I'll -be -36 less stress and all that! I will check out that company half price sounds good to me!
CommentAuthor*KelBel*
Sit down, write down how much you owe and divide it by number of weeks til it needs to be paid off = the amount needed to save per week.... Then list everything else in importance order and try and concentrate on maybe getting one a week done... Get the bridesmaids involved, they are there for support,delegate some jobs xx
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CommentAuthorMrs-Mouse-2-be
^ good posts girls :-) and everybody loves T*s chocolate :-) well except diabetics or anyone with a specific allergy :-)
I still say consider forgetting about getting each other a gift until after the day. In place of a gift to each other you could simply buy each other a card and write something special and give each other that instead. Oh and another thing, most weddings I've been to the mothers of the bride and groom have been given flowers, and usually the bride gives the groom's mum hers and the groom gives the brides mum hers but you don't have to do it that way. I don't think I've ever seen brides and grooms dads getting anything, but yeah it might seem odd if they get left out I dunno? I've just never thought it odd.
CommentAuthorCatrinaP
for my favours i bought nice little pails of the bay got sample shampoo and conditioner for the laddies passion fruit little jams for the men just under 20p each from the supermarket and put a mint in with them iv also got little bubbles from the £shop 6 in a pkt and printed of little thankyou poems which im going to tie with ribbon and put chocolates on a plate next to the guest book cost me around £15 for 36 guests x
CommentAuthorNEDebz
Good ideas from the ladies (as always) for something different as a gift for your H2B, why not just buy 12 postcards, one for each month of the following year, then write a date idea on each. Basically saying in May we'll go to pics, june meal to your fav restaurant, july picnic, etc etc then tie a nice ribbon around them. That way you're getting him a gift that will last all year and you can pay for it in installments after the wedding
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CommentAuthorKirstyJ22
I have pretty much planned our whole wedding and put deposits down on everything in 4 months so you can definitely do it :) x x
