Less than 11 weeks to go now... and we don't have a photographer, or anything really sorted. And whenever I bring up the subject of the wedding he has a go at me for going on about it.... Errrrrrrrrr help?! I can't sleep cos it's stressing me out soo much, and I keep crying all the time. He just doesn't care. Everyone's hassling us about invites too, and he just cba to sort them, despite the fact his mum made them ages ago and all we need to do is print the inserts at his sisters. I just don't know what to do :-(
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CommentAuthorMrsBroady2B
I think you need to sit down with him hun, and ask him what's going on. This stuff really cant be left much longer. It'll come to your wedding day and no one will end uo turning up. You need to just tell him to be honest with you why he just does not have much interested.
CommentAuthorKaya
He's ill, and he says it's cos he's tired. But I'm not convinced, I'm soo frustrated with it all, all we've sorted so far is venue, my dress and cake!
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CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
Take a deep breath and write out an action plan. If he isn't capable of sorting it all out then do it yourself. Ring his sister and ask to go around and to the inserts. I know it would be nice to have some support but if its like trying to get blood from a stone there is little point in wasting your efforts trying to get him to do something he won't do. Just concentrate on the things you can sort out yourself.
I'm sure that he does care he just doesn't know how to sort things like this out. x x x
CommentAuthortweedwedding
I agree with MrsBroady2b, think you should just sit him down and find out whats going on. Big hugs for you though hun and I hope it gets sorted out xx
owww id be goin crazy now!!! have u asked him why? u are due to get married in 2 months and still have things to book and pay for???!!!
i would sit him down or write him a letter and talk to him explain that u only have 2 months why is he havin ago at u when u mentioning booking things and needing to pay for things, u will be extremly lucky to get a photographer this close to your wedding they are usually the 2nd or 3rd thing to book.
good luck i hope u sort things out xxx
met him 25/8/97
he proposed 4/3/98
get married 21/4/12 then i will become mrs johnson
3 beautiful children together
CommentAuthorTrish Goddard
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Eek.. with 11 weeks to go, you really must crack on.. YOURSELF...
if he isnt prepared to do anything, tell him you ARE Am extremely worried that you may not get a photographer now... mine i booked early last year and it was the last slot.... the tend to book a year in advance!!
Good luck sweetie. xx
CommentAuthorKaya
I can't get to his sisters without him, as he's the 1 that drives :-( And he wants an opinion on everything, I find things to book and he doesn't want them/like them/wont commit. I'm really worried that maybe he just doesn't want to merry me anymore, though he assures me he does. I've tried talking to him, but he just gets nasty and says he wishes I wouldn;t go on about it.
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CommentAuthorKaya
Bargain hunter.... I am going crazy!! Seriously can't cope :-(
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CommentAuthortweedwedding
I'd maybe try writing him a letter like bargain hunter suggested, tell him how he's making you feel and hopefully he'll respond to that - don't give hun xx
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
Can you ask his sister to come and pick you up or find another friend that can print them for you? If it comes to it post them me and I will print them and post them back!
As for the booking he is leaving things way too late. Source them and tell him he either likes it or he has a week to find something himself or you are booking it. End of! That isn't going on about it then. You are giving him the choice. If he doesn't get his backside into gear then he doesn't get a say.
CommentAuthorKaya
He knows how he's making me feel.... but doesn't seem bothered... which worries me!!
Think don't tell the bride has alot to answer for... men reckon you can sort it all in 3 weeks! lol
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CommentAuthorKaya
His sister doesn't drive either... and she has the inserts, and we have the invites... and I managed to get him to ask if we can go do them next weekend and she's busy! Noooooooo!
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CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
I'm sure he is bothered he just isn't going the best way around things.
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
Can she not print them if you send her the template and names and then post them to you?
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
Also what size are your inserts?
CommentAuthorKaya
Hmmmmm. Bloody men!! Have a horrible feeling in the pit of my stomach and am permenantly on the verge of tears. He just doesn't seem interested in anything atm, other than himself... which sounds awful... but it's true!
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CommentAuthorKaya
I have no idea Jo.... lol
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CommentAuthorstressed to max b2b
walk... get a taxi or a bus but u need to go get them, have u even got church or registery booked? his suit? rings? he prob does wanna marry u maybe its money worries? has he got money? has he spend it and dare not tell u? u need to get things sorted and fast, or just scream at him untill he realises what hes risking, maybe try callin his bluff if he doesnt get things sorted and booked within the next 3 weeks he might aswell cancel see what his reaction is then, im gettin stressed out and angry for u hun x
bigs hugs xxx
p,s if all else fails hit him wi am hammer x
met him 25/8/97
he proposed 4/3/98
get married 21/4/12 then i will become mrs johnson
3 beautiful children together
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
What size are you cards? Go and measure them. Usually inserts are only a couple of quid so for the sake of it you can always get some more and then find someone else to print them off or post to you.
CommentAuthorKatie
Aw Kaya thats poo tell him that if he doesnt get things sorted there will be no wedding and see what he says
Those who mind dont matter
Those who matter dont mind
CommentAuthorKaya
Yeh, venue is booked... but none of the other things! We do have money worries, but alot of family have given us money towards wedding as well.... we're VERY lucky in that respect. Although all the money my fam gave is in the wedding a/c and all the money his fam gave he put into his a/c..... you've worried me now!! lol. I've suggested cancelling/postponing, and he assures me he wants to marry me, but surely if he did he'd do something about it....
And the hitting him with a hammer sounds great!
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CommentAuthorKaya
Thing is I don't know anyone near here Jo :-(
I've said it Katie....
Arghhhh! I'm soo stressed, just can't cope! Think I'm on the verge of a breakdown....
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CommentAuthorAttention seeker :)
i would call his bluff and tell him if he isnt interested in the wedding then there wont be a wedding
im not seeking attetion i just like everyone looking at me
im married
im now Mrs Dove
no more wedding planning LOL yer right
CommentAuthorsarsibob1
Right
Post on here what you have done and then we can tell you what else you need to do.
CommentAuthorJane
I think men have been given the wrong impression by programmes such as Dont Tell the Bride where weddings are organised in a couple of weeks. Life isnt really like that, its just television. I would agree with Attention seeker here - call his bluff, tell him he has run out of time for some things and say its too late. Tell him if things arent started tomorrow then the wedding wont be able to happen.
CommentAuthorMariephiz
I've only just started watching don't tell the bride....do h2b's not see the h2b in programme going crazy with all the planning?! I would call his bluff, or else get a family member of his to have a talk with him, do you get on with his mum/dad?
CommentAuthorKaya
Sarisbob.... we're sorted venue, my dress and cake. Oh and I've sorted hair and make up... that's it!
Jane, I have tried all that :-(
Marie... his mum's lovely but I never speak to her unless I'm with h2b, and his dad is horrible and rude :-(
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CommentAuthorlulliebiscuit
If a really serious talking to isn't going to help i agree with the calling his bluff idea. The problem with pushing forward and getting things done without his input, means that if there really are some umderlying problems from his point of view, then your wedding day will arrive and those problems will still be there :-( i don't really think you have much choice but to sort things between yourselves as a couple, before continuing with the planning:-( There's obviously an underlying issues somewhere, just gotta find out where hin?
Xx
CommentAuthorsarsibob1
Right off the top of my head
Main things you need to do
Photographer Transport Bridesmaids dresses Entertainment Readings and song choices Giving notice Flowers Rings Suits speeches accessories food and drink
everything else is just extra fluff.
Maybe you need to spend a day or two on the internet and just book things or call in some favours from friends to help.
Give your H2B an altermatum - either he gets the invites done by the end of the week or the wedding is being postponed. You need to give the guests time to rsvp or you won't have any guests.
Anyone else got any must haves?
CommentAuthorNishaVyas88
There's always a time when you just don't talk to the in-laws much until there's a point when only they'll be able to help (in my case it was issues with my rented house).
There's no reason why you can't talk to your MIL2b, especially if he hasn't used any of the wedding money she's given him. She could probably give him a huge kick up the backside!
CommentAuthorsarahwasabride
hope you get everything sorted soon hun together xx
CommentAuthorMrsSaraParry!
where abouts are you Kaya? Perhaps between us we can recommend some suppliers and shops etc for you. What colour scheme do you want and how many bridesmaids do you have? Have you thought about where to get the dresses from etc? xx
CommentAuthorAmy
If I've read correctly (?) then you really, really need to sort out your registrare as a matter of urgency, or if your have a church wedding you really need to sort that out instead. That would be first on my list as there wont be a wedding without someone to marry you both?!
If I havn't read correctly then yes invites need to be done now- not a moment to loose- and I too would probably be offering my man an ultimatum.
Take care xxx
CommentAuthorsuzky123
sit him down and ask him to come up with a suitable timescale himself... once he sits there with the whole list and the limited number of days left he may get his bum into gear.
cant wait to be Mrs Evans less than 3 weeks woooo
start weight 10st 1.5 lbs
weight now 8st 4.5 lbs
total loss to date: 24.5 lbs now need to maintain!
