My h2b and I have asked his sister to be a bridesmaid, along with my sister and best friend. Whilst my sister and best friend have been really excited about the wedding, looking at dresses, and coming to wedding fayres with me and h2b, the future Sis-in-law has shown no interest and just doesn't seem bothered! I'm not expecting anything from her, but she just doesn't seem interested?

I don't know how to talk to her about it, as although we get along, we're not super close... has anybody else had bridesmaid/sister in law problems, does anybody have any advice for us?
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I agree, she might not be the sort who talks weddings until the cows come home or she might be really nervous about it... on the other hand she might not want to do it but doesn't know how to tell you. Have a chat with her and let her know how you are feeling xx

Yeah I'd ask if she actually wants to be your bridesmaid even though she should be excited if you never asked her she'd probs be all moody about not being asked you can't win lol
However when my brother started dating his current girlfriend I hardly saw him anymore n we were extremely close and I do love his girlfriend (she's one of my bridesmaid and were close now) I felt like she stole someone who felt like a best friend she might feel a little like this too and overwhelmed xx

Before I was planning my own wedding I had very little interest in all the planning and lead up to the weddings I was a BM in. This didn't mean that I wasn't interested in my friends weddings or supporting them on their big day.
I feel that the only member of the bridal party that should be expected to support your planning is the MOH. If a BM is interested and able to help that is a bonus but not a requirement. Having an entourage with you as you select your dress and venue isn't ideal imho.

It may be that she wants to do it but feels a bit awkward about only being there because you're marrying her brother. I was bridesmaid for my twin brother and will be for my younger brother. When I was at my parents if Jo and Adam were there I was always up for talking weddings, but there was a limit to what I could really get involved with. Jo's best friend was chief bridesmaid and did most things. I was very aware that I was only bridesmaid because of being the groom's sister, and I think that perhaps affected how involved I was. I was involved in planning the hen do though, because the chief bridesmaid lives in Cardiff as I do, so we got together. I'll have less involvement with Iain and Emily, and I said when she first asked me that I wouldn't be able to devote a lot of time to it other than on the day, as I would be busy planning my own wedding for three months afterwards, but they understood that. We do talk weddings on Facebook occasionally, although I don't see her much as they are in Leeds. It helps that we're both wedding planning. The one thing I have been able to offer in both cases that the others couldn't was knowing the groom even better than the bride did, so perhaps that's something that you can use to make her feel that she has a valuable role to play.

at least it is out in the open now hunny, xxxx