Hi ladies

I was speaking to my dad and he asked if I was going to invite my great aunt, who he is particularly close to. She's a lovely lady but lives in Brighton (wedding is in York) and is ninety years old. He said I should do, but she wouldn't be able to come and I wouldn't expect her to; we'd find it a tough trip, let alone a ninety year old!

My nana is pretty much the same; she lives in Wales and again, it would be a long trip, however she is probably well enough to think she could do it, but I think it would be risky for her as she isn't in the best of health.

Should I invite them just so they don't feel left out? I wouldn't want to pressure them or make them feel obliged to do something that is going to be a lot of hassle for them and put there health at risk. Also, if I invite them and they do decide they are well enough to come up (which is highly unlikely) it means I'll have more people then the venue maximum as the guest list is tight already.

Is there a way of maybe making them feel like I haven't forgot about them? Xx

I'd definately let them know they weren't forgotten about, maybe a nice letter on the wedding stationary or something, or a slightly alternative invite acknowledging that they cant come, but they will be missed ont eh day... or ....something, if that's possible?

We're getting married at The Grange hotel, we're really spoilt for choice in York. Where did you get married? Xx

We're getting married at Burn Hall. Yeah, there's loads of gorgeous venues in York! We found some to be very pricey though xx

O_O wow! How do they justify that?! Would be a lovely place to get married though xx

we had a similar situation with my h2bs family. we knew a couple of them were too old to travel down from scotland, but invited them anyway. they were both really appreciative and wrote us letters saying the wouldn't be able to travel but they were so happy we had given them the thought. x

I would still send them an invite hun and then follow up with a phone call to let them know that you'll understand if they do not come because they wouldn't be able to handle the journey.
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I have invited several people I knew couldnt make it, as a show of respect and I sign I would like them to be there. I think is OK to do this, as then theres not chance of them feeling snubbed. Dont worry about pressuring people to go, if people cannot make it / not up to travel they will let you know : )

i would definatly send an invite, (hypothetically speeking )if it was my granddaughter getting married even tho i wouldnt be able to go it would still be nice to be invited, think i would be disapointed if i didnt get one, maybe feel alittle left out/forgotten about. my cousin is having a c-section on my wedding day - shes having twins! even tho i new she couldnt come i still sent her an invite, she sent me a message on facebook apologising saying she wouldnt be comming and i just said i realised that i just didnt want to not invite her x

I would also send invites - whether they can come or not they will really appreciate it :)

I'd still invite them, but just have a conversation with them at some point so you can explain you understand if it's too far for them. x