My in-laws (on OH's mum side) are not very nice towards me, they don't like me, OH's uncle even told MIL2B last year that he thinks that Gary is making the biggest mistake of his life marrying me. I sent them their invites that they haven't bothered rsvp yet, and one of his daughter (Jade) (who is our friend on face book) has never bothered replying to the 4 messages I sent to her on face book asking for her address, so I sent invites end of January, and since we've sent a text to her Dad, who never bothered replying asking for her address, last week, Gary tells me that his uncle kinda complained to MIL2B about Jade not having her invites yet from us. Since I can't be bothered sending it to her seeing all our attempts to have her address (is she afraid we're gonna stalk her or what) have been unsuccessful, but MIL2B said we should still send her an invite to her parents. I don't wanna do this as she's not bothered replying to all our messages but still expect a proper invite. She knows she is invited and she knows that she can just tell MIL2B her answer and we'll count her in.
What would you do if you were me? Send her an invite properly like everybody else at her parents, or not bother as she's made no effort giving us her address?
Forum Poll
To send a proper invite or not
Should I take time to make an invite for her or not?
Poll Results
Total Votes:
46
YES
4%
NO
96%
Soon to be Mrs Gary Doublé
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CommentAuthormillz090
Wouldnt bother... do you really want her there? Just because she is family doesnt automatically make her invited to your wedding so why pay for her to eat and spend the day with you if she doesnt bother replying to you.
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CommentAuthorFuture Mrs Doublé
I don't especially want her there, she wouldn't bother me much but the fact that herself, her dad, etc. all ignored our requests to get her address to send it to her is what is upsetting, they are not decent so I can't be bothered sending her one. it takes me 15 min to make an invite, from scratch but she's not bothered talking to us so why should I bother
Soon to be Mrs Gary Doublé
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CommentAuthormillz090
No definitly dont bother honey. Spend your time and money on people that deserve your friendship xxx
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CommentAuthorFuture mrs mac
If she cant be bothered to reply to you then don't even invite her - also make it clear no rsvp no entry could be a good excuse not to have these mean people at your wedding
Thanks, the thing is she knows she's invited and she knows she can either text me, email, face book, rsvp on our website or just simply tell OH's mum. but at the end of the day when 30th April comes (last date for rsvp) I will chase people either by face book or phone, if she definitely doesn't confirm by 15th May then she's out and better not turn up as she won't have a seat or anything to eat
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CommentAuthorAnastasia
I voted not because I thought it was rude of her not to reply to your messages & if she knows then I don't see it necessary to send a invite out x
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CommentAuthorFuture Mrs Doublé
Well thanks ladies, cause Gary insisted I send one to her as its the "polite" thing to do, no matter her ignoring my message, he won't even notice I didn't send it and she knows she's invited its not as if she doesn't know
Soon to be Mrs Gary Doublé
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CommentAuthorkrissy905
well to me if she cant be bothered to give you her address to send her invite properly after asking so many times then i wouldnt bother she cant really care if she gets an invite or not.
CommentAuthorFuture mrs mac
Since your making it you could *accidently* put the wrong date on it
CommentAuthorLittle Kettle
Stuff her. I wouldn't bother. In fact someone didn't give us their address so they didn't get an invite! Simple. x
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CommentAuthorOfficially Mrs M
dont bother hun you dont have to invite someone just because they are family
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CommentAuthormrs-anni-oc
i have not invited my brother because he moved and didn`t give me his new address when i asked 6 months ago he said he would send it on FB.. still waiting so as little kettle said... stuff em lol
CommentAuthormrsheavey2b
dont bother hun if she cant make the effort to get bk to u then its her loss not yours she sounds like she is just playing games and being a pain for get about her i would x
CommentAuthorFuture Mrs Doublé
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Well today I received a response from her parents her mum is coming, but her little brother isn't and evil father is not coming either, which confirms what I thought, this b***d doesn't like me. So now I am not bothered AT ALL to send her written invites, seeing that the response from her parents was not even on my own RSVP card, they bought another "Acceptance" card as if my rsvp card was not good enough for them
Soon to be Mrs Gary Doublé
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CommentAuthorGazza 122
I would send her another message someway and say that if she does not rsvp by certain date then you are assuming that she will not be attending the wedding and no space can be made last minite to accomodate late replies xx
CommentAuthordevondark
I would tend to agree with Kev's Angel. would you OH get a bit annoyed if you say you've sent one and haven't. I know you dont want her there but give her that option of not coming by her own choice. Odds are she isn't going to show anyways if the rest won't be.
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CommentAuthorRachie :D
We had people send us acceptance cards along side our RSVP's which I took as a compliment as they actually took the time to go out and buy one hunni xx
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CommentAuthorkatielea100
i wouldnt bother theyve made it quite clear tbh x
CommentAuthorCupCake
All I can say is RUDE, RUDE, RUDE!!!!!
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CommentAuthorFuture Mrs Doublé
Well sorry I wasn't in much yesterday. I have decided that she knows well enough she is invited, so I am not gonna remind her until end of April, if however then she ignores me again then tough she'll be put as decline. I am not gonna lie to OH, but I tend not to remind him that I haven't sent her one, and we are so busy atm that I doubt he'll ask again.
Soon to be Mrs Gary Doublé
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