arrrrrrggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhh! im so frustrated with h2b today.
it was arranged for today with the best man (my bro) would be taken to tailors to be measured up for suit. originally i was going to drop h2b and bm off so they could go for a drink. unfortunately my bro couldnt afford to go out, so whilst we were all out i decided to take the opportunity to go with our daughter and source jewellery & shoes etc. (which h2b knew about)
my little girl was so excited about some shoes she wanted from monsoon and assumed i would be buying them today. i nipped in the shop and h2b stood outside with face like a slapped ar$e and showed no enthusiasm at all.
after BM had been measured up, i went into debenhams bridal section to see what they had and again he stood there playing games on his Blackberry and i could see from his face he was about to break out in a rash at the thought of shopping for an hour or two. he then said he would stand my brother a couple of pints whilst i shopped and meet up with me later. i agreed to this just to get him out of my hair, but then our daughter wanted to go with dad as she thought we would be having a meal, he then pulled his face at this. in the end i sacked the entire idea and im really annoyed that he saw it as an inconvenience and didnt attempt to make it fun for our daughter. i have planned this wedding and included our child all the way through by giving her small jobs to do but it was almost as if h2b just couldnt be bothered. ive also just mentioned to him AGAIN that he needs to contact his uncle and make sure he received the invites, as im a touch concerned that the ones ive posted out havent been received by the guests. he then started going on about why i am expecting people who will definately be going to RSVP. i explained that having it in writing make it easier to calculate No's for catering purposes. his response; why expect your step father and best mate to reply in writing for example when they have both verbally said yes.
why cant he understand, that no matter how many times i tell him that a wedding doesnt just happen and the finer details still have to be looked at well in advance - or is that just me?
i know he hates shopping but sometimes it has to be done. he even wants me to get ******* rings in so we dont have to go out buying rings - i am not against this idea but i have a giftcard and some discount for a particular jewellers and thought this would be the first place to look! he has just turned around and said 'you never mentioned looking at rings today'. why would i want to look at wedding rings when my child and brother was with us???
he has now gone upstairs to strip daughters room for decorating, and knowing how he works the job will completely overspill through rest of the house.
hes off for the entire week and already i want to throttle him.
am i just being touchy or are all your h2bs like this??
xx
all ive got to give to you are these 5 words tonight
Thank you for loving me, for being my eyes when i couldnt
see. for parting my lips when i couldnt breathe
thank you for loving me xxx
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
Hmmm the shopping I can understand him having a face like thunder and getting in a bad mood but it doesn't mean that he should take it out on his own daughter. He could have just explained that shopping would be a lot more fun than sitting in a grotty pub with old men and that children are not allowed in unless they are eating. (would have been kinder on her)
As for the invites and RSVP's I'm of the same opinion that they should reply as you need to know what dinners, numbers there are etc so you can sort things out. You never know who may decide they are not coming and you have just assumed that they are coming.
I have to admit that Kev is really good when it comes to shopping as he enjoys it but if he didn't I wouldn't force him to do it. That would be like making you go fishing or something?
CommentAuthormrs handforth
aww hun its not only your h2b mine does same whilst out shopping he always has a face on,im dreading when we have to go for suits etc,and also no your not been touchy as i think thats the reason men was put on this planet to wind us women up xx
CommentAuthorLisa Ramos
You are so not being touchy! One of my pet hates is the face pulling and as you have planned the wedding it's not too much to ask for a little enthusiam. Our son is the best man and he was moaning when I made he come and try the suit on and I ended up kicking off on the way there, as I told him he was spoiling what should be a happy time and that he should be honoured he was asked to be the best man. He soon cheered up once I had gone psycho ballistic. Maybe that's what you need to do?
I love my lickle Ava
CommentAuthormartay (marie)
he wasnt taking it out on elizabeth, jo but he just really annoys me when he stands outside every shop i go in and never attempts to get involved, i then fell really stressed and mithered and end up abandoning trip. (all this i have just told him) and he reckons he wasnt pulling his face. as for the pub he wouldnt take elizabeth into a dive and shes so used to eating out she assumed thats what dad and uncle would of been doing. i did suggest us all going but this too got the kibosh. im just really narked with him now, although he has promised to ring his uncle later to check receipt of invites - im not holding my breath on this though xx
all ive got to give to you are these 5 words tonight
Thank you for loving me, for being my eyes when i couldnt
see. for parting my lips when i couldnt breathe
thank you for loving me xxx
i can understand y he was like that if its his week off what you should of done is left it till the middle of the week then went and done all of that bcus the last thing us men wnt on our days off is to go shopping we wnt rest pub and football or golf
CommentAuthormartay (marie)
ha but thats the thing. he had arranged with BM to go yesterday, i didnt force him to go. plus he got beer and football when he got home as i knew his team were playing and woe betide anything getting in his way!
all ive got to give to you are these 5 words tonight
Thank you for loving me, for being my eyes when i couldnt
see. for parting my lips when i couldnt breathe
thank you for loving me xxx
CommentAuthorMagicFairies
my h2b is the same with any shopping, but particularly wedding shopping - he doesn't like too many options! and he hates shopping for more than 30 mins at a time! they can be like four year olds - such short attention, bored so easily and throw a tantrum when they want to go home! once this has happened there is no way we can choose anything else together - he just shrugs at everything and turns into a grumpy old man! grr.
he's always better on his own though, he says he wants me to help him decide but i find he is better when he has the illusion that it is his choice - i say "what do you want to get off the wedding/ shopping list?" he chooses something and i let him go away and find whatever he likes (while hes doing this i can do some shopping) he comes back, we compare stuff we've found and i help him decide what it is he wants! works well - everyone is happy :) xx
CommentAuthorNeilHartland
men cnt shop with ladies we hate goin in and out of shops and being asked do u like this or what do u think like we are goin to wear it grrrrr if YOU like it then get it stop askin what we think bcus u knw already what we will say( yes its fine or its ok) grrrrrr then you go in a mood like its our fault that you cnt choose
CommentAuthormartay (marie)
so neil if that is the case why did he say yesterday that he wants to show an interest???? FICKLE!!! when we initially opened the account for groomswear i had to tell him about 10 times our colour scheme is monochrome with touch of silver, yet he still stood in tailors pointing out BEIGE suits!!! Now today as hes in a mood (decorating) i went out and ordered a new fridge (which we need) and bought the shoes for FG (our daughter) she was really excited when i shown her yet twice i had to ask him what he thought. miserable sod!! even elizabeth told me he was in a mood, and its not like i went out having a long lunch with friends. The fridge needs to be replaced, and i got sick of waiting for him. !!!!
got another 3 days of this and by then i may just be a raging alcoholic!!!!!!!!
all ive got to give to you are these 5 words tonight
Thank you for loving me, for being my eyes when i couldnt
see. for parting my lips when i couldnt breathe
thank you for loving me xxx
arrrrrrggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhh! im so frustrated with h2b today.
