oh button (((((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))

its an awful feelign isnt it, lie you we had teh descussion last night of if to put ours back a year or not as money not going to well like you as soon as we get somewhere something comes up and BANG we skint again.

I dont think you should put it off all together and my view is dos it amtter if it takes us 1 year or 20 years (i hope not) as long as we have each otehr and become husband and wife (even if on our death beds lol) then Ill be happy xxx

The family part isnt a big thing for us as i not bothered about children and he has 2 from previous marriage so i cant comment ont hat but if you really want to wait till you are married can understand that that is an extra worry to us xxx

Hugs Hun.

Hope you manage to get something sorted. The fact is, things always seem to come up. I notice your wedding date is just under three years away, are you sure it's not possible to sort something in that time?

As mrs bram to be says, the important thing is to get married, regardless of how long you have to wait xx

hun scale everything back ..... put a set amount away every month into an account ...

*big hugs*

This probably isn't going to be what you want to hear, but is it worth going for a registry office ceremony followed by booking a restaurant for a samll group of closest friends and family? That way it wouldn't cost that much, you could get married relatively soon, and your family would be there. I know it doesn't sound like the most special day ever, but the most important things are getting married and having your family there. Also with scaling back that much you'd have a bit of money spare for making the details more special and personal to you.

I'm just trying to think long term here for you, if things keep popping up to use up your savings it could be a while before you can get married, and do you really want to spend all the money you have on one day when there will be other important things in the future that your savings would be needed for (children cost a small fortune!)

I'm sorry if that sounded a bit blunt, it wasn't meant to. I wish you the best of luck with whatever you decide to do.

Who says she wouldn't want to look back on her wedding if its a cheap one and who says she will hate it? I'm having a cheap wedding and I think that's quite offensive to be honest.

I know the feeling Hun we have had so many financial hurdles to jump over the last five years, H2b is off work now having torn his rotator cuff and so on ssp so I can totally understand where you are coming from.

Is there any way you can scale back your budget? There are plenty of deals to be had. Budget does not have to lookcheap.

The trouble is there will always be financial hurdles and if you keep putting it back you may never get there.

hope everything is alright huni and i'm sorry you've had to put your date back but it may be for the best, you may not see it now but you will when your day comes round i'm sure

Oh Honey I'm sorry to hear you are struggling. But hey let's get things in perspective here.

The purpose of a wedding is not so you can have pictures in the nicest venue with the nicest outfits. Don't get me wrong, we are all guilty of occasionally thinking it is. Its purpose is to publicly declare your love and fidelity. Your budget should reflect your lives, if you aren't super rich, don't get drawn into thinking you need an extra agent wedding. My Mum's wedding was super budget, it was registry office followed by a small meal for family of about 10. The photos of the day are gorgeous because they are all showing smiling family together. My Mum LOVED every minute of the day because she had those who mattered.

And I know budget weddings were more common in my mums day, but I have some friends who did it a few years ago. No big party, just the marriage, a meal and drinks and laughs with friends. They have never looked back and put their cash into their house and children.

I don't think you should feel pressured into putting it back to afford everything. Who seriously cares if you don't spend the earth? If you love your man, I can't see you ever looking back on the day with regret, regardless of funds. Anyone who suggests you will may well have their priorities wrong.

But whatever you decide Button, you know we will all be here to help in whatever fashion we can!

I agree with Dawn n Amy you do not need a celeb wedding Just your your H2B your familu & friends your loved ones is all you nees smules laughter love all around add some DIY into your wedding to cut back on Money If you need to talk Button we here for you <3 X

I agree with everything said I dont think anyone notices how much is spent people with just want to celebrate your marriage and wish you well (the people that matter the most to you anyway) it doesnt have to big or flashy just you and HRB saying your vows and delcaring your love xx

Awww button am so sorry u r having to change your feeling date big hugs hun x

Bless ya hun try not to stress i know easy said then done but it will all work out chin up hun x ((((hugs))))

Oh Button - HUGS!!!!!
I hope you can find a way to have the wedding you both want on a smaller budget and hopefully not have to postpone for too long.
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Thank you Dawn. I took textiles at school and while I was waiting to get into college I took a dress making course (which was held by a wedding dreee maker) Plus I'm fussy, and hate the fact that someone could be wearing the same as me somewhere. And I'm stupidly small.

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