Forum Poll Hi

Having yet again huge problems that are making wedding planning horrible, upsetting and im not enjoying it as one person is causing trouble within close family.

Had a few 'rants about this already but im getting so down about it now.

Lots of people for various reasons on here say its your day stuff them all etc but how far would you take this? At the risk of people not coming to wedding would you change things to suit them even though your really dont want to and know it will spoil day for yourself and OH?

I voted no hun its your day so why change it to please others? If people dont come because you wont change it then they were never worthy of an invite and justthink what you may save by them not attending. As MrsH said I would only change it if it was due to an illness of a family member that may be terminal x

No way. My wedding day is for me and my H2B, not others. If a close family member was unwell or there was a family crisis then that could affect the wedding date, but that's the most extreme circumstance. If a few people couldn't come because of work, holiday or any other arrangement that could have been avoided (invites were sent at a reasonable time) then I'd tell them to stuff it. Both families have never voiced a concern about our wedding date, it's at a nice time of year where the weather is still lovely and the kids aren't quite back at school yet.

I voted no, it would depend what the changes were, but as the others have said you can organise your day and then its up to others if they attend or not. X

Its ur day so do it how u want it xxx

Tbh, I think it depends what it is... Simply because I can't totally honestly vote "no", as it would be terribly hypocritical of me.
There are several elements of our wedding I feel like we've had to compromise on, for a number of reasons.
I'm trying to make things as easy as possible for family who have to travel to the wedding, for example, so we're laying on evening food for the night before the wedding (it starts too early for folk to travel that morning & they're forking out for two nights accommodation).
We're inviting far more than we ever intended to, otherwise there'll be no end of moaning from his mums family - but they'd be moaning at her, so we're inviting them all to save her the grief. As a result, we're not having a beautiful restaurant wedding breakfast, but something plain and less expensive.
I do know that whatever we do it won't please everyone, but we're making as much effort as we possibly can to make it as enjoyable as possible for the majority, but still make it a day that we're happy with that'll give us happy memories x

Absolutely no way! If its what you want, why should you change? Its a shame that you're even feeling like you need to change and compromise. I genuinely think you need to put your foot down and your guests shod be happy for you instead of making you feel like this.

As others No. This is one day. one day for you and your h2b. for YOU. not for anyone else. One day to have what YOU want, to celebrate YOU and enjoy it how YOU want.
This one day you are allowed to make decisions based on your own opinions and choices and not for the sake of anyone else. x

No defo not, you will never ever please everyone and someone will always find something to moan about.... It's your day it doesn't matter who else is there as long as the main 2 people are there xxx

I think everyones on the same wave length with this one I wouldn't change anything unless it meant the most important people couldn't be there but I know that those people would never ask me to change anything anyway x