Apologies if this is a bit long!!

Me and H2B have been together for 5 and a half years now and planning our wedding for 4 of those! I am his first girlfriend (and hopefully his last!) and always gotten on really well with his family. I moved to Norwich to go to Uni after our first year together and we did the long distance thing for a year then after he finished his degree he moved down and we moved in together. This is when I think his mum especially started having issues with me and our relationship. He did initally want to do Medicine at Uni and become a Doctor but missed out on his place by only a few marks so instead did an IT degree with the intention of going back into Medicine in the future so I can understand why when he moved to Norwich and started working in Morrisons his mum was upset. But he kept looking and about 18 months later he got a job in an IT firm and has since moved to another firm where he is doing really well and has gotten 2 promotions and pay rises in the 8 months he has been there!
He doesnt want to do medicine any more.....he occasionlly says he would like to be a paramedic but he loves his current job and he knows he could have a great career there so any plans for another job change are definitely off for the foreseeable future.

ANYWAY!....since we started wedding planning his family have been getting more and more distant. The majority of it has been paid for by my parents and initially his offered to split it 50/50 but since withdrew that offer and contributed to the suits only. This was irritating because we had to rebudget but what I was upset about was how they went about it leaving H2B feeling really embarrassed (which i told him he didnt need to be). Now they pretty much refuse to talk about the wedding, his sister and niece are BMs and it takes mountains of calling and begging to get them to go for fittings - we live 250 miles away so its all been long distance planning - and his niece is our flower girl (his brother is no longer with the mother) and it has been a nightmare getting them to take her dress shopping or find a time my mum can go down and try the dress on her etc. Also his brother is refusing to let the little girls mum come see her get ready or sit in the church and watch her be a flower girl for the first time which i think is childish and awful!

His dad refused to come to the stag do this past weekend - which has massively upset H2B - because him and his dad used to be really close! Instead he took his mum to the theatre and then has spent the last 4 days complaining how bad the play was.

His sister s 16 going on 6. She has serious eating issues, she very manipulatively uses food as a way to get her own way and is threatening to get his niece all wound up so she runs down the aisle and starts screaming during the vows!

All in all im just really p****d off with them!!! I dont care whether or not they are y best buddies but their eldest some is getting married and I want them to be happy for him. Its not fair his family are acting like this!

All his mum keeps saying is that once the wedding is over with and i have graduated (im also doing medicine and graduate in july) he can reapply for medicine and I can support him.

Me and H2B have discussed this. I am very happy to support him ( just like he has supported me for 4 years) but it cant be in the next 4 or 5 years as we wont have a big enough wage to live on and pay his tuition. HE doesnt mind and in fact says if he goes back to uni it will be for paramedical sciences not medicine and he is far more interested in us getting a mortgage and starting our family than changing careers!!!!


AAAAARRRRRGGGGGHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

I dont really have a point to this rant i just needed to get it off my chest, They have done so much more than this (e.g. my H"B loves fireworks so my mum has paid for a huge display as a thank you for him looking after me whilst ive been at uni - she told his parents and they just said why on earth would you do that...whata waste of money....itd be better spent n getting them a deposit for a house up here.....) WE ARENT MOVING BACK UP NORTH WE ARE HAPPY HERE!!!

basically thy dont mind him marrying e but they want it all to go back to how it was before he met me with him living at home (or at least very close) and him being a doctor and me being quiet in the background! but times change and people grow....i just so want them to be happy for their son who i am so grateful for every day...i couldnt have done my course without him and we recently suffered a miscarriage and he was amazing through it all. WHY CANT HIS FAMILY JUST BACK OFF!!!!!!!


sorry - ranting hat off now!

you just have to try and stay strong and remember why your doing all this and thats to marry the one you love i really hope it all sorts it self out for you, sending you lots of love xx