After reading this I'm soooooooooo glad h2b only has 2 brothers lol I get on really well with his sister in law (his brother died) but then again we dont see each other often lol
As for his other brother, well I used to be his boss lol so I think we get on alright!

Show your h2b both sides of the texts then she cant say you said something you didnt and she cant say she didnt say something! Apart from that hunni I would honestly ignore her and not even respond to any more texts.......show h2b them when they come in, then delete

I agree with becky I'm afraid - I know it's really not what you want to hear but what she said in those texts is too far!
I think you need to sit h2b down and say/show him why you & her are not going to be seeing eachother. He needs to know once and for all, from you, what is going on. Otherwise she's gonna keep on calling and lying and moaning and it's eventually gonna wear him down - not that he'll believe her but it'll stress him out less if he's already heard everything from you. Then her vicious lies are more blindingly obvious :)

As for the compulsive liar at work... I'd be avoiding her like the plague! Small talk/work stuff/superficial conversations only - she definitely sounds like she's making this whole thing worse!

And by the sounds of it you have nothing to worry about with your h2b's parents thankfully :) They sound like they know just what she's like and clearly trust your h2bs judgement over her poisonous stories :)

You've already confronted eachother once, she didn't change at all (and seems to have conveniently forgotten these things until you mention it) so (as another person who gets emotional) I don't see the point doing it again. Just cut her out, as long as h2b knows why :) Xx

Big hugs Claire.
Ignore her texts. If you don't give her anything she'll move on to someone else.
I would be fuming about all of this too.
You need to talk to your H2B and show him both sides of the text conversation. That way if she does try to bring him into it he knows exactly what has been happening. You shouldn't have to go through this by yourself.
xx

I told him on sunday what she had sent as he asked what she said but i didnt reply till night time as i wanted to spend the day with my family without spoiling our family day adn i was right to as i got so angry and that would have spoiled our day but he didnt know i had texted her back and he didnt know what she had said but i did tell him that she had said i had a personality disorder as i was so shocked it just came out

I know its easier said then done, but u should just ignore her. She will soon get bored and move onto something else. Also, "least said, easiest mended" as my Nan always says!

I had 2 do this with my Mum, when she was calling on a withheld number and saying very nasty things (I won't repeat these but trust me, cos she's my Mother, she knew my deepest insecurities!). It took a long time, but eventually, cos I ignored her, she stopped and went on 2 do it 2 my sister, but she has now stopped doing it to her now! As u can imagine, me and my sister don't talk 2 our Mum!

Try and do something everytime she txts (other than txting her back!) or if she calls, pick up the phone and leave it on top of the fridge. This isn't being childish, this is u telling her that u will not stoop down 2 her level.

Well she hasnt text me since sunday but i asked matthew when he came home from work this afternoon if he wanted to know what she had said to me on sunday and he said even though he is curious to know he doesnt want to get involved and doesnt want to know so thats fine with me but i went off to work and forgot to take my phone not on purpose though so i dont know if his curiousity has got the better of him or not cos i know if it was me id be reading the texts lol

well he asked if i was going to meet her and i told him no but never told him the reasons why but he knows that shes said that i have a personality disorder. I also told him i wanted him to decide if he wanted to see them or not as i dont want him thinking im keeping anything from him

He wont read them so im not sure if i should keep them or not. I dont want anything to do with her but i also dont want her saying i said this and i dont have any proof i didnt

No you must keep them hun, it's evidence she's being the biatch and has a screw loose into the bargain! You may need these texts in 6 months, 2 years, 10 years down the line... x

Hi hun, id definately keep them, just for peace of mind that if things keep happening u have the evidence of whats been said xx

Let's hope she doesn't. Lol at having the same phone in 10 years, now whats wrong with that ha ha. I used to be able to download my texts to my computer which is good if you can do that ;-)

I just read all of this (took a while) and no wonder you're having problems on the baby front with this amount of stress! What a moo! I'm glad you're having a break from her contacting you and you're taking the higher ground.x

We tried talking it out just her and me but that that obvuosly didnt work. I really dont know what her problem is and what she wants but im sick of her. If she doesnt want to see me then im 100% fine with that no skin off my nose but if she thinks she can interfer with my family then she has another thing coming.
As for him not taknig sides i dont expect him to but as soon as she started saying i had a personality disorder then i think he should have said something to her cos if it was h2b and one of my sisters fighting then i would be saying to them that that is out of order

Ok an update is due on the sil2b from hell.
She is still being a bit ch which hasnt changed. We officially set our wedding date at the start of this month and i made sure she found out through facebook lol just cos i knew it would piss her off and i knew matthew hadnt bothered to tell her and i was right it did. I made sure i told all my sisters and parents before i popped it on though. Well every so often she stirs things up and then goes quiet for a while but on saturday night she got engaged. Her h2b had asked matthews permission way back in the end of jan when he was out with his friends drinking and matthew wasnt happy about it and wanted to have a word with him which never happend well the idiot finally plucked up the corrage to ask her well we we're down at my mums on sunday when matthew decided to phone her. At that point i didnt know but as we were on our way home i asked him what the matter was as he was really quiet and then he just said that sarah got engaged last night. He then started talking about our wedding and how sarahs has been saying that darren (the idiot that proposed to sarah) doesnt want daniel (their son) around me so daniel might not be coming to our wedding. I was telling my sister this and she said that she is basically higing behind darren and using her son as blackmail as she wants an appolgy from me which ive otld matthew heaps of times that im not sorry and wont be telling her that i am. I feel like matthew and me are having the same arguements over and over again. Ive had enough and im at the point in telling matthew that ive had enough and if she wants to see you so uphappy then shes won. If i tell matthew that i give up and that i think we should break up because of her then he's going to be uphappy and if we stay the way we are he's still going to be uphappy so its a no win situation for him.
I told my sister what had happened and she was getting so angry with her and was telling me that i wasnt going to applogies

I agree with lilmisschuckles xx

Hun I'm with LegoBride. In this situation someone has to be the bigger person, and it won't be easy at all, but for the sake of your h2b and your kids it has to be worth a shot. Good luck xx

I'm with LegoBride too. Great advice.

i've just read through the full thing and i don't want to sound harsh, but i really think you need to let things go. you may say that she is the cause of everything, but you know yourself you have deliberately tried to annoy her (eg telling fb your wedding date before her).

if you are both going to try and get one over each other all the time, it will never get better. it's not about winning anything either. you are all l0sers just now and noone will benefit in any way if you carry on like this

your h2b shouldn't have to choose between you and her either as you are ALL family.

yeah, she might have hurt you, but you have equally hurt her. and if my sil2b said her wee one wasn't my niece, i'd be really hurt