Oh dear, my bridesmaid was having an anne summers party last night and I text her to explain that I have no money and couldn't make it - she said fine its cancelled anyway and I was in some state last night because I felt so bad that I couldn't go and having no money doesn't help matters. Then this morning I text her to ask how she was and she sent a message asking who it was! She knew it was my number and then she started saying that I always let her down and that I am not a friend - she constantly let me down when it came to my pregnancy - promising to come to antinatal classes and not showing up or cancelling so that I didn't have enough time to make other arrangements to get there. She borrowed money off me and I haven't got a penny back and I am always there for her when she has a problem with the man she is having an affair with and I have never let her down before - going out with her so she can get a drink when I was 9 months pregnant and tired and unwell. Now she is just being hurtful and cruel - I told her I can't go out every weekend now because I have a baby and even if I wanted to I can't afford nights out every weekend. When I tried to organise us going out she always has "other plans" I'v been breaking my heart for the past three hours since she text to tell me I am a total bitc* and that my h2b is a waste of space and she hates us both how can she be so bloody mean? This girl was going to be my bridesmaid and I am so hurt. Am I being unreasonable or is it acceptable that I couldn't get the bus to see her because I was in hospital with an infection in my c-section wound and for the past 5 months was not allowed to lift my baby let alone go out on the lash. Ok rant over x

Some people are too self centred to be good friends. Don't waste your energy on her.

Agree with Dove and Goff, ignore her she sounds far too self centred hun. You have done far too much already and need to concentrate on yourself (and those dear to you), she really doesn't come across like a nice person.

Deep breath and walk on by babes

I agree with Goff. People like her don't deserve even a second thout. She'll need you before you need her by the sounds of things. Forget her and when she comes running make her grovel xx

For one thing she sounds like a right mare and tbh if it was me having this prob I know Rich would have rang her or gone round there to give her a piece of his mind.

Ignore it, at the end of the day she will need you before you need her, if the party was already cancelled then nice of her to tell you. Concentrate on you getting yourself back on your feet and being the mummy you are. She's missing out sweetie and not you - huge huge hugs xxxx

Being asked to be a bridesmaid is a huge honour! She doesnt deserve the title or the invitation! im sure you have other friends or family who would be delighted to do the duty. chin up hun its all about you.x

Olli's mummy - you are hurt because you thought she was as much of a friend as you are to her. You need to tell her how you feel and see if you can patch things up (although I suspect she'll do it again to you) or move on without her.

Hey Jax1 - I'm from Cheshire originally. Is that your dress in your pics - it's beautiful :o)

I agree with Tinsel, you need to at least try to make it right with her although you've done nothing wrong. Believe me life's too short to be hasty and just cut your losses. If she is too self centred to buck up her ideas then yes she's not worth your time, but you need to at least try x

Good on you babes xxxx

id move on hun. i have a friend who is like that. everything gotta be about her. she had her son 6 weeks before i had my son. and it seems to be a constant competition between her and me. i change my status or pic on fb so will she. and she deletes anything i write on her wall or pics. so i dont bother anymore.
if im ill or my son is ill her or her son have it 10 times worse.
she was my best mate for years, holidays together, lived together everything. now i cant stand her. i dont even thinki will be inviting her to my wedding.
hope you get it sorted hun xx

You honestly don't need this cr*p hun she's not a friend she is the scum of the pond of life floating around occaisionally attaching to shiny happy fish (you and h2b) that eventually get fed up of the irritation and break free. Now is that time break free of the scum whilst it's her pushing off. You may not get another chance xxx

kick her to the curb

you dont need friends like that hun just forget about her and move on xx

It's hard to walk away from toxic people but once you've cut ur losses you'll feel much better my lovely x

shes not worth the tears or talking about if she can say such hurtful things and as for having her as a bridesmaid i certainly wouldnt if it were me hun as stated earlier in the thread its an honour to be asked and by the sounds of it she doesnt deserve the honour x

well said emster! xx

Well now you know what she is really like you are better off without her hun hugs from me too thank goodness you found out now imagine what she might have been like with you on your big day now she cant spoil it so thats a positive you have grown up and moved on hope she does the same xx

No one needs people like that in their lives, move on :) If she cannot understand the reality of living with health problems and financial problems and that of course being your so called friend, then she's not worth the entitlement of being a friend, she clearly has no regards to your feelings hun. Self centred bitc*! *hugs* Xx