My little one is 2 next month and last few months I keep finding myself thinking of having another one. But when I try and have serious conversation with h2b it never goes well. He sends out different vibes and I know money is the one major issue. But one minute he's talking about another one and next he's saying nah. I don't know if he's worried he won't love it like we do our LO and worried about money. I've just managed too get back to work and money still abit tight. How do I know when the time is right? I won't my h2b to be 100% agreed before we try. But I don't know what's going on in his head or mine to be fair. I want to study as midwife but will be 4 years and don't want to wait that long. So not a clue what to do :( any advice welcome xx
CommentAuthorVelcro
to me - and i could be way off- it sounds like he maybe does want another one, but with money being tight, he's maybe thinking how can you possibly afford it? Like a nice idea but, no kinda thing
I dont think the time will ever be right. And I think that's maybe something else you need to consider. Things may always be pretty tight, but people still it and survive its just whether you want to be all the more skinter. Will you regret not doing it in a few years? Or would you be happy to have that age gap between the kids and do it further down the line?
Wibbly wobbly, timey wimey
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CommentAuthorMrsC2bee
I know he wants another one and every now and then he say something deep and u can see he has worries. Like other day he said if we had a boy hes worried he won't be as cuddly and loving as he is with our lg coz he's a by so I had to explain it to him. He just says he does but worried about money being tight and having so much going out at mo. ideally we both wanted one before the wedding which is why wedding in 2016 and wanted a close age gap as his LO from prev marriage is 8 years older than ours and I feel it's too big a gap. But he says things like when's ur implant coming out and we should get it out then money gets mentioned and he goes all hmmm yer guess so and all that. Plus he lost his dad 6 months ago and I think having another one will remind him coz he dad will never seen it or been ere ect and he was really close to his dad x
CommentAuthorMrsLJDeaton
Yay another 2016 Bride like myself I think that you are feeling broody as you feel it is the right time to have another mini you and give your 1st born a little sister or brother I think in these times money will always be tight due to the credit crunch so I think sit down your H2B and have a serious talk with say you don't want to wait another 4 years before you can have another child as you wish to become a midwife, Sounds like your H2B does want another little one but you need to tell your H2B we will be Ok maybe a little more skinter as Velcro said but in your mind its worth it you want to extend your family =D ♥ X
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CommentAuthorVelcro
Tbh, from what youre saying, id think just sod it and go for it or you'll just regret it later. Have a chat with him and just suggest getting your implant out and perhaps just see what happens, there;s no guarantee you'll get pregnant instantly anyway. There's always condoms you can use if you're still having a bit of a wobble and if you decide maybe you've made a mistatke, just go get it put back in.
Wibbly wobbly, timey wimey
*Kelbel* is my wedding twinny!
Me and my H2B want to have our 1st child before we get married in 2016 we want to start our family and bless your H2B life does go on but his dad will be watching over all of you ad will see the new addition to the family. Why does he feel he wont be able to cuddle his little boy?? ♥ X
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CommentAuthorsarah
Money is no small issue. I get that you want another child but if having one will stretch your budget to breaking point you'll be putting your relationship at risk. I say wait until you are on better financial footing. Since you only just got back into work perhaps it won't take much longer for things to get better?
CommentAuthorMrsC2bee
Thank ladies :) I'm thinking of doing a nice meal which means clearing the dining room table lol so we can sit and talk no distractions. And we can talk baby and wedding ect and I'll sneak my wedding folder in too hehe. I think ur right we just need to talk about it. No times perfect but I know I'll regret if we don't. He's a bloke and being silly coz he has two girls he thinks girls are cuddly and loving and boys are hard n do hand shakes ect. Where he's only seen boys as there kids not babies. I know if we had a boy he'd be same as he is with our little one. He's just being a bloke and being silly about the whole cuddle thing. Maybe he never got cuddled as a baby I dunno lol x
CommentAuthorMrsC2bee
Yay mrs deaton2b glad I'm not only one. Wen in 2016 r u looking at getting married? Are u ttc at mo?
CommentAuthorMrsLJDeaton
that's good Emma-Louise have a sit down meal sneak in your wedding folder and put everything on the table no distractions just talk through everything Little baby boys are just as cuddly as girls they Love the attention just as much as the girls he has nothing to worry about hope all goes well and I'm sure your H2B will agree to another little one as you want another lil addition to the family you feel the time is right you don't want a big age gap between them then go for it =D ♥ X
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Engaged 23.08.2012 In Turkey Our 1st Holiday Together
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Jamiroquai Arthur Gordon Deaton Born 29/05/2015 My Son Jammy
CommentAuthorMrsLJDeaton
I'm looking to get married on Sunday 23rd October On our 6th Anniversary and H2B have decided to wait till September October to try and conceive as we are both June Babies and want our Lil Mini Us to be a June Baby too =D ♥ X
Started going out 23.10.2010 met at Barnet college
Engaged 23.08.2012 In Turkey Our 1st Holiday Together
To be Mrs Lana Jocelyn Deaton on 23.10.2015 5 years the day
Jamiroquai Arthur Gordon Deaton Born 29/05/2015 My Son Jammy
CommentAuthorMrsC2bee
Meal n chat it is :) will do it tomorrow give me chance to sort wedding bits out and clear table lol. We're getting Married 16.7.16. I like the idea of a November baby but hat would mean waiting til feb lol x
CommentAuthorMrsLJDeaton
Good Good let us know how it goes and what your wedding theme an remember we are here to talk about non stop wedding talk and ideas My Wedding theme is The Emerald Queen & The Sapphire King Everyone calls me The Emerald Queen or Green Queen So it just suits me and H2Bs favourite colour blue so I incorporated it into the theme I'm his Queen and Hes My King Cannot wait to get married I already have so many ideas I already Know what I want =D ♥ X
Started going out 23.10.2010 met at Barnet college
Engaged 23.08.2012 In Turkey Our 1st Holiday Together
To be Mrs Lana Jocelyn Deaton on 23.10.2015 5 years the day
Jamiroquai Arthur Gordon Deaton Born 29/05/2015 My Son Jammy
CommentAuthor*KelBel*
I think if u really want one, then go ahead and try.... Everyone's gonna have money worries sometimes regardless of situations ur in, u can blame no money, the wedding, going to uni... But u will get a little more help money wise in tax credits etc I'm sure wont you?x
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CommentAuthorInDreamland
I know the feeling hun, h2b and I both want to start trying as soon as we've said "i do" but that doesn't stop us worrying about the financial stuff. We've sat down and done the sums to make sure we can afford having a baby and know what we have to save before I start maternity leave. Job security is another worry but things happen and you can't control them. So you just have to go with the flow.
Sounds like your h2b is keen for another baby but is concerned about money which I totally understand and I think is very sensible. Do have a chat and get the calculator out, discuss all the possible options if you plan to train as a midwife. I'm sure you will both be able to work out the best thing for you both and your family xx
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CommentAuthorMrsC2bee
We sort of had a talk last night over dinner, but was about money and what things we needed to pay this month n next ect so we can sort our money out and get into a nice routine, it would help if I had a decent job with decent pay :( we've decided to wait few months as need to get money on track with everything being up in the air this year with oh losing his job due to losing his dad, then being off for 6 months and now both working but for pennies and stupidly long hours. I'm hoping in month or two we'll be able to feel more stable with money. Those were his exact words he doesn't feel very stable at the moment and I completly understand as I feel same. My theme is navy and white as oh wants to wear family kilt and I didn't like the green or gold in it so picked out navy and now love it :) don't think I'm going to tell anyone yet though. I just wish I could find a nicer job with same hours and decent pay as am carer which I love but spend over £200 on petrol a month and don't get it all back :( x
