we have 'set' the date as 30th June 2012. which already seems ages away, but at the same time it is almost 2011.lol we have yet booked anything we have mainly just googled ourselves to death looked at getting quotes etc, thought of colour schemes. well my OH parents split in May and his mum has completely lost it, she has removed Rob from her will as he still speaks to his dad and she thinks he has betrayed her etc, it doesn't seem to be getting any better. I will not get married without my partner having his mum and dad to celebrate with him but i know she isn't going to be civil any time soon and i won't have her making our day all about her. Also since having our daughter i can't afford to go back to work full time as childcare is so expencive. i have just re-started my accountancy qualifications which finish sept 2012, seren will start pre-school the following January. this will mean not only can i go back to full time but as i will be a qualified accountant i will be on tonnes more money. Rob says that although being my husband is all that matters he only plans to get married once and wants to do it 'properly' he wants the gorgeous venue, the designer suit, the flowers, the live music, the fireworks, the £1600 photographer and that doesn't come cheap. I'm not supersticious but i don't want to get married in 2013 (i don't like odd numbers) the other date we thought of is £rd May 2014 as that is our Anniversary, by then we will have been together 8 years though :( also this is his sisters 30th birthday, she is lovely and i hope she will just see it as the best and most exciting way of celebrating it. i know if we wait till 2014 we will be able to afford our dream wedding and i don't want to look back on the big day wishing i'd done it better. i will have more time as seren will be less needy and i won't be balancing being a full time mummy with a part time job and a part time college course. i just feel disappointed that it isn't as soon as i'd hoped:( am i still allowed to stay here and plan things if i'm not getting married for almost 4 years?
CommentAuthorluvlifejen (mrs berr
sounds like a good future plan hun i dont see why u cant stay here it is a social network for brides and you will be a bride in 2014! :0) xx
soon to be Mrs Berry 26.11.2011
CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
Firstly, YES YES YES YES YES to staying here, you could change the date 2020 and you can still stay here if you wish same as if you get married tomorrow, you can still come back as an old married women hehehehe.
Secondly, your wedding isnt till 2012 plenty of time for h2b's mum to calm down. Its all fresh right now but by then she should have calmed down and be able to put up with her ex for one day for her son's big day, after all like you say hes only planning this once!!!
Could you change the date to the end of 2012 maybe, that way you have longer but dont have to wait till 2014??? Just an idea but at the end of the day its you and h2b that matter and not everyone else so set the date for when YOU TWO want it and dont worry about anyone else babe.
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CommentAuthorbobbysgirl
well i think the end of 2012 would be too hectic, with finding a full time job, my final exams, seren starting pre-shool etc. i think it kind of has to be done :(
CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
Oh :-( well just think of all the little extras you will be able to afford because of the extra time you have to save :-)
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that's just it hails. 2012 would be a budget affair. 2014 would be a fairytale :D
CommentAuthorLittle Miss Bump
You can have a great wedding on a budget affair, but if you really want the fairytale, and think u'll regret it if you dont then go for 2014 :D x
CommentAuthorMonicaGeller
just think - you will be mega prepared if you delay it.
plus you can have your choice of venue etc. you can then get everything that you could wish for :)
xxx
good luck with your accountancy exams - finished mine in june and H2b hopes to sit finals in 6 months time. so we know how tough it is, takes over your life.
CommentAuthorbobbysgirl
thanks yeah it's not as easy now i have baby in tow.lol
CommentAuthorMonicaGeller
you'll get there honey. and then you will wonder what else to do with your spare time LOL
CommentAuthorsarahwasabride
u will be able 2 have a fairytale wedding if u waited, good luck with ur exams xxx
CommentAuthormummyto2
if you waited you could have your fairytale wedding
im a married women now
mrs carson-moores
i love my hubby and my kids with all my heart and soul
CommentAuthorMrs Steer
you know ur options hun its for u and h2b to sit down and decide what you want. If you really want the fairytale then it wont take long for 2014 to come round im sure xx
Is now happily married to my gorgeous man
11-06-11
CommentAuthorSoon2beMrsHall
Ok think in 20 years time when you look at your wedding photos what you will see if you have it in 2012 then like you said it will be a budget wedding(nothing wrong with them i am having a budget wedding which to me is my fairytale wedding) but to you it isnt. If you wait till 2013 (i dont like odd number either but martyn picked or date so i am getting married on the 1st of september 2012) So i think if you have the may 2014 you will have your dreeam wedding and will always love the photos rather then just liking them.
SOrry i go on a bit tell me shut up if you need to
Cant wait to to marry Martyn
Wishes the wedding would come faster
XxX
CommentAuthorKerrylou
Your H2Bs mum's attitude is NOT either of your problem. If she thinks anything of him then she'll be at that wedding regardless of whoever else is there. Don't postpone because of that (ruddy MILs can be soooooooo petulant *sigh* you'll never please her no matter what you do!)
Fairytale wedding doesn't mean wads of cash being thrown at the day, there's all sorts you can do to make it look like an expensive wedding when it could have only cost 3k
Only you can decide, all I can say is that it doesn't boil down to how much you spend, it's about marrying the person you want to spend the rest of your life with - whether you spend £500 or £50,000 you'll look back in 20 years time as long as you did it for the right reasons you'll never regret it xxx
It's right what they say
"The course of true love never runs smoothly"
But if it had been easy then we wouldn't love each other as
much as we do right now - 1 week to go :D
CommentAuthorxxClaire_24xx
we are getting married the 1st June 2012 and I am 8 month pregnant and we are booking the venue and the preist and band next weekend and then I am leaving most of the planning till next summer and enjoying our baby and 6 year old. Peter asked me in September there and I cant wait to be his wife and we are having a budget wedding but have quite a nice budget of around £6000 and we have managed, with rough quotes to stay withing that, our vebue is stunning, well we think it is has just been modernised and they have a twinkle light black dance floor and stage backing, I love twinkle lights lol and we are having canapes and champagne on arrival, a 2 choice 4 course meal and a huge evening buffet, the sit down meal is for 80 and evening reception for 150 the venue do all the stationary and chair covers etc so because we have booked early are getting it all for £2800.
To me and Peter the vows are the importnant thing and sharing them with close family and then a party at night for all our friends, it doesnt have to cost too much chick really for it to be your day, but I am always a believer of each to their own
Also im sure by then your OH mum will see sence, just put it across if she doesnt well would you like it if we invited his dad and not you, no didnt think so lol xx
