Don't get me wrong, I love my bridesmaids and I wouldn't change them for the world! But I now understand how some bridesmaids can start to become difficult and stress you out!

I have 3 bridesmaids, all from work and 2 of them are actually a couple. When I asked them to be bridesmaids I said that I would always love their opinions on everything. If they didn't like something, just say and we will sort it. But once it comes to September/October, things will be finalised and they wont be able to have a say as much. So, the colour theme is silver. Looking for bridesmaids dresses. Found a lovely one. Strapless, just above the knee, silver with some gems on. I want some sort of detailing on the bridesmaids dresses as I know silver can be bland on is own. Show them, nothing is said. Brilliant!

Today I start going through bouquets etc, and 1 of my bridesmaids tells me that her and her partner (the other bridesmaid) doesn't like the dress as it looks to 'prom like' and 'doesn't want to draw attention to them'! Then starts telling me that I need to go to other bridal shops to look at other wedding dresses. That is when I thought 'here we go, bridesmaid troubles!'. I agreed that we have enough time to look around for other dresses, but once October comes, what I choose they both will wear. So, I look at some more dresses, find another lovely dress. And no again as it has too much detailing on! The she tells me 5 minutes after that she will wear a bin liner if she has to because its my day! Confused!! But then says to me she loves the bouquet! Oh god.

I don't think it would have bothered me so much if they told me straight away they didn't like the dress, but I have had my eye on this dress for about 2 months now and she only just feels the need to tell me! Argh. Welcome to wedding planning and bridesmaids hay! Sorry for the long one! x

If you love the dresses then get them, she's already said she'd wear a bin liner because it's your day and if she really meant that then she would wear what you have chosen regardless if she likes them or not.

I'm not at the bridesmaid bit yet, i have 6, 2 best friends and 4 sisters and one sister has already said she wants straps because she needs support for her boobies but i want them in strapless (buy a good strapless bra woman!!!)..i am waiting til January 2015 to sort mine. I don't want the stress of it yet coz i know she is the only one who is going to create an issue.

If i was brave enough i would just ask for their sizes and order dresses i like and be like "here's your dress, this is what you're wearing, end of" like the week before and then that'd be it.

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I have purposely not chosen a MoH as it would cause wars but i'm just thinking i may go to the January sales next year, get the lot and be done with it, i'm busy enough as it is without the hassle of whingey bridesmaids, it's my wedding and what i say goes! muahahaha!!!! I think i will be brave...it sounds fun, plus i like to be a fraction risky ;-)

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I'm going to have a look around, but I am working with her tonight so I am just going to mention if I cant find anything else then she will have to lump it. I think her partner doesn't want to wear it because she wanted a long dress. She is very tall and very thin. She isn't busty at all and I think she feels a bit eekk about the way she looks in short dresses. Where as her partner is the same height as me, 5ft 1 and is slim, yet curvy and my other bridesmaid is just perfect! She has had 3 kids and still has womanly curves and looks great! So I'm not sure if she is trying to protect her partner if that makes sense? x