I'm seriously annoyed at the moment with my so-called best friend! We have known each other for 20 years at one point we were inseparable, but she always used to do things to get me into trouble, hence why we went our separate ways, and then work got in the way and we didn't keep in touch.
Now i understand people move on, i did i got Steve and my kids etc. She got her partner and works alot.
Anyhow what get's me is If i ask her to do my nails (She's a qualified beautician) or come over for a chat or dinner or dress shopping, (I asked her to be my bridesmaid and we always said if either one of us were to get wed we'd do everything together) She Always Always lets me down!
I recently had a week of work, we were meant to go out for lunch and have a girlie Day, she promised me twice she was going to come she even sent me messages to say she was leaving in 5 minutes... 2 hours passed and she didn't come, i got a text saying she'd lost her car keys i thought fair enough not a problem, so we went to do our weekly shop and as we drove down the main road to the supermarket she drove past when she spotted us she almost dropped her ciggarette!
I asked her to do my nails and she promised she'd be out to do them... Nope she said she couldn't as she already had an appointment and she'd be out from 9am until 3pm so we went to my nan's at around 10am and whose car was in the car park? (She lives next door to them) We left there at 5ish and her car was still there!
She always lets me down and now i've seen on faceache that she's going out to town for drinks friday next week, She text me yesterday saying she couldn't come out for dinner because she was going out with her parents for a meal and would be out all evening (This was arranged weeks ago) but no now she's going to bournemouth with some of her other friends.
:S so as the title says am i being sensitive?
CommentAuthorHappilymarried Mrs G
Doesnt sound like you are being sensitive to me, it sounds as if she is not being a good freind and is giving you the brush off. I would back off, make other arrangements and see if she comes running, if not let it run its course.
CommentAuthorLisa Ramos
I don't think you are being sensitive. From what you have wrote, it seems to me that it's you who makes all the effort. Just because you have known her for 20 years, doesn't mean you have to continue to be friends. I know it's sad when a friendship ends, but it can't be nice at the minute when she lets you down or blatantly lies about being busy.
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CommentAuthorButterflyDreamer
No lisa it isn't especially as i don't have any friends as such anyway :S she's also godmother to my girls and doesn't really make much of an effort with them either
CommentAuthorJilly17
That is so sad MD but I am afraid I would be backing right off too. You have tried your best with her and she just is not being honest with you. There is absolutely no excuse for making plans then repeatedly letting you down. She has not even got the sense to not put things on FB for you to see..not a nice thing to do and you and your girls deserve better x
awww that sounds awful =(. think you need to have a long honest chat with her. my bf is quite unreliable she hardly makes time for me now cos shes got a new fella she made lotsa time for me the other week when he fella was away and she promised to do his washing and clean. which shes useless at so i did it all.. talk to her am sure shel realise shes hurt you. if she was any kind of friend she would anyway hope your ok. xxx
CommentAuthorsbride
Sounds like she is a rusbbish friend and your better off without her hun x
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CommentAuthorMrs Steer
Not at all i would ask what her problem is? She isnt going the right way about being ur bridesmaid xx
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CommentAuthorRachie :D
I'd be fuming and asking the question of do you care at all about me - its a horrid thing but I'd rather know
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CommentAuthorKerrylou
No you're not being sensitive at all. I think maybe you 2 should have a chat and find out why she's acting like this. It's never nice when someone treats you like this :( *hugs* xxxx
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CommentAuthorGem1102
I agree with the above comments. you're not being sensitive at all. you've been making such an effort with her but it seems to me like she doesn't deserve it when she's been making excuses not to spend time with you. I wouldn't want her as BM anymore if i were you. I hope you can sort it out. xxx
CommentAuthorlaurabrown83
She is clearly unreliable, selfish and lies constantly. I would have dropped her as a bridesmaids a long time ago, and probably as a friend too!!
CommentAuthorsuzky123
it sounds like she doesnt give a toss tbh and is just lying but then not even trying to lie properly as if shes not bothered shes getting caught out. Cut her loose! I know its hard but if she cant be bothered why waste your time. its valuable and you should only share it with ppl who deserve it.
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Some "friends" really need to look up the definition of "friends"! xx
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CommentAuthorMel D
I don't think you're being too sonsitive. I also would have demoted her from bridesmaid to guest a while ago. Maybe you should try doing the same to her and see if she likes it?
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CommentAuthorlil miss sunshine
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no dont think you are beign too sensitive at all and you may have to evaluate your plans as having her as a BM's as this can cause problems
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CommentAuthorButterflyDreamer
Thanks Ladies H2b is really annoyed at her too and wants me to cut her loose, he doesn't like the way she treats me, I think i'm still attaching myself to her in the hope she will change! also as i said before i don't have any friends, hey ho i guess i can make some eventually :D lol xx
CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
sound slike this lass u known for 20 years u shud now take her out of ure life for even more!! she seems awful!!! get rid!! i hate liars!!! my bdays in april and me and 12 girls are off to a spa and then pub crawl my bets mate texted me sayin i just wanna go to the pubs ( we will hav been drinkin in spa for 5 hours b4 bear in mind) i said i want u to cum spa pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeee and shes cumin now teehee
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CommentAuthorChantere
You poor thing :( That really isn't good...but like Kerrylou says, maybe you should have a chat with her to see if you can gauge why she's doing this? Your wedding should be even more of a reason for you guys to spend more time together, and to do all the things that brides and bridesmaids do! I had one friend who did something very similar when I tried to plan my wedding a few years ago and it turned out she was scared of losing me to my fiancé! Another friend told me she was jealous...girls work in mysterious ways - if she means a lot to you then it'd be worth investigating. Good luck xx
CommentAuthormartay (marie)
two things to say:
1. shes not a friend 2. get rid of her
my friend & i vowed we'd always be bridesmaids for each other and when she got engaged i was made MOH, we did alot of the planning together, i looked after her son, fed them both, booked a holiday for her on my pc, i even took her in my car to order BM dresses and up to a week before her wedding i was fully involved and then received a text saying i was being sat on a normal table with a mutual friend (who was only invited to make the no's up). on the day itself one of her other BMs announced to the wedding co-ordinator of the venue, she was the MOH. when it came to the speeches bridezilla thanked all her BMs except for myself and i quote "one person i truly want to thank whos made this day happen is Michelle, we cant thank you enough for all your help". my name is NOT michelle. i received a gift which i didnt want to accept but took to save face, and then promptly binned it. she completely hulmiliated me in front of 75 people, the weekend cost me nearly £500 and she then had the nerve to say i didnt even give her any wedding money - I had some in an envelope but brought it home with me. Needless to say i have not spoke to her since.
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That sucks marie, sorry to hear that. BD, i'd take the advice from someone whose been there (well in a reversed sence anyway). If you truely treasure your friendship and just believe its a fad however maybe you should just demote her and see if she comes round after the wedding. She could be just insanely jealous or wanting some attention of her own; that could be a reason for her blanking you etc. If she doesnt change after the wedding then id seriously consider just deleting everything of her and put memories and pictures down to experience and a hell of a good time when you were mates. Its a shame but s--t happens sometimes sweetie, life goes on and you can concentrate on being happy and being with your other friends (or making new friends) Either way, its your big day, dont let people spoil it for you princess. xxx
CommentAuthorluvlifejen (mrs berr
sounds like she is a selfish b!tch to be honest and couldnt care less (sorry to be blunt) xx
hun i remember all the horrible things you and h2b have been through of late if i was you i would be taking a long hard look at those around me and asking if i want this person in my life what do they bring to your life ask yourself this and the solution is simple only keep those who truly love and care for you in your life hun it works honestly xx
