As some of you know, h2b has got a really huge family whereas I only have my mum, 2 bros , niece and daughter here in the uk. The rest lives abroad. Anyway read here that it could be cheaper to get married abroad specially those wedding/honeymoon packages so last week I asked h2b if he would consider geting married abroad if it works out cheaper for us. And he said sure we can look into it. We had a discussion before that we can't invite all his family to our wedding specially the distant ones cos we can't afford it. We did this on our daughter's baptism last week and half his family didn't even say goodbye to me, and as much as I can tolerate it a tiny bit on my daughter's baptism, I thought I won't have that on our wedding. Anyway I just thought it's not really fair that I have 5 family to invite and maybe a couple of friends then he invite 50 or so relatives and then me pay for them. I know they'll be my family too but really I begrudge having to pay for distant cousin trev or uncle bob who I've never met before!

Anyway tonight I was chatting with my 5 month old baby, more of teasing my h2b really and said to my daughter.. "would you like mummy and daddy to get married abroad so that that can be your first holiday abroad too? It would be nice to have a beach wedding wouldn't it but I think daddy doesn't want that" . It was just innocent fun really cos my h2b hasn't told me for definite that he doesn't want to get married abroad. Then h2b said to me... "what really brought the getting married abroad on? Is it the fact that your family can't all come cos they live far away so you don't want all my family to come too?" I mean wtf?? Why is it possible for his mum and eldest bro to be rude to me and not say bye to me on daughter's christening and yet they're good people and I only thought since we can't invite all his family anyway, might as well look into going abroad for a beach wedding which we both want if it works out cheaper and now I'm actually some evil person plotting these things so that most of his family can't come? I was so furious I gave him back the engagement ring and told him to get a refund as I'm sure he doesn't want to marry an evil person!So tired of being the villain or made out to be one just cos I speak my mind whereas his family can do things then sweet talk him and all is forgiven! I thought our wedding is supposed to be about us, having our nearest and dearest is an added bonus. Didn't realise our wedding is about pleasing each and every single one of his family by making sure they're invited! Aargh!!! Sorry just really needed to vent out. Thanks for reading... Xx

Yeah I guess I over reacted by giving back the ring but I exploded cos prior to this I've been having probs with mil2b. His eldest bro have always been an as$ and he didn't even tell him off when he left our daughter's party last sunday as if I'm expected to just accept what he does cos he's an as$ and yet I only want us to look into marrying abroad and now I'm plotting it so that not all his family can come!

Thanks hun xx I just need to calm down before I talk to him. I'm no good when I'm this angry :(

Take a deep breath, count to ten, calm down and talk to him. I am sure that once you have talked through everything you will work things out. Best of luck xx