Im getting really mad and upset at matthew at the moment. We have been talking about trying for another baby for ages and so we're not taking any precautions at the moment at if it happens then it happens then we're ofiically trying next month in July. Well matthew doesnt really have a high s e x drive not like me anyway and he can go weeks with out and i just have to put up with it but its not really the case when im not in the mood. Well anyway last week he decided that he was in the mood and he just assumed i was playing hard to get then i told him i wasnt in the mood then then said i was punishing him as its normally him thats not in the mood which annoyed me. Then he starts sayign that if we're going to have another baby we are going to have to have s e x which of course i know but that also annoyed me. I know he only said it cos he was in the mood and he was pestering me everyday till i gave in on monday night even though i still wasnt in the mood but i knew that as soon as i did we'd be back to him not being in the mood again. It really annoys me he does this and evey time i try and talk to him about it like i did last night he just shurgs it off. I even told him that it makes me feel like he's using me in a way
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CommentAuthorAbbey
Aw Hun, that sounds unfair of him. Maybe you are both a little stressed and feeling under pressure since you've decided to try for another baby. Why don't you have a bit of couple time and plan a romantic night to get you both feeling in the mood ;o) Good luck xx
CommentAuthorMagicFairies
my h2b used to be like this - i sat him down, had serious words and told him that if it's not fair on him when he's not in the mood - why should it be ok for him to pester me when i'm not in the mood. it probably just needs putting in perspective for him. I know it's difficult, but don't give in if you don't feel like it. and try not to pester him if he doesn't feel like it. H2b is often sensitive about discussing things like this (sounds like yours might be too) it might be helpful to discuss it on neutral ground ie -outside of the bedroom, when you have plenty of time and you are both feeling calm, that way he can feel it's more like a conversation than him getting told off. good luck xxx
CommentAuthorClarabella
The day we conceived our daughter we had a huge fall out cos i was sick of him never being in the mood and didnt think it was fair if we carried on like this for the rest of our lives and we nearly split up that night. He had said that all the talk about s e x got him in the mood??????? How the hell does that make sense?
Magicfairies h2b is sensitive about talking about this and wont even talk to his friends about it as he thinks that as hes a man he should have a high s e x drive than what hes got. When ever i have talked to him baout it is has been out of the bedroom but i just get the feeling it goes in one ear and out the other.
He has said to me before that he knows that im always in the mood so its not much of a challenge as he knows he'll get it whenever he wants so that was part of the reason why i said to him i wasnt in the mood last time but whats the point if he keeps pestering me every day till he gets what he wants then as soon as he does hes back to the usual
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CommentAuthorLinzie Liverpool.
go out have romantic meal couple drinks and get practising
We were plannign on having a night out but with lack of pennies as im just inishing my maternity leave we cant really do that and then trying to find time when i go back to work and matthew is off from work isnt going to be easy either
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CommentAuthorMrsSaraParry!
Adam doesn't have a high s e x drive at all and neither do i! In fact, its a standing joke that if we want to have children we'll actually have to make the effort to do it every so often! haha, mum wondered if we think we might just find a baby under a gooseberry bush! lol. I can honestly say that I'm in the mood less than Adam is but I think its because I'm usually shattered and just can't be bothered. Also if we're going to do it, i like to do it before bed and Adam likes it in the morning. We're completely uncompatible in that way but we make a joke of it rather than falling out. We're both currently trying to make more of an effort...its lasted all of 3 weeks and now we're back to normal! haha xxx
CommentAuthorClarabella
At least your both trying to make an effort even though it lasted 3 weeks. Matthew wouldnt. Normally id moan about it he'd make an effort for a few days then he's back to normal
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CommentAuthorAnnette
I have the opposite problem -_- my h2b is constantly in the mood, and I mean constantly. Every day, all times of the day. I used to think I had a massive s e x drive, but compared to him I'm a nun!! I have the problem that these days I'm super tired and not really in the mood, and let's be honest, you have way more s e x when you first get together than a bit into the relationship. So now my h2b is whining all the time that I don't want him as much as I used to, and he thinks I'm not attracted to him anymore (hello, I'm marrying you!!) and I don't exactly get turned on by his whinging... sorry, didn't mean to steal your thread lol, just had that rant inside my head for a good few weeks!
But yeah, totally get where you're coming from, it's really hard when your s e xdrives don't match up :/ don't quite know what advice to give you other than make him talk about it...meh, I'm not much help sorry :(
