I arranged a day for my honoury bridesmaids & my sister -MOH, so we could all sit down and I could tell them that due to money, they'll be honoury bridesmaids but my sister will bet MOH. I found it quite hard as I love my friends and they deserve to be full bridesmaids :( anyway, my sister let out the bag a to one of the honoury bridesmaids (hb) something that was extremely private, that was just between me, mob & hb. I didn't even realise my sister knew this private info?! Needless to say I hit the roof, I look back & realise that I should of dealt with this after my hb's had gone. But I was so upset, I shouted at my sister & told her off. Bearing in mind, my sister is 23!!! I thought things like keeping your mouth shut should be obvious? So in true sister style, she created an atmosphere & wrecked the day by sulking around & had a 'woe me' look on her face all day. (This is normal behaviour from her, not accepted by me, however, my mom sometimes panders to it). When all the hb's had gone, I asked her why she behaved like that & why doesn't she just grow up & stop making it about her. For once, it's not about her, it's about me for a change! One day, that's all I asked from her to behave! From that moment on, my sister threw a barrage of abuse at me, saying I'm horrible, cruel, offensive, that she no longer wants to be my MOH & that I'm a disgrace. My mom refused to get involved & has so far sided more to my sister, as she's the younger one. After the barrage, she stormed out & walked home, not answering my mom's calls & creating panic for my mom. Are you getting a feel for this person now? My h2b says I need to take a step back now & wait for my sister to come to me, it's been 3 days now, I haven't heard anything from her. I'm absolutely gutted, I didn't think my sister would be like this, I feel let down in terms of support from my mom, telling her to grow up & stop being a child for the sake of one day for her older sister! Am I being unrealistic in my demands in terms of an apology? Am I to blame? Am I horrible? This is not what I expected to happen?! What do you think I should do? :( :( :( thank you for reading my rant :(
CommentAuthorShazk
dont want to read and run sending u big hugs doesnt sound like a noce situation and arguing with ur sister is horrid xx
I think you were right to say something but maybe the timing and waht was said on BOTH sides was wrong.
Could you just send her a message and sasy ur sorry for what was said and that you think you both need to talk about things and wait to see if you hear from her then if not then she is being silly and its her problem you can only try so much xxx
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CommentAuthorSiobhanW34
Thank you, it's just really hard when she is so demanding of attention all that time, feels like I'm giving in to that if I call/text her. Families ay?!
CommentAuthormillz090
I think you should leave her.... she sounds like she is either not bothered by your feelings and if so then don't bother back or licking her wounds as knows she is the wrong but doesnt want to apoligise and make the first move.
I dont have a sister but H2B has 2 and i have never got the whole bond thing as me and my brother dont argue but just get on with life. However H2B's sisters are very full on, in each others lifes constantly and always bickering and falling out (only because they care) but his Dad and H2B will have nothing to do with the arguments and actually i think your mum is right for staying out of it. You are both grown ups and if you are having words with each other for whatever reason then why does your mum need to get involved? Sort it out yourselves as unfair to involve her and make her almost take sides. Good luck xxx
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CommentAuthorSiobhanW34
Your right millz090 I thought about it afterwards & realised its not fair on my mom to bring her into it. I think I'll let the dust settle for a while then try to get contact & see if she responds. Thank you for your help :)
If I was you, I'd wait for an apology! But I am stubborn & if I know I'm in the right, I won't budge. But it's totally up to you, if it means a lot to you that your sister is your MOH, then maybe you need to bite the bullet & make the first step but make it clear that she was in the wrong too! & apologise for how you reacted but nothing else xx
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CommentAuthor*KelBel*
I'm the same, I fell out with my sis in sept and haven't really spoke since, I'm not going to until she says sorry but she's stubborn like me so I'm an only child at the mo lol
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CommentAuthorBecca
No you are not horrible nor cruel or anything like that, my sister didn't even congratulate me, told me I'd ruined my life and that I'll never be anything... She is 16 and I'm coming up 20, she can do no wrong in my mother's eyes so when she tells me I'm the bad egg of the family my mum doesn't bat an eyelid however in chose my closest childhood friend as my moh and both hit the roof! "Why isn't rhianna moh" blahblah ... Right now they don't involve themselves in the wedding as she has chosen to go in the RAF and their both sorting that, I don't get much input from them, so happy planning for me.
Basically I'm the older sister so I know how you feel, your friends will stick by you and hopefully your sister comes around because I know how it feels, you were right to say something though,this is your day, not hers! Big hugs xoxo
CommentAuthorSiobhanW34
Kelbel, siany.x & Becca, thank you so much for your advice & responses, it's nice that you can relate to things and understand from my point of view. I texted her this evening asking if she wants to be part of the wedding anymore & whether she wants to resolve this. (A big thing for me as I am stubborn & I know it's going to take me a long time to forgive her.) she replied with I was angry & upset, I want to be involved. No apology. Hopefully speaking to her face to face & showing her how much she's upset me because of her behaviour, she'll realise an apology is justified. Becca, I'm sorry your not getting the support of your Mom, maybe as your day gets closer & they realise that her beautiful daughter is getting married, she'll see that she should of supported you more. Best of luck to you xxx
CommentAuthorHannahD47
It seems to me like even if you ARE being out of order, she should put her feelings to one side and support you? If I was being unreasonable and abit of a brat (not that I'm saying you are but your sister may see it that way) my sister would probably just say to herself 'Hannahs under alot of stress planning her wedding and as bridesmaid its my job to support her' and she'd just get on with it.
Sounds to me like she wanted some attention!
Hope u get sorted xx
CommentAuthorBecca
After reading this, I went and spoke to my mum about how things are, and she started getting involved, I usually wouldn't be the one to make then first move, but I want my mum involved and just by telling her that she has two daughters not one, she has listened, I hope your sister does apologise to you, I feel much better now knowing I'm not by myself, wish you all the happiness you deserve xoxo
CommentAuthorDonnalisa
I haven't spoken to my Brother for 2.5 years, so I feel your pain. Families eh? lol. Hope she apologises soon. xx
