Its your day. Follow your heart.

totally agree, choose someone that you want not someone that you should 'traditionally' have

I think you should go with what you want. I don't think it matters who 'gives' you away. I see it more as someone to walk down the aisle with (possibly as a prop!) x

I would love to have my brother give me away but a slight glitch lol i've not seen him since i was 8 because he is back home in south africa, and with my mum she was hardly there for me when i was growing up, and knowing the kind of woman she is, she would try and turn the day around on her and everything would have to be about her.

Its like when i told her bout me & h2b getting married she didnt congratulate me or anything, first sentence that came out of her mouth was "i cant afford to help you" fair enough we know she cant afford to help us because she has been signed off from work permantly, but it kinda hurt that she said that

Were the girl power generation.... Why not wqalk yourself down the alise.. Iknow a couple of ladies who have done just that for a few reasons...

At the end of the day you do what you want....

H2B just said he thinks it will cause friction and fall outs but in the same breath he said its upto me,i said to him that if he has his best mate as best woman i could have mitchell our eldest walk me down the ailse

he will be 5 when we get married

hi you are saying that you want your dad to give you away but you dont want him to show you up, time to sit him down and tell him how you feel, he can't go on treating you like a child.. he should never really have treated you like that child or not as shouting never resolves anything... however l think you have already acknowledged your dad has anger issue's so thats your starting point hunni.. you need to tell him that he is ruining your confidence, and that his shouting has always made you feel nervous.. my son's dad does the same and to be honest he's not a bad person he really can't help himself, it's like OCD, now my boy is 16 he has told his dad he can't stay with him due to this..he was honest with his dad and it broke his dad's heart! which upset my son because his dad had never spoken to him about feelings before!!.. but he has remained strong,, he visits his dad and they go to footi ect together but he wont stay over with him because he shouts and talks down to him, its his dad's way of controlling his enviroment now l'm not saying it's right and l don't have answers to make it right,but he can't control it, but he is trying so talk to your dad, threaten to cut him off if he doesnt get help! mostly tell him he is hurting you, he needs a reality check l hope he listens before he loses out!!! you are his only child good luck l hope it works out for you xx