Ok so my mum has just told me my sister MIGHT not come to my wedding??????????????????????????
Let me start at the beginning, my son is getting christened next month on the 30th. It was supposed to be the 3rd but she turned round and said she booked an extra week for her holiday to cuba so wouldnt be back till the 5th. OK! I booked 4 months in advance so changed it to the 30th, no problem was annoyed but she's family so HAS to be there i WANT her to be there.
Anyway we got engaged in december decided the date in Jan so told sisters and mums but told them we would sent save the dates just so they dont forget, fair enough. So she got the save the date this morning and is now moaning at my MUM not me that its a friday! So she cant possiably take the time off work and what about Shannon (my neice) she'll be 16 (the day before) so she'll have exams! They cant come that day so i'll have to change the date????????????? WTF NO!!!!! END OF.
For a start im not getting married till 29th april 2011 so PLENTY of time to book off work and as for my neice ok i get the exams but im not getting married till 4 surely she wont have an exam then?? and in April?? I was thinking of having her as a bm (of which my sister said she'll pay for everything, so she can be nice lol) but if she has an exam i'll have to think of something else for her to do. But telling my mum to tell me to change the date? HOW DARE SHE! My mum bless her told her not to be so blood y selfish lol and if shannon does have an exam that day we'll work around it lol. Im just so annoyed she went to my mum instead of me in the first place. Grrrrr
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CommentAuthorammo
no way how dare she u stick to your guns love
CommentAuthormrs pinkalice
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yeah i def don't think there's exams in April hun! There wasn't when i was at school anyway. Maybe mock ones but they dont mean anything, and to be honest if i was your neice i would be glad to miss one! It sounds like no matter what you do its not going to please your sister. Its good that your mum told her to stop being so selfish! xx
CommentAuthorMrs Daltry
sounds like your sister needs a bloody good slap and reality check,,they world does not revolve around her schedule and she needs to accept what shes been told not compromise,,,,sorry if that sounds harsh hun,,,stick to your guns and hang in there
CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
Dont worry i will lol. We were going for the sat but our venue was booked :-) so thought why not the friday plenty of time for ppl to book time off if i get save the dates. Just didnt realise it would be my SISTER who would be the one moaning! :-(
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She might have modular exams? I can see that the exams are important, but not being able to get a day off a year in advance is a very lame argument!
CommentAuthorKat
You stick to your date! As for the exams it is VERY unlikely your neice will have an exam in April. Most are in June but sometimes end of May and beginning of July are involved.
CommentAuthorlotbot
that is silly, u would work around any exams or nething stick to what u wnt xx
CommentAuthorKat
Do you know what subjects your neice is doing? I can find out the provisional exams dates for 2011
CommentAuthormrs pinkalice
my wedding is on a friday as well so im sending save the dates in a few months. I've checked with all imediate family who've said its fine so if any of them suddenly decide its not then thats their problem!
CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
Thanks ladies was feeling like poo as really want my niece as bm(both my other neices will be as well, so dont want to leave her out) but if she does has an exam im sure i can work around it somehow. Just really annoyed that she went to mum and told her to tell me to change the date. Changed the christening for her, no way am i changing my wedding for her as well. If she decides not to come as she cant miss ONE day of work..........well that will be her loss and she'll miss a great day.
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CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
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not sure Kat but ill find out when ive calmed down and ask her, thank you hun.
Pinkalice i told her the day and date in jan when my daughter picked it (well she picked the 27th but nearly lol) and she said it was fine as i was worried about it being a friday. But now shes got the save the date shes kicking up a fuss :-(
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CommentAuthorMrs fairytale
stick to your guns girl, she is bang out of order for going to your mum and saying it, if she hasnt got the guts to say it to your face then she shouldnt be saying it at all xx
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CommentAuthorJoolsy
Do not change your date for her she is being really selfish!! I don't see the big deal with getting married on a Friday like you my venue was booked for the saturday so I chose the Friday I mean it's only one day holiday from work she would have to take it's not like your asking her to take the full week off. I think thats a bit shady going to your mum she should have the decency to speak to you about it instead of putting your mum in the middle!! xxx
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CommentAuthorKat
I have just checked every subject for every exam board (not as slow as it sounds) there are GCSE exams planned for march, may, june and july NOT april. But if she is doing early A levels I haven't checked them (am happy to) but it would surprise me if there were any exams in april.
So I say let your sister get on with it, like you said her loss if she decides not to come but she will probably come to her senses about it.
CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
Wow thank you Kat :-) No don't think she's doing A levels so thats fine.
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CommentAuthorKat
I just hope you feel a bit better about it now!
CommentAuthorb2bnicola
All exams are in june and july and she can request the approx dates from her school as they wud go on a rough guide of what this years is! She is being very selfish in my opinion x
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CommentAuthorGemstar
Hey hun, that's ridiculous that you should be expected to change your wedding date for your sister - over a year should be plenty of notice!!
Just for info, GCSE mock exams can often be in March or April but not at 4pm and I'm sure she could probably sit a mock exam on a different day anyway! x
CommentAuthorMrsB
My sis is just about to leave school and her exams arn't whilst may/june so unless its a mock which dont mean anything just a practise but there usually not at 4pm coz schools finish around 3pm most of mine was around 1ish or morning x
CommentAuthorMrsd2b
Ohh lord i didnt think, my son is staying on in 6th form so i guess he be having exams next june arghhh! thats why i picked next year not this as i knew he be doing his main exams this year.. pants i may have to change the date :(
CommentAuthorSuzi
Your joking right???? Some people just haven't got a clue have they!!!! I hope you get her sorted hun!!!
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CommentAuthormym72
I work in a high school and have never heard of exams in April. GCSE's are usually started in May and run to the end of June. Most schools do the mocks anywhere between November and March so that they can get the results back and that they know at what level to put the students in for their GCSE's. Your sister needs to get her priorities right - surely family comes before work.
CommentAuthorCeCe
Sooooooooooooo ok ..it is ok for her to book an extra weeks holiday in Cuba (I am making an assumption she MUST have needed to book time off AND your niece would have gone along?) BUT not for you to have your wedding on a Friday?
Me thinks Princess sister needs folk to stand up to her and STOP using others to relay messages etc...1 day's A/L is niether here nor there on the scheme of things...exams ARE very important BUT I do not recall exams in April.
Call her bluff and say 'ok...sorry you can't come'.
CommentAuthorButterflyDreamer
Don't change the date just for your sisters satisfaction hun, whats to say she wont change her mind AGAIN if you did move the date?? She sounds like she's being extremly selfish. She also shouldn't be trying to get between you and your mum by relaying messages through her (your mum)thats really unfair! Like many of the other ladies have said, there are no exams in april. I hope you get things sorted hun i really do!..... Don't let your sister ruin your big day!! xxx
CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
Thanks for the support ladies :-) there is NO WAY im changing the date so thats the end of that and i turned round to my mum and said if she (my sister) cant make it thats her choice but she'll be missing out not me. As for my niece ive phoned her and asked her to see if she can find out if they have an exam that day next year for me as REALLY want her as bm. Shes not at school for the next 3 weeks tho as will be in cuba as of monday. Was going to phone my sister but would end up giving her a mouthful so left it. Me and my niece will sort it and if she cant book work off.......... well i guess she's not coming then, so tough.
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CommentAuthormrsjones
corrr just reading this makes me made for you!! She needs a good slap in the moosh!
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Sorry that should say mad not made, i was so mad i spelt it wrong lol
CommentAuthorCeCe
Hmmmmmmmmmmmmm so it's ok to have 3 weeks off school for niece and 3 weeks a/l for a holiday in Cuba but not one Friday..ffs.
Am I missing something?
CommentAuthorCupCake
Here, Here CeCe.... I think she's being selfish, and I wouldn't change the date of your wedding, she'll have to work round it won't she? x
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CommentAuthorohfiddles
i agree, totally selfish of her. dont change the date, if everyone esle is fine with it then dont change it now xx
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
is your niece year 11 ? if so exams dont start till may ...... i have a time table of all exams being sat so will find it out and let you know for cetain
No youre right lalabunni. If she is turning 16 she will be in yr11 and yr11 exams do not start until may. Ive got my yr11 timetable in front of me now for this year but they are always relatively the same every year! She will only be revising during those weeks so can have half a day off or whatever for a special occasion. Your sister is being selfish Hails. shes putting up unecessary barriers! xxxx
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
hey joey .......are you another ofthe mad people like me who work in a school ?????
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Absolutely ridiculous. You would have thought that if your niece has an exam the day before your wedding, then your wedding would be a great way to wind down and forget about the stress of the day before.
Tell her if she can't come then tough - you're not changing it... bloody selfish that is.
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CommentAuthorKesha
Hi, I think your sister is looking for things to pick at! It seems she doesnt feel involved unless something is done specifically for her! I only left school 5 years ago and my 2 cousins are 16 and their exams and my exams were in May, not April. You neice may at most need to leave earlier than usual, but by that point, if she isnt ready for her exams, she will never be ready and half a day off school wont change that. Stick to your date, youve already changed one date for her.
CommentAuthorgoldylocks661
Hails, I'm getting married the day after you! 30th April 2011....it's the week after easter and the kids are all usually off school for the week. (They are going back 2mo/Tues after this easter) So don't let ur sister use that as an excuse to change dates!!! xxx
CommentAuthorHoxxyhula
Well if there are no exams then your sister needs to wind her neck in and behave!
CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
lol yep she does.
Just an update ive been on the phone to her this morning and told her ive asked shannon to check about exams for next year but being april and near to easter i thought it unlikely that she would have any. BEFORE i could say IF she has i'll work round it, she bit my head off and said how dare i go to her daughter not her????????????????????????????? Ok i kept calm (just) and said proberly the same way she could dare go to mum and get her to tell me to change my wedding day thats how i dare and if she didnt see a problem with my older sister going to my mother to change something so important as my wedding day then i dared to go to my niece over something as little as to find out info for exams. (she said nothing to this) I then turned round to her and said my wedding would not be moving dates and a year is plenty of time for her to get the day off work after all she kinda works from home anyway so that was no problem and if she didnt then i would know that she didnt really want to come and if that was the case i didnt want her there...................then i hung up lol
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My wedding is on a friday too - so everyone is having to take time off work! You have given them loads of notice I have only let everyone know just over 6 months in advance - invitations have gone out last week - wedding in October. I cannot believe your sister is saying this! I bet your neice will want to be there and be a BM. My best friends two daughters are being my BM's and she has just said they will have to have the day off school! (They may be sick that day!) You have given her loads of time to plan I am sure that she can sort things out! Good Luck!
CommentAuthornewmrshartley
ooooohhhhh my sis would be in her grave by now :)
my best friend is going to be a bm and is moving to america in a few months. i'm not worried, we can sort out her dress around that, or she can have it made over there if i have to send her the fabric so she matches i will do! she may miss out on some of the fussing, but being a bm is as labour intensive as you want it to be, like you said the chances of having an exam at 4pm on a friday in April is slim to none, but she could still be a bm and work around it - might mean she has to start studying a bit early or miss out on some of the bits and pieces but it can be done :) if she is willing and you want her, between you you can work it out.
but yeah, your sister. grrrrrrrrrrrrrr good on you for setting her straight though :) x x x
CommentAuthoressexk
we're getting married on a friday (of the august bank holiday weekedn) and NO-ONE has said that its a problem. Think your sister is jealous that your getting married and is being spiteful about it. Stick to your guns and if she continues to be a pain in the **** tell her you'll pay for Shannon to be a bridesmaid and she can just come to the reception!! x x
CommentAuthorammo
u go girl haha to her.
CommentAuthorMrs T Hurley!
I'm not 100% sure but I think you can get special permission to have the exam taken another day if something is happening outside of school that cannot be rescheduled. Seeing as she will be bridesmaid, she does have an important part in your wedding. A colleague of mine got her exam rescheduled as she had Jury Service... but that wasn't GCSE's and it was a few years ago. Worth looking into though...
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CommentAuthorjenniebean
I think you need to sit your sister down and ask her why she is being such a pain in the backside and tell her how you feel
CommentAuthorKaz
Families can be such a pain in the neck! You're not alone!
CommentAuthorCeCe
If your niece is soon to be 16 she is more than capable of letting Mummy 'work' whilst she is a BM.
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CommentAuthorSteffie
its your day babe not hers!!!! dont you dare change it!!!! xxx
CommentAuthorb2bnicola
Good for u hun! Our wedding is on Bank Hol mon - so for all of h2bs side they'll have to take the tuesday off as more than likely theyd have to stay over (with it being 5 hours drive away) So hes basically said the pple that do come up he'll know are his true mates cos we're giving them enough time to organise a day off work!!! xx
