I think you need to sit down with your H2B and have a big conversation about how you're feeling and how his actions are making you feel. Hope you can sort things out xx
Became Mrs Maunders on 22nd October 2016!
CommentAuthorLyndseyB73
I would but everytime I do he just says I'm having a go and going on . And never listens
CommentAuthorMrs T Hurley!
I'm assuming you guys have a joint account? Maybe setup a direct debit to a savings account to save for the wedding each month.
I would also say your oh needs to respect your wishes on him buying "inappropriate" things. You live there just as much as he does. It's not about you having a go, it is about mutual respect. (I apologise if this sounds harsh!)
Met 18/09/03
Engaged 06/09/08
Getting married 05/09/17
CommentAuthorMichelleC961
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No way- why would he even do that when there are kids in the house!- what if he got caught buying it?!
Def agree that if this is a joint account you sit down and agree a figure to put aside , either see if your account has a savings section or open a new account.
We've opened one just for the wedding
Weddings are so stressful, especially the money side and we have all had those cancelling thoughts and stresses.
To resolve this yiu do need to sit down.
Even say to OH if it comes across yiu are having a go, you font mean it to but yiu are just stressed at money for the wedding
I kinda know how you feel, my H2B keeps spending on things he doesn't need instead of saving for the wedding. Caused a good few arguments in the last couple of weeks to be honest, he told me he isn't saving for the wedding until we come back off holiday which is this month (bear in mind I have been saving myself since January and we got engaged in December) as he say's he can't afford to but yet on pay day he spent £60.00 on a BOARD GAME!! (plus 100's on a lot of other needless things) ridiculous and when i said that money could go towards the wedding I was met with annoyance! point being i completely know how you feel and if he continues to be this way after the hols I will be doing as suggested above, it isn't fair for you to be saving and it being squandered on other people, I'm completely with you. I wouldn't have the conversation right after he has taken some money, i would wait until you have had a pleasant day and neither of you are feeling upset and just hash it out, explain how it's making you feel that he is putting these things before your wedding and just see what he has to say, hopefully he will realise that upsetting you and jeopordising the wedding isn't worth what he is doing for these other people x
When we met: August 2009
When we announced engagement: December 2015
When we will get married: September 2017
CommentAuthorEmily17
Lindsey I am shocked that he would do something like that. It has to be stopped immediately regardless of the wedding. You need to talk to him and stamp it out of him now.
Met in 2009
He proposed Jan 2014
Will become Mrs P 7th October 2017
CommentAuthorEllie95
I agree with everyone else, you too need to have a calm talk about the money situation, He needs to understand he can't be spending money on things like that when there are bigger more important things to pay for,
My OH is rubbish at saving, he just spends money constantly he's too used to the bank of mum and dad paying for everything -.-
Met May 2013
Engaged December 2015
Getting Married 22nd June 2018! <3
CommentAuthorNicoleW665
Ellie same here! never known what it feels like to need to save for what he wants.
When we met: August 2009
When we announced engagement: December 2015
When we will get married: September 2017
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
try writing him an email or letter .... then you can say what you want with out being inturruped and sometime to see things in black and white have more impact