Firstly I just need to state that one is a rant, other isnt, but dont know what category to put the question so I apologise :)
Non-rant: Im getting married in 2017, venue hasnt been booked yet but is it silly if I started bying things now like bridesmaids dresses ect (their dresses are corset back and maxi dresses so would still fit)
Rant: my sister in law is doing my head in! She wants to plan my wedding and get involved with everything! She married my brother last year & I wasnt invited anywhere. Didnt see her dress or anything. All I got invited to was hair and makeup trial & that was only because no one else could go with her. Now its my wedding she is sending me venues to look at (even though Ive found the venue we want to get married), she wants to know what food we are having, she keeps sending me bridesmaid dresses (even though ive chose them), she wants to come dress shopping then got the hump coz Ive said the only people going with me is my mum, h2b's mum and my maid of honor, she wants her son to be page boy and daughter to be flower girl even though I've told her I'm only having my son (she asked my son to be page boy, he got all excited, then she went "nahh actually i don't want him to be only want my son as pageboy" but I didnt kick up a fuss about it even though i was gutted and annoyed that she did it like that. I have told her I dont need a wedding planner, me and my partner are doing just fine on our own! Grrr feel like ripping my hair out, everytime i get a text from her I dread carrying on the convo incase it turns to talking weddings! Grr give me strength!!
Sorry needed to get that off my chest lol xx
CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
Tell her to shut up!
Just go ahead and do the things you want and ignore what she is sending you. Hopefully she will soon get bored.
Our wedding day - 6 October 2012
CommentAuthorFlossie
Hopefully she will get bored and get the message eventually if you don't entertain her.. can't stand it when people try to make something their business which isn't!! You carry on with what YOU want.
As for bridesmaids dresses, I ordered mine quite early 18 or so months in advance. All my girls are tiny and always have been so I know it is very very unlikely that they're going to change size wise. They need slight alterations anyway so all of that can be dealt with much nearer to the time! I think it's a good cost to get out the way as soon as you can xx
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CommentAuthorGeorginaD78
Everything she sends me I just reply "don't like it" haha, not because I dont like it but because I want her to get fed up and stop sending me things lol. Plus I'd already told her O have chosen things she has sent me. Trust me ive been blunt, I've been harsh, I've been nice. So now I'm just being rude.
CommentAuthorWhovianbride
I personally would not get dresses that soon, things can change in your relationships allot in 2 years, I originally wanted what was my best friend, but when I had my baby, she ditched me. Leave it took the year before to ask people to be your bridesmaids.
I totally feel you in the sil thing. To not include you in hers at all , but expect you to include her in all your plans. She obviously things alot of herself. And to do that to your poor soon, Get him excited about it, then change her mind, we said to my sus in law from that start we were only having our daughter, as it's as much her day as it is our, and we want her to be special and not have to share the lime light with another flower girl. And if we had her boys as page boys it would be unfair on their sister. Aswell as they are both very hard to control.
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Stop replying to her when she sends you stuff. And how rude to turn round and ask your son to be pageboy then say nope!
Our wedding day - 6 October 2012
CommentAuthorGeorginaD78
Yeah i may do that, they will need taking up and i very much doubt any of my bridesmaids are going to put weight on, if they loose weight then i can just have it taken in closer to the day.
She better get bored soon lol. I asked her to be bridesmaid as i was bridesmaid at her wedding now really regreting it xx
CommentAuthorGeorginaD78
She is so selfish. Completely, and tell me I have to go away for a weekend for my hen, I dont want that. Ahh dear!
My bridesmaids are solid. One is my sil, one is a friend from school that is a very very good friend. The maid of honor is a girl Ive known since i was 12, been beat friends straight from the get go. Never had one argument she is like an adoptive sister lol so i know theu aint going anywhere xx
CommentAuthormichgib
You always get one who is a pain in the butt. Just ignore her and she might get the message
CommentAuthorGeorginaD78
Gosh I hope so lol
CommentAuthorMyranny
Have you tried telling her *exactly* how it is? I mean, literally as you've put it to us? If you're at the point of being rude as a response you might as well just say it's nice she's so enthusiastic, but she planned her wedding without you just fine and you plan to do the same. Any ideas she has, she could have had at her wedding and didn't, and if you want her input you'll ask for it. I'd also state that you'll ask who YOU want to be pageboys, or whatever else, and her son will not be one of them. If she wants you to do x, y, z tell her she can renew her vows and do it. You may have done this already, and if so... block her number maybe? Lol. xx
CommentAuthorCharlotteE98
I agree with Myranny, it's time to put your foot down (politely). Or get your H2B to speak to her. My MIL is being a pain in the neck at the moment so I know how you feel, and how hard it is to bite your tongue and not say something you'll regret. And it's all over our wedding photos, when she's getting her usb stick, and that we should go and get our album done ourselves because we can't afford one from the photographer at the moment. And then telling us what hubby's sister did about her album etc. She's doing my head in and I'm so close to losing my temper with her!
I bought my bridesmaid's (half sister) dress about 11 weeks before the wedding. She is 13 so we left it to the last minute because she still had growing to do. We set our date 2 years in advance.
CommentAuthorRachaelB76
think the girls have said it best above. you have just got to be firm with her x
CommentAuthorMrsThomson2B
She sounds mental. tell her she can come shopping with you and tell her to meet you at the shop.....you know the one you wont be at 3 hours after your last appointment that day. thart might annoy her enough to make her back off cause she just wont want to talk to you lol xx
CommentAuthorVelcro
good grief tell your brother to reign her in lol
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CommentAuthorInDreamland
I'd just tell her to keep her nose out of your business and that you're not interested in her opinions and don't want her kids involved in your wedding just like you don't want her involved in your wedding apart from being a regular guest. She is probably just one of those ones who wants to be center of attention. Tell your brother to have a word maybe.
As for the BM dresses, if you're confident none of your BMs will lose or gain significant weight or get pregnant then go for it.
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CommentAuthorJosephineP93
sounds like a nightmare. i don't know how you cope. Just tell her it's none of her business. Or try and talk to your brother, maybe he could tell her tu shut up?? Or tell her that you dont want her to help you because , tbh, you don't like her taste (eh eh ).
CommentAuthorInDreamland
Maybe she needs one of Lala's slaps!
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CommentAuthorZoe.L66
Just say thanks but no thanks. Thanks for trying to help but you have it covered you ask if you need any ideas or advice. Your wedding your way xxx
CommentAuthorGeorginaD78
You lot are funny! Thank you ladies
Speaking to my brother isn't an option, he is kind of scared of loosing his children if he does anything wrong by her.
She is my bridesmaid, as I felt like I had to ask her as I was her bridesmaid for her wedding last year. God I regret it. But still my other 2 bridesmaids aint wanting to know the ins and outs of my wedding planning and wantong to come everywhere with me. She is pissing me off too much. Everything she is suggesting I'm saying I dont like lol. Im not running no plans by her. Whenever she brings up the wedding I say Ive not planned anything or its all done. Im not getting married for two years so I dont know why she is on my case like the wedding is tomorrow haha xx
CommentAuthorVelcro
some realtionship that, if he cant even speak to her without fear of her using the kids as a weapon. that automatically makes her a vile person in my book :/
Wibbly wobbly, timey wimey
*Kelbel* is my wedding twinny!
CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
Maybe go for coffee with her and tell her it's great that she is so interested in the wedding, but could she slow down on the ideas.
Our wedding day - 6 October 2012
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
Tell her you are grateful for all her suggestions and you will consider them when you make your final choice ... THEN JUST DELETE WHAT EVER SHE SENDS....
