It is annoying hun but unfortunately this can happen with weddings, life is unpredictable. We are had 3 in the end who didn't make it after confirming final numbers and someone who nearly didn't make it. Reasons were illness for 2 and my uncle who had to rush back to Hong Kong because his mum was taken seriously ill. My sister and BIL had 5 drop outs, 2 on his side and 3 on our side all after final numbers and balances were paid.

To save too much going to waste I offered a meal to our photographer who was very grateful.

Try not to let it bother you too much, it couldn't have been easy for her to tell you she couldn't make it after confirming xxx

My sister did the same, gave 2 of the meals already paid for to her photographer and his assistant xxx

huni i had 3 people pull out 3 days before .....i being my niece who cudnt get the time off !! the other 2 being mr lalas aunt n hubby .... who only happened to tell me bc i was on fb and asked if she was looking forward to it

I think it depends how close a friend she is to you?
If my best friend told me she couldn't make it I would be livid. But if it's someone who I'm not that close to then I think I'd just accept their reason, after all, surely she would rather be at your wedding than in work? Surely she would have done what she could have to be there?
Cathryn is right that for some people they can jiggle the rota around but I think that depends on how big your team is. My h2b is a manager in a department where there's only 2 managers, they are not, under any circumstances permitted to take the same day off because there's nobody else who can do their jobs.
In my job we're only allowed 2 members of staff off on any one day regardless of how busy we are or how many people are working. We could all be sat around twiddling our thumbs but if I asked to take a day off but there were already 2 people off then I'd be told I'd have to take the day unpaid.

And this is exactly why our wedding breakfast will only be for 17 guests (mums, dads, brothers etc) - because I don't want the stress of worrying that people might cancel or not turn upx

I exactly how you feel, as I had two of our guests pull out - on the day of our wedding! and to top it off, she sent a text to one of our bridesmaids to do get her to do her dirty work for her! The only time i want to hear from her is to say she's going to give me the £70 it cost us in food and drink. Anyway...

The fact that she's given you two weeks notice is something. Ring your venue either tomorrow or Monday and tell them straight away. The food won't have been ordered yet, and so I very much doubt if it will be a problem.

That is a pain and unfortunate... it almost feels like a waste... someone might be extra hungry and want her meal!

Have you looked at bumping up an evening guest or adding a plus 1 to someone?

We had a guest text yesterday to say they cant come as cant get the day off work.
No mention of work at all when he rsvp'd
It is infuriating and we, like you have to pay as he is on the package.

His name is on the table plan but I have made the venue away so at least it wont be a spare seat on the day, we will just make that table an 8 seater instead of 9

H2B is gutted though as the only friend that is just his that he invited to the whole day, the rest are evening only and he does not want to bump any of them up

We had a couple who told us four days before that they couldn't come, one person who decided that they could now come (after RSVP'ing No) three days before and a couple whoi just didn't show up on the day (no call or text!) so we had the four on the table plan who wern't there and the one who wasn't on the table plan but came ... and didn't get a favor as we had doubled up the favors and place names (and had to sit on a table full of people she didn't know as we had to shove her on table that the 1st couple were suposed to be on, and that table was full of couples who didn't know anyone else).

There's not much that can be said - but try not to stress over it ... you really won't remember all these crazy little things after the day xx

Wow what an incosiderate person.

Honestly, just forget about it. You dont need to be fretting over such things with only two weeks to go and she obviously was not worth your time anyway. If you can, fill her space, if you cant it isnt the end of the world as you would of had to pay for her anyway.

Just think of it as all part of the wedding process and think of it as done and dusted and dont waste any more time on her!

How bizarre of her to text you saying that?!! So she could have come to your wedding all along? Did she say why she will be in Montrose now on the day of your wedding?!!! How horrible of her to treat you like that. People just dont appreciate everything that goes into a wedding and can ultimately be very selfish. Dont waste time on her hun and just think of your lovely day ahead with the people there who care about you xx

Definitely sounds like the elaborations of a bad liar. What a shame :(