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    • almost a year wife!!
      CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
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    im absolutely sick to death of people sticking their oar in and telling me their opinions and questioning EVERYTHING I do or say.... im at the point now where I just want to be married and have it all done with now.... its just over people seriously p!$$!ng me off now and ive had enough. im so stressed, so tired, work is really tough at the minute and im on verge of telling everyone to foff

    anyone else feeling pressured?
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    • MrsH-2B
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    Awww Missweedles :-( hugs !!

    I can't say I feel that way cause no one is doing that to me but I hope you can see past the morons and always know you have a place to rant :-) xxx

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    • almost a year wife!!
      CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
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    thanks hun I appreciate that! im just finding myself being short with everyone wherever I go and I just cant help it :( I even snapped at h2b before :(

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    • CatherineR
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    Awww hugs darling!! I feel for you!! Feeling the same tbh, family is being a nightmare :( on Sunday night we seriously considered booking our wedding for 29th March 2014 (when same-sex marriages can be performed), have a simple ceremony then have the blessing and party in 2 years planned but we'd never hear the end of it if we did :( xx lots of love xx

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    • almost a year wife!!
      CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
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    its pants isn't it?! :(

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    • CatherineR
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    YES!!!! It sucks donkey balls :(

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    • almost a year wife!!
      CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
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    yep real big ones!

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    • Linzi-jo
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    Yes yes yes yes yes! I had a major rant to one if my bridesmaids about the exact same thing tonight! Just wish everyone would leave me alone and keep their opinions to themselves! So I totally know where you are coming from! Xxx

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    • DonnaH39
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    I'm feeling the same.... and we have 17 months to go :( dread to think what we'll be like when we only have two months to go




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    • AllishiaW
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    Hugs to you!! I feel like hitting my head on a brick wall sometimes!! But I think it's mine and Paul's day,we will do what WE want to do!! And if they don't like it-they can bugger off!! X
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    • Ana40
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    I hope this feeling passes Hun and you can enjoy it from now on. X

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    • Susie
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    Yes doll, you are not alone in this! It is opinions from one of my bridesmaids which has been the source of stress. Ive actually had to limit her to one PPPPPiNNNNN a week because she was ruining my fun on that picture site looking through wedding items. She was sending me them several times a day, then contacting me on the book to say have you seen it, I want my nails like this, I want my hair like this. Amongst a lot of other things.
    I have my Gran saying she doesn't think she wants to come, because its far from her home (it isnt, it takes an hour and a half tops - and she was willing to get me to drive her for 4 hours to get her dog from the breeders last year), then I said, well you dont have to come and stay over, you could leave at 9am, be here for the ceremony and photos and then someone will drive you home in time for tea and the soaps. I then got asked "Oh, so you aren't going to feed me?"
    To which point I said Nope. If you are coming to the whole day, then you have to come to the whole thing because there will be a seat for you on the table next to ours. If you have said you are only coming to the morning, it means there will not be a space for you on a table. It is a small village hall, and we have to account for every person there, but I don't want a blooming empty chair when there are local people who want to come and celebrate with us. I am just fed up with the apathy. Ive invited my Aunt and her boyf, and their son (my cousin who is 25), my Gran, my sister and her kids, and my parents, and so far, only my parents are actually making any effort to come. If I hadn't invited them, all holy heck would have broken loose because I would have been being "rude". So instead, no RSVPs from the rest of my family, no enthusiasm, nothing. All of Dave's family are FIGHTING for places at the wedding, and have all booked their accommodations (accommodation list was given out in November - our wedding is in June).
    So nope doll, you arent the only one wanting to just have it over and done with lol. I really wish that we had just run off and done it! xx
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    • ElizabethF49
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    Oh I dread this happening to me, I am too honest for my own good and say it how it is. My mil pulled us up for not inviting someone to our engagement party AFTER we had the party I just said If she felt they should have been invited she should have said before the party not after and anyway her son is a nightmare getting him to do anything is ridiculous, she then said I'll tell you who to invite to the wedding then shall I? Eh no we have our list and it's not going over it just because she says so.

    My H2b laughs at me because he knows what I say goes and there is no hope in hells chance of anyone changing my mind. Unless I think it's a better idea than ours lol.

    I don't think I'll get stressed out but there may be less people at the wedding than planned if people don't like it they can lump it.

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    • AlisonM36
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    Hi Susie
    I know exactly how you feel! I originally wanted to go abroad and get wed, just me and my H2B but he changed my mind because he knew the upset it would cause to our families.
    I am looking forward to the wedding but sometimes I just feel so arghh!!! People like to stick their noses in.
    I have been made to feel bad by his family as I'm not having his nieces as bridesmaids but I have already got 5 and that doesnt even include all my sisters (I have 3) and my own nieces. Surely it's my decision who I want to have as bridesmaids and the ceremony room is quite small anyway so would look rediculous having a troop of bridemaids!!
    Also we are being moaned at as they feel they aren't being included in the wedding and my family is....which is completely untrue by the way. I am trying my best to include everyone so have asked his nieces to do readings at the ceremony including one of my sisters and my other sister is going to do our makeup.
    My family have been quite good about it all apart from at the beginning when I had to explain to my mum that we just cannot have all my extended family at the ceremony/reception as 1. the place only holds a maximum number of 40 guests so we and the OH have split the number evenly between our families so it is fair and 2. to be honest I don't want all and sundry there especially as some of them you only see at weddings and funerals.
    At the end of the day you just have to remember that it is YOUR day so do what you think is best and right for you!
    Sorry for the rant...it feels good to get it off my chest though :)
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    • AmyH608
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    No you are by no means alone hun :( i feel exactly the same!!! Im constantly down at the moment and am always crying lol!! Mostly due to the wedding stress but have got the added pressure of 2 grandparents being quite poorly!! Plus my uncle died before xmas which has caused some issues with his wife!!

    I like you just want to tell everyone to foff and cancel everything and go abroad and do it!!!

    What i keep telling myself is that nothing else (wedding related) matters except me and H2B being married and spending the rest of our lives together!

    Chin up :) we will get through this and enjoy it!! xx
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    • CarineR
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    I know the feeling, Hun. If I hadn't already paid 1500£ in deposits for our venue, I would just ask my fiancé to elope with me and be done with it. My family doesn't show any kind of interest in my wedding, every time I mention the wedding my mum just moans about me not having anything else to talk about (which is definitely not the case), to the point where I have decided that my mum won't get any details of the preparations anymore. Her reaction to seeing me in my dress was about 5min of starring at it very critically, before finally muttering "Nice dress" without any show of emotion whatsoever. Half my family is not going to show up and my mum is also bemoaning the fact that we will "only" have a 3 course meal.

    I'm so grateful that my OH is very understanding and always there for me.
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    • Coral
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    Yup its amazing how many people moan about your wedding
    I find my self telling other half and dad "if that's what you want you pay for it" they don't like the way I've done something or the food or the favours are rubbish my mums been great really helped keep me calm think she's stressing for me now
    Just wish I could of known about all the stupid things that were going to cause issues never though my granny getting married again would happen never mind the possibility of it being the day before my wedding
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    • DawnK21
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    I went through this phase about from about 4 months to go till about last week when I had my hen night. With a week to go I'm finally looking forward to it and not panicking and wishing for more time.

    It's a huge event to organise. I've never organised anything like this..... EVER. We are all amazing organising people. We should cut ourselves some slack, this is hard stuff.

    I prescribe a hot bath and some chill out time!
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    • DawnK21
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    Also I should take my own advice. It's 2am and I'm up reading UK bride? Hmmm perhaps not as relaxed as I thought? Haha
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    • Ch4lky
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    Yep yep yep! Every thing is being criticised by fmil, I love her to death I really do and I understand she doesn't believe in marriage but we do so just let us get on with it! H2Bs niece was asked to be a bm, everyone agreed that the dresses I picked are gorgeous but all of a sudden fmil doesn't think they're suitable for a 15 year old. If H2Bs niece doesn't want to be a bridesmaid cos she's acting like a diva n not getting what she wants then I'm really not bothered in the slightest... To be honest I only asked her out of politeness! Fmil phoned H2B and moaned about it all n said she doesn't know why we're bothering to get married anyway... That was a nice touch lol oh well, families eh!?

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    • Chelseyfj
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    My mil2b is the same! She is happy about the wedding but nothing that's goes with it! She said she doesn't want to buy an outfit! I have had to buy father in law 2 best outfit! An outfit for my fiancés gran!

    Then I sorted out all the mens wear and guess what. She doesn't like red, she doesn't like tailcoats and she doesn't like top hats! Well tough because that's what we have got.

    We went to a wedding fair! Couldn't stop for a drink as she was too busy needed to go back home,s he liked some necklaces which were nice but insisted I should buy one, and my mum said oh she is borrowing my grandmothers neckalace is something old and borrowed so that will be special"....... That's wasn't any good either.
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    • LauraK7
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    Not yet lol but I would just say I don't agree and carry on with what I was doing and my family know that ha ha
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    • KatieC5
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    I feel for you but I honestly wish I was arguing with somebody about something, at least that means they give some sort of a s**t! Instead I have nobody who could care less about the wedding including: my mum (just like CarineR said she makes out I have nothing else to talk about and just cba hearing about it); my dad who fell out with me the other day because he thinks centrepieces are an *unnecessary expense he did not see coming*; my OH who just goes *yeah cool* when I show him something I am so excited about; his entire family who don't remotely even ask about how I am doing let alone the wedding plans, why would they when his pathetic sister and her junkie EX (not even current) boyfriend could be discussed at length?! And not forgetting my BMs who are all far too self involved in various ways to even agree to a day to meet for lunch to chat about stuff for 3 BLOOMING MONTHS! It sucks to feel pulled by everyone *hugs* but this sucks too.....would just as much love to elope! xxxx
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    • StephHsoon2bBodkin
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    I dont have this issue.. Noone but me and the OH have a say. I ignore people and if they get too much in my face i'm very direct.. My BM are awesome, Inlaws and parents are cool.. Noone sticks their beak in... Best thing is to just say thanks for the input and smile and politely explain that its not to your taste xx

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    • Nicky2988
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    Sorry you're stressed hun, not long to go. I'd like it over aswel. X
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    • FernP61
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    yep a month before i was exactly the same xx
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    • CommentAuthorFranM76
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    Im trying not to stress - we're having a very relaxed, informal day, the one thing we agreed wouldn't change no matter what. But you do get fed up of people sticking their oar in saying you need to do this and you need to do that!!! Why do we NEED to!?!? It's our day, we'll do it how we want to do it (thanks for your input and all that jazz)!
    I dread to think of the outcome when we send invites!!! We can only have 34 to the ceremony and I know there'll be a few disgruntled people! But tough sh!t!!!! I refuse to feel guilty for not inviting people who I don't see from one month to the next!

    xx
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    • JadeH41
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    yep i just want it all over wiv now. sick of the whole thing! weddings arent about you its about every1 else. chin up hun big hugs to you xx
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