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- CommentAuthorFionaG2
Hi there - I'm a newbie to this site :)

My problem is, I have a very small family and group of friends. My H2B and I have made a list and I've got 18 people on mine (family, friends and plus 1's) and his list is double the amount I have. So we've 53 in total (if no-one drops out) My questions are:

- Has anyone had a wedding as small as this/ smaller with any tips. All the venues I have seen (that I like) have a minimum number (worried I won't be able to find something I want for so few people). I don't want to "bulk out" my list with a bunch of people I don't know all that well/ like
- Is it ok to/ how do I deal with feeling outnumbered by his family and friends on my own wedding day? I realise this sounds selfish and I don't want to stop him inviting people he wants there, of course.

Help much appreciated.

Thanks!

Fiona
- CommentAuthorMichelleC961
  
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To be honest numbers shouldn't matter and it shouldn't be about how many prop,e each of you invite, it's about the two of you sharing your special day with family, friends and loved ones and having the people you want there :-)

Some places do have a minimum number but there are plenty of smaller intimate, cool and different places out there, depends what sort of thing you want? Church followed by a restaurant- there's a restaurant by me that is often hired out in the evening for parties and weddings and has a capacity of 60.

With weddings they are whatever you want them to be :-)
- CommentAuthorElinor Claire
I wouldn't worry about his list being bigger than yours. The main thing is that you both have the people you care about there. You honestly won't notice that he has more people than you, I'm pretty sure that my husband had more people than me. However I'd met a lot of his guests by the time of the wedding, so it felt like they were our guests. As for the venues, some places have packages for smaller groups, and some allow you to specify the number when you sign the contract. The only issue you have then is that if someone drops out you still have to pay for that place. Have you tried local hotels, some are more flexible.

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- CommentAuthorEmily17
I'm surprised you are struggling with that many people as a lot of places by me were min 50. My package is for 50 people.
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My family is much bigger than OHs I'm 50 he's 20 approx and I was worried about him feeling out numbered. He said but your family are becoming my family so really they are all both of our family's. You shouldn't invite people for the sake of it. Have the people you want there xx

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- CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
If you go on th gr0up0n places, they normally do packages for about 50-60 people approx, so something like that would be perfect for you. If it is 50, you can add extras on though

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- CommentAuthorKirstyR386
I wouldn't think of it as "his and hers" guests. Its more like "our" guests. His family are becoming your family and vice versa.

In terms of venues, the B3st W3stern hotel near me does a package for 50 people for £1k which is excellent value so they might do something similar near you. But if you wanted more freedom maybe you could look into local village halls and have something like a hog roast as then it doesn't matter so much how many people you have because its not like a sit down meal. X
- CommentAuthorEmmilou82
  
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MyOHs family out ways mine by almost double but I'm happy with that.... At the end of the day, the people who are important to me will be there... I agree in not bumping numbers just because. It's not about that

I'm sure there are venues out there that will cater.... A nice hall somewhere or a nice pub that have room for a marquee perhaps?!

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- CommentAuthorStephanieM158
Firstly hi and

Secondly I like to think smaller the better to be honest!!
It doesnt mattter if his guests outnumber yours, at the end of the day you'll be marrying your loved one around people who you care about!!
There are many places out there who cater small party weddings!!!
A nice hall or hotel with a marquee or hire a tipi!!
Good Luck and happy planning!!

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- CommentAuthorFlossie
  
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Numbers do not matter at all. As long as you have the people you really want there then that's all that matters. There is no point just inviting people for the sake of it just to bump up the numbers - I'm all for the more intimate wedding. We will be having around 45 guests in the day so even smaller than yours, but that's how we both want it and it will be amazing to be able to share the day with our nearest and dearest. We still have a lovely venue (big country house, amazing grounds) regardless of the numbers - in fact, they have no minimum. Can be as small or big as you wish.

In terms of "sides" that doesn't really matter either. I have more than OH does - but like said above, they are our guests all together, it doesn't matter what "side" they are on. For the ceremony we are asking that people please choose a seat and not a side, so they will all end up mingled together rather than on their respective sides.

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- CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
Our venue had two rooms, one for the larger weddings and one for the smaller weddings,

Our wedding day - 6 October 2012
- CommentAuthorFlossie
Ours has different rooms too. They have 3 licensed rooms depending on the size of the wedding.

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- CommentAuthorFionaG2
Thank you all so much for your helpful comments :) What a lovely bunch of ladies :) xx
- CommentAuthorTicamis2be
hi and welcome :)

I wish I could get our numbers down to 50 lol, would make things a whole lot easier (and cheaper) but my cut down list is 74 and my oh is 1! then there's 5 of us so 80 in total. I found a lot of places do fab deals for 50-60 people x

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