We had out our save the date invites yesterday and my H2B's sister has decided to Facebook me and ask why we haven't invited her stepdads children, my OH stepdad has said they won't come anyway, and we have had so much trouble of his stepdad that we don't really want him there to but for his mum to come we have to. But we want to stick by our guns and not invite his previous children.it is really stressing me and out and upsetting me, just perhaps looking for support and any ideas on how to go about it?
CommentAuthor~Beauty&TheBeast2Be~
Be honest? Not replying or making up an excuse will only be found out in the long run. Be honest, it's yours and your partners day, and you will decide who should be there.
Explain he said they wouldn't come anyway, and if it still causes trouble, maybe have a chat and see if they could come to the ceremony or just the reception. All depends on how you feel, but if you don't want them there you don't have to.
Out of interest how old are they? And have they caused any problems before? Is there a reason you don't want them there, or they why they probably won't come?
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CommentAuthorBev
I agree, just be honest. If your OH doesn't want them there that's reason enough not to invite them...
CommentAuthorMrs henderson 2B :)
One is 23 with a partner and two young children below three. The other is 21 with partner and 4 month old baby, and the other is 18. My partner has never got on with them. He had a rough time splitting from his dad and moving from Kent to Walsall West Midlands, his stepdad has not been nice to him at all and has caused my partner to feel crap about himself and he bullies my partner a lot and calls him names including the c word. So without boring you, we have had a lot of trouble of his stepdad which in turn his previous kids haven't been nice either. We just in a pickle because his mum and sister are refusing to come to the wedding. They can't come to the ceremony as we going abroad hence why he said they wouldn't come due to cost. But I've said they are invited to our party when we come home xxx
CommentAuthor~Beauty&TheBeast2Be~
Then i'd still be honest about the whole situation. Explain you would like your sister, mother there, and accept the fact for them to be there the stepdad has to also, but your partners relationship with him isn't the best and more so with his children, you don't want the grief or any trouble, your word is final. Don't let them walk all over you! Good luck :)
If the SIL has messaged your H2B i would just let him deal with it, as its his family, his choice and his responsibility. If she has messaged you then thats different, or if it was your family it would be up to you. Its your wedding, if you have made a choice you dont have to explain it to everyone. X
CommentAuthorMrs henderson 2B :)
She messaged me as apparently I can make my H2B see sense what a joke haha. I shall stick to my guns I think ladies and hope for the best I've still got 22months to go haha. Thanks for the advice and support xxx
CommentAuthor*The NewMrsMalin*
That's horrible; it is both of yours day and you can invite and not invite who you want. Stick to your guns and tell her straight.
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CommentAuthorAna40
In that case, id probably just tell her that its your H2Bs choice and youll be standing by him. Hope it doesnt drag on for you. X
CommentAuthorsarah
I'd refer the matter to h2b and say nothing to her about it at all. It's his family and he should deal with them.
