i apologise if this bores you all but i have to have a bit of a rant coz its doing my head in.

i was invited to a friends sons christening about 2 1/2 years ago but had recently moved and was extremely busy so couldnt go, i let her know on the day which may have been a little short notice but hey, atleast i let her know. i dont hear a word from her for 2 years unless i contact her first and we sort of just stopped talking until i saw she was engaged and so i congratulated her. nothing back apart from a message asking for my address. i get an invite to her after party so i thought, oh cr ap ill have to invite her to mine now so i sent her one.

her wedding was end of may and i had to cancel a week before as i almost fainted and was suffering really badly from pregnancy related sickness and lightheadedness etc etc. anywho, she doesnt even respond to say, congrats or no worries, im sorry you cant come. but then now shes come back off her honeymoon i get a snotty message on FB saying how much i have let her down, this time and again at the christening. i apologised again tonight but she turned it back on me saying im not a good friend, bla bla bla.

i was always the one who contacted her, i drove miles to see her when she had just given birth, i congratulated her and started us talking again and now im getting all the blame for not being a good friend. we have probably said less to each other in the last 2 years than i have written on here part from the messages tonight.

do you think she is being overly sensitive and i am a terrible 'friend' for letting her down or am i just being a bit of a cow. i can see it from her point of view if she had paid for buffet food but surely my health and my babies health are whats more important seeing as we werent the best of friends anyway.

blah, sorry again guys. rant over and now i feel a bit better.
xxx

Its unfortunatly one of those things hunni - If the friendship is worth saving im sure you'll try to put it right in anyway x

I agree with Madison - leave it for now and see if she contacts you. Is this friend someone you've been friends with for years, maybe from school/college etc? Some of these friendships do run their course over time, as people start relationships and families etc. Maybe this is one of those??? If she's really a true long term friend then she'll make contact - if not I'd cut my losses and move on. Friends come and go as we get older, this could be one of them.

Hey, thanks ladies. I joined the raf with her and went thru basic training and our admin training together. I saw her only a few times after we left, so I suppose we weren't brilliant friends but during training we were best mates. Live and learn I suppose! Altho this has happened b4 I should have learnt by now! X

What a shame. At the end of the day you were poorly. However, I would of been gutted too. But I wouldnt of reacted the way she has, because as I said, you were poorly, and unless your name is God, not alot is going to change that is it?!

Shame that she is being as petty as to not come to your wedding. But if she is going to act like this, are you sure you want her there?! Might make a bit of tension in the air!

You have apologised, and to be fair, what more does she want? If shes a keeper then she'll get off her high horse and come back to you. If shes not a keeper, and doesnt make the effort, then you've had a lucky escape!

Lou x

I think that it is 50/50!!! I find that people (I have been guilty of it myself too) dont "talk" enough and then assumptions tend to take over. For soe reason w always assume the worst case.

She obviously means alot to you, as you are upset. So I wouldnt just leave it. I would send her a message dealing with both issues, stating that you are sorry with a gentle reminder why you didnt attend. Saying that you dont want to lose her friendship over it Then its up to her to respond.

Good luck x

Maybe she is being very hormonal or post natal depression if she has had a baby. Hope that something happens to sort it out x