OMG the engagement party is stressing me out and it's only the beginning. It has taken me a year to get my finger out to sort the engagement party sorted. Mainly because we had a sudden death within the family but also because I'm very sensitive person and family and friends mean a lot to me. And I know people would drive me up the wall because they couldn't be bothered to come. My nan is ignoring my calls and texts because she is babysitting for my uncle as usual and my uncle wife saying they aren't allowed a late night! So I feel like saying why don't u look after ur own kids for once rather going away on hols n leaving others to look after them!! So my nan knows I'll say something about it! Just makes me so angry that my unce wife is using her kids to try n stop my nan attending my party! God knows how I'm guna cope with the wedding when this is hurtful enough. Prt of me thinks if they can't make effort for this then they won't be inviting family or not. I know I need to tell myself to not take it personally and try n not get upset about it but its important for me.. What did you guys do about people who didn't attend ur engagement party did u still invite them to wedding. Obviously if their on hols or already have plans that's different but people who cba to come x

My nan wouldn't say boo to her as she's worrie she'll refuse her to see the kids if she doesn't do EVERYTHING she wants!! And my uncle n his wifezilla have already gone away with 1 of the kids and left the other two with my nan. They re about 7 and 9 it s because they have racing next day ( do banger racing coz my nan did it and my uncle wife thinks its. A good way to twist my nan around her finger even more) so she was like they can't have a late night. But my opinion is if its that important u wouldn't go away on holiday n leave them in someone else's care when u know they are going to an event that night. But basically my uncle and his wife hasn't looked after all 3 of their kids at the same time for longer than a week!! It just makes me angry that my nan let her walk all over her and I said if she chooses her over me ( doesn't attend) then we will fall out BIG time, as I am at breaking point with her now. Family are so stressful!!

I've told my mum she needs to tell her if she doesn't turn up she's not going to get a wedding Invite. I know it sounds harsh but I refuse to pay out money on people who don't love and care about me enough to enjoy this celebration with me. Appernetly she's said she's going to come for abit but I just feel I'm suffering because my uncle wife is playing games!

Could you not start your party early eve maybe so that way you could invite the children and they wouldn't have to have a late night because the party doesn't start late? Or is that not possible with where you are having your party?