There's lots of ppl that have similar weddings especially now vintage and rustic are quite popular themes...I think she's being a little over dramatic to say the least! If they decide to put the plans back on, I definitely think u should NOT discuss any more of your ideas with her, just keep them to yourself or tell ur side of the family x

I could see her point if you were having a really unusual theme - one of the ladies on here had a Lego themed wedding, and I think we have a couple of dr who themes....but let's face it, country garden and vintage themes probably make up the majority of wedding ideas - that's not to say that each of these weddings isn't unique, there just fairly common themes.

If she's cancelling her wedding because they might have vaguely similar conponements then I would question her commitment to get married in the first place - if she's that unhappy she should get her thinking cap on and come up with something different...

Hopefully she'll come round and stop being such a brat xx

She's her own person and I assume an adult (her actions say otherwise), her choices are her own and have nothing to do with you or anyone else - even if she tries to blame them on others.
She sounds seriously unhinged & the kind of person you should generally avoid/not get close to, unless you like being drawn into the soap opera that is her life.

Eugh! People like that are so annoying! Does she remember its a wedding she's meant to be planning (y'know, the old "love and commitment" thing) and NOT a party! Let her spit her dummy out & carry on

so been there lol only it was my mum!! but after talking things through we came up with the arrangement she would postpone til leter so i can help her with planning but right now can focus on my own she was beginning to copy my ideas like the topsy turvy cake she had not heard of before and cupcake trees and a few other things but as she is now doingit after me i really dont mind ! i went the sickly sweet way and offered any of the things i have left over or re-usable from my wedding and offered all the help with the planning. in this case i agree with the other ladies theres something more going on several people have similar themes mine is the sea and living in cornwall means this is fairly common but i wouldnt go cancelling it because someone else had the same thats insane!! i would judt work to make mine unique. My advice would be t ignore her get on planning your perfect day tell her nothing :) the boyfriend is obviously angry as hes worked it out tbh or he surely would have had a word its a very childish reaction! unless of course any of you other brides are having anything im having at mine then there will be trouble !!!!lol good luck to you im sure you will be just fine xx

tell her you're having puce and mustard as colours and see where it goes ;)

Id tell her to put her toys back in her pram and just say lets not tell each other bog all about our weddings in future, I could understand if it was identical, but as pointed out, these things are all on trend at the moment, we have 5 weddings tis year and I can guarantee 4 of them will be vintage. I can understand her strop over the same colour - but as you pointed out, you believed she wanted pale pink and said you would ahnage accordingly. If you were being unreasonable about it then fair enough, but it does seem you have tried to work around her despite you having booked yours first.

Not only that but theres a year between!!! NO one will make the connection, it's only us brides and our lovely men that will remember our weddings in suh fine detail a year on lol

No you're right our boys probably won't remember either lol!!!

Haha Mrs B you devil xxx

You need to find a way to stop focusing on her drama. If she didn't use you as an excuse she would have used another to create drama.
I have one in my life where we all know something will happen because she drops off the radar for awhile, and then when she comes back there is massive drama. She loves pulling people in. I've learned to avoid her at these times.

Rise above it - what a wench!

My 'SIL' decided to wait until the week we returned from kenya and offically announced our engagement to announce she was pregnant- ( she had known for 4 months and waited til the same week we came home).

It was a proper friends " she stole my thunder" moment- but thats thier life and this is mine so put your face on and rise above the drama :)

I'm sorry but what a b!tch!

All you have done is tried to enjoy planning your day, nothing else. Again, these are her issues, not yours. From what I have gathered, the best man is your OHs brother? She is the SIL2B? Therefore, leave it to the H2B and brother to sort out best man duties.

If you did want to speak to her again I would politely send her one last message explaining that you have done nothing wrong in this situation and you have no idea why she is causing such a horrible situation for both your H2bs family as this was certainly not your intention by booking a wedding date. If she doesnt want to talk to you then fine, that you accept that, but you will also accept an apology when she ready.

If she doesn't apologise then fine, again HER problem, not yours. Don't let her spoil your day or planning xx

Sorry but; what an absolute b*tch! I don't understand women like that, why does it have to be a bloody competition? I'd say fuckk em- you've done nothing wrong, she's the one causing drama. The family should be upset with her, not you and the best man should grow s pair and tell her to unclench!

We had a bit of drama with my OHs brother (who was going to be best man). He started drama, ended up splitting the family in two and now his dad isn't coming to the wedding. The family is upset but we made it clear that if they want to start drama and all that then they shouldn't come- we've not done anything wrong and no one is going to ruin our day