Me and my other half set our date a good while ago and since then everybody in my family who is in a relationship is engaged and booked dates so close to ours its really getting on my nerves. First of all is cousins on my dads side and then my uncle on my mum's side and my other cousin are 'talking' about it. Every time we talk about it I feel as if they are stealing my ideas so by the time my wedding comes round it will be a 'seen that done that' kind of thing and to make it worst my OH sister wants to do the same. Is there a drug in the air where they become so inconsiderate?!? I don't go ruin their day by taking everything they've thought of!! I DONT WANT TO SHARE MY WEDDING DAY!! Fed up of this!
Is anyone in the same situation? Am I being just insane bridezilla? And what can I do...it's not like I can say 'uhh yeah go change your wedding dates' or 'don't get married!'
Just a bit frustrated that's all.. think I need to start meditating or something before I go crazy!!
CommentAuthorMrsThomson2B
I would just not share your ideas for your wedding with anyone else. Your day will be perfect and so what if they steal some of the ideas you have.....just means they are too lame to have ideas of their own xx
CommentAuthorGemmaP11
Keep your ideas to yourself from now! How dare they!! X
CommentAuthorbrilly
I would tell them completely different ideas and ridiculous thing that are really expensive that you know you wont be having, let them blow there budget and at the same time not use your ideas :) x
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CommentAuthorHappyBunny
We have this problem with oh brother and his girlfriend but we have such different venues :) xx
Firstly, I would stop sharing my ideas and I would throw out some fake ideas to throw them off the scent. But your day will be different no matter what, even if some of the ideas end up the same. I know it might not feel that way now, but every wedding is different - different guests, days, circumstances, and of course a different couple.
CommentAuthor*KelBel*
Definitely stop sharing ideas! Keep anything new u think of to yourself,if anyone asks just say ur not really sure yet! I think cos of the time of yr ur getting married which is kind of out of season I can see ur point why ur p'd off... But I can see why ppl don't wanna wait another year too x
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I would definitely through some fake ideas out and a real,vile colour scheme! But keep the good ideas to myself :) x
CommentAuthor~Beauty&TheBeast2Be~
1)Stop talking about it with them if possible/change the subject. 2)If you must talk about it, stop sharing ideas/Lie about ideas 3)Tell them you might be having it done abroad so it's more personal, and your looking into planning it. If they wanted to go a step further, they might book there's abroad and hey presto one down :) 4)It will always be your day to your Mum. Explain it to her, mum's are great and understanding, and if you explain you want it to be things to be secret, i'm sure she'd keep it quiet.
Good luck. x
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CommentAuthorInDreamland
Just don't share any of your ideas hun and tell them you're doing something that you have no intention of doing or having! Remember though, at the end of the day, no one remembers the details of anyone's wedding but their own so just make the day what you want and enjoy it, it's all about you and your h2b after all xx
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CommentAuthorKristina
Dont share any of your ideas chick. I made that mistake with my sister and she copied everything, luckily i had a second option on everything so now i have changed everything and havent told anybody.
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CommentAuthorEmmaI93
Thanks! :D I'm just so frustrated over the whole thing!!!
CommentAuthorPaulaE95
I agree with everyone - definitely don't disclose your ideas. Use other ideas to throw them off the scent x
CommentAuthorMrsH-2B
My bro and SiL were going to book their wedding 3 months to the date before ours and I was really hurt.. All of our StD's, invites etc would've been going out not much after theirs.. I'd have felt like I couldn't do all of that stuff because I didn't want people thinking I was taking the focus off their wedding.. Luckily my mum had a word with him and they're now doing it in Feb and all my stuff posted out will be after theirs is over.. My cousin and his gf want to get married in the same year as us, but aslong as it's not before us I dont care.. Which i know my cousin wouldn't do cause our other cousin booked her wedding 6 days before the wedding we ended up having to cancel (We hadn't cancelled it when she booked hers).. As everyone else says, keep your plans and ideas to yourself and if they ask your ideas, just lie or say you don't want to discuss them !! xxx
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CommentAuthorAmyS751
OMG I understand it may be annoying! I'd go mad about is as well. But as girls write- this is your day and don't let anyone spoil your plans! :)
CommentAuthorAnnette
A friend of my OH got engaged like 1 month ago and initially set the date the weekend after our wedding!! "Cuz everyone would already be in town for our wedding so they could easily just stay in town another week for theirs". I'm not afraid to say I bridezilla'd by saying to one of our mutual friends how it would take away from our wedding, people would have to afford two weddings in one week, hotel rooms wouldn't be filled etc. ....they moved the wedding to late september :) still close but at least not within the next freaking week. I think some people just don't think and just think "oh yeah that's a nice time to have a wedding, we'll have ours in the same period". Like everyone else has said, stop sharing ideas, and hopefully it will all work out. Your wedding day will be wonderful and unique regardless xx
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CommentAuthorIzzy_w
I feel your pain hun.... My bro is getting married 3 months after me. He didnt propose/have any plans, his OH was just jealous of us and so went out and bought a dress and told him they were getting married. I consider myself lucky as originally, she tried to book it a month after mine. Luckily they couldnt get a registrar. I am just smiling sweetly and hiding all my wedding stuff when they come over! X X
CommentAuthorMattsBride
My sister and H2B's sister are both engaged too - they know the date of our wedding but they don't know any details apart from that they're bridesmaids.
My sister has given up with her wedding and decided to move out instead - fair enough who wouldn't want a house before a wedding. H2B's sister however is having a baby now instead of getting married (she's now pregnant after deciding this a few months ago) >.>
It just makes me laugh in all honesty. "oh we won't be able to afford getting married before my brother so lets have a baby instead" at the grand old age of 18.
Ah well - at least my wedding will be mine and no ideas will be shared unless it's relating to their role in the wedding.
We also have to tell SIL2B that we don't want children at the wedding.... Awkwarrrrd.
My advice is keep your details to yourself - share them with your maid of honor if anything! That's what I do she's helping me plan the whole thing as we both have different ideas for our own weddings :) and don't let anything get in your way or try and put you down! x
CommentAuthorValentinaK
Hmm, abit bridezilla ish... loads of people were getting engaged before me and hen i got engaged and we all have weddings within a few months of each other...it's just we're all getting to that sort of stage in our lives. as to discussing stuff, the only people i have are on here (strangers), bridesmaids (And even then ive only told them the "need to know" info), some of h2bs family, again need to know, and the rest is pretty much secret! I want everyone to be wondering up to the day and everything unfold as a suprise! People share too much info these days because of stuff like facebook etc. When people ask how im getting on, i just tell them what i've acheived, i.e "sorted" the table centre pieces, booked the photog... not told them which ones or details!
