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    • Mrs D2B
      CommentAuthorMrs D2B
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Apr 23rd 2016
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    Hi ladies,
    I'm currently getting really frustrated. My sister gets married in June, myself and the other bridesmaids have been talking about her hen since before xmas and we set the date of the hen for the end of may. One of the other bridesmaids took control and booked accommodation and was supposed to be sorting activities. I have tried my best to input things to do places to go etc but since the accommodation was "sorted" we have heard nothing more from the lady in charge, no prices no details nothing. Until 2 weeks ago when she messaged us to say she's had to cancel the accommodation because we didn't have the required minimum number attending and therefore she would have to look again.
    My issue is that we are now a month from the date of the hen and we still have no idea what is happening. I have tried to have an input, suggested places to stay things to do, but the bm in charge doesn't seem to be doing anything. I am now panicking that my sis is not going to get a hen do because nothing seems to be planned.
    On top of that I have no idea how much it's going to cost I have saved £200 towards it but I am now running out of time to put any more aside if it is going to cost more than that. I don't know what to do. If it wasn't my sister I would probably say "sorry I can't make it as it's all to short notice" but I can't let my sister down. I keep trying to get info from the lady in charge, I have even spoken to my sister to try to find out what's going on but nothing is getting done.
    What would you do in this situation? I would take charge and book something but I don't have the details of the other people attending in order to talk to them and sort it. As I said I'm just thoroughly frustrated right now!

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    • StephH96
      CommentAuthorStephH96
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Apr 23rd 2016
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    You say you have spoken to your sister and tried getting in touch with the girl organising it, what did they actually say?

    For whatever reason the girl doesn't want your input so I would leave her to it and just ask for the details so you know when/where to turn up and leave her to organise.

    Maybe have a proper sit down with your sister and see if you can find out any more info or speak with some of the other bms/invitees if you can see if they know anything?
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    • Elinor Claire
      CommentAuthorElinor Claire
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Apr 23rd 2016
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    Could you speak to the other BM and specifically ask who is invited? I would probably just book something myself as well if possible. I did that with my own in the end, as my BMs were both so busy that nothing was getting done.

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    • VikkiH53
      CommentAuthorVikkiH53
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Apr 24th 2016
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    Hen do planning is definitely the most stressful part of the wedding planning process! I would keep the date free bye maybe try and get hold of other invitees.

    If you really don't think something will be planned then maybe book for just you and your sister to go away?

    I know my moh's are really struggling with organising mine, it's taking so much for me not to take over lol
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    • Mrs D2B
      CommentAuthorMrs D2B
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Apr 24th 2016
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    My sister has said she will try to find out what's going on, I don't want to bug her again because this is the one thing she shouldn't be worried about, the bm in charge keeps just saying I will keep you updated. If she doesn't want/need my input I'm fine with that but she's leaving it all very last min, it's supposed to be a weekend away, we all have the time booked off work but as I said we are now running out of time to save/pay for it and if it's more than a couple of hundred I won't be the only one who can't afford it. I don't mind not knowing what we are doing, it's all part of the fun, but when we are yet to be told how much or even pay any money I can't help but worry nothing is being booked :(

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    • FayeH
      CommentAuthorFayeH
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Apr 25th 2016
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    That's a really awkward situation. Maybe send the BM in charge a message just explaining what you've said to us -you're worried people won't be able to come and people won't have saved up enough etc. If framed in a friendly manner I'm sure it won't be taken the wrong way.
 
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