Hiya vodkachick, my first wedding was 1988 and my second is this May
There is so much more to spend your money on these days!! I bet you'll be going "What's that?!....We never had that/did that the first time I got married" lol x
Finally Mrs Grove :)
CommentAuthorkatie1991
Welcome and congratulations Hun xx
CommentAuthorUnknown
you will get loads of ideas and help on here! xx
CommentAuthorMrs Ross
Hey welcome and congratulations this is my 2nd wedding too my first wedding was in 2008 now in aug 2013 i will be marrying my best friend if you need any help on anything id gladly help!!!
CommentAuthorstressed to max b2b
can i just ask all the ladies that are on there 2nd marriages when u married for the first time did u ever for one minute know/think u was doin the wrong thing?? or did u truely belive/hope that it was the one? xxx
met him 25/8/97
he proposed 4/3/98
get married 21/4/12 then i will become mrs johnson
3 beautiful children together
CommentAuthorvodkachick
stressed to max b2b....went into my first marriage totally believing that i was doing the right thing and that he was 'the one'...until 9 years later when he had an affair with my mate!!!!!!!!!
CommentAuthor~feebee~
I knew I was doing the wrong thing but I didn't want to be on my own!
Still, it was a lovely wedding lol
Finally Mrs Grove :)
CommentAuthorClareS
Hi and welcome to the site. Weddings change from year to year so you'll notice a big change! This is my second wedding too. My first one was 12 years ago and stuff I arranged then that I thought was new and 'in' seems so outdated now lol. The ladies on here are fab for ideas. I hada big thing getting over the fact it was a second wedding and shouldn't have a big(ish) wedding and didn't think it was the done thing. Once I'd gotten over my issues and had a word with myself lol I was fine and able to get on with planning like anyone else. :)
CommentAuthorClareS
Stressed to max b2b, to answer your question, I went into my first wedding thinking that would be it for life and there would be nobody else. Wasn't interested and passed off the 2 advances that were made towards me after we were married. I loved him completely and 100%, that was until he pushed me and I ended up at the bottom of the stairs. (he pushed me because we had an argument about children. I had an ectopic pregnancy with lots of complications which means I may not be able to have further children. He decided he definately wanted more and wanted to try for another one as soon as possible and didn't want to wait for me to finish grieving over the child we'd lost!) I got up and left with my son, who was still very small, there and then. Wasn't going back and never have. Yes we may have worked it out but I didn't trust him after that. :(
CommentAuthorJules
I had my 1st wedding in August 2002 and my 2nd 1 is in September 2013. I knew I was doing the wrong thing, he'd already had 1 affair while I was pregnant, but I thought things would get better (how wrong I was), but another 2 children l8r and things hadn't changed, they'd got worse, so I finally came to my senses and plucked up the courage to walk out (with the boys obviously). The only thing good that came from it was that I now have 3 gorgeous sons that I adore. I know this is right this time round because it is so much different and i'm really looking forward to it. x
I'm marrying the man of my dreams xx
CommentAuthorvodkachick
Hi ClareE....so u havin the whole thing....bridesmaids etc.....its wot i want but unsure...dont wanna feel like mutton dressed as lamb..if u know wot i mean....im not 21 anymore!!!!!!!!!!!
CommentAuthorkrissy905
i sort of knew i was doing the wrong think but hoped it was just pre-wedding nerves, 4 years and 2 kids later i left him he wasn't quite ready for the married with kids life instead of the single and squiddie life his mates had unfortunatly for our children he died 15 months later so im classed as a widow in the eyes of the state/law but feel fake telling people that as we were separted at the time.
CommentAuthorShell2013
Reading a lot of these posts ring very true for me. This is my first post so might be a lot of nonsense! I first got married in June 2003. I was 21 with two very young children and we both new it was wrong (I had already forgiven one affair and suspected a second) but felt we should for the children. We separated in June 2004 and finally divorced in August last year. We are now very good friends (as we were before we started our relationship) which is far better for the children and us. I always tell people he is an amazing father and friend but an awful husband! I got together with my Fiance 5 years ago in March 2012 but we have been friends since 1998! Our relationship came as a complete surprise to us however friends said they had seen it coming for years! We have a beautiful 2 year old and he proposed early Christmas morning as we were laying the presents out under the tree. It is amazingly wonderful this time round as it is completely right and feels so different. We are aiming to get married in July 2013 so there will be a 10 year gap for me. A lot of things are so different this time as I have grown up (just a little bit) and I'm not scared to go for what I want rather than what people expect of me. This time round my Fiance is also interested in the planning and is really into having an involvement. At 30, I feel like a teenager again and I'm very excited!
CommentAuthorClareS
Yeah, we're having ceremony, reception and night do all in one place. I couldn't decide on a dress as thought I wasn't entitled to wear a big frock with it being a second wedding. Why I had these hang ups I don't know. I just couldn't see big dresses in my venue, alough previous wedding I'd been shown looked stunning. My mum is giving me away and I'll be having my sister as matron of honor and 2 other bridesmaids and my son will be page boy. I've got my wedding mojo back so really looking forward to it and making arrangements left right and centre at the minute :). When looking for dresses, don't worry about age. you try on what you want, it's your day and you need to feel special and happy xx
CommentAuthorClareS
aww shell that's lovely, and welcome to the site :) x
CommentAuthorkrissy905
shell im really pleased for you i got married first time in june 2003 and im getting married on 27th july 2013 so will be a ten year gap for me to and 4 years since my ex died so wont seem like ive replaced him as a dad with h2b he was also a good dad but a awful husband and we remind friendly afetr we split. getting married this time feel right and nothing like the last one so plan on having the day i want. xxx
CommentAuthorShell2013
Aww Krissy. Sorry to hear about your ex. Although you were separated at the time I'm sure you felt the loss for the person you once loved and the father of your children . My own father died when I was ten so I know how it feels to lose someone so important at a young age. My mum and dad were just divorced when my dad took his own life and she still mourned him. Unfortunately people didn't feel she had that right but if you are open about the good things he did it will keep him alive in your children's hearts and they will love and respect you for it as that's how I feel towards my mum. Glad to know that things are on the up for you. If you feel anything like I do it feels like I spent a long time climbing a very steep hill but have now reached the top and the sun feels amazing! I have had ups and downs in m,y life but it makes me who I am today and I will just get stronger from it! x x x
CommentAuthorShell2013
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Thank you ClareE x x x Glad to have other people to talk to as I feel I've already chewed my friends ears off talking weddings lol
CommentAuthorClareS
oh the ladies on here are great. Just when everyone else starts covering their ears when you even think of the word wedding, the ladies on here listen at all times of day and night :) They have so many ideas /alternatives/solutions it's fab x
CommentAuthorkrissy905
Thanks shell its exactly like you said and we may of not been together at the time but he was still the father of my children and had been through a lot together they were only 2 and 4 when he died so although they wont remember to much of when he died i want to keep his memory a life .my own mum died when i was 11 so can relate to how they feel and can now say it helped with dealing with it and them. they get on really well with h2b and have been calling him daddy for a while now he was pleased as punch when it happened they just came out with it one day was a bit of a shock at the time.
CommentAuthor~feebee~
I am having a big dress and even bigger car this time!!
Finally Mrs Grove :)
CommentAuthorClareS
feebee, you go girl lol :) x
CommentAuthor~feebee~
He he, thanks Clare x
Finally Mrs Grove :)
CommentAuthorstressed to max b2b
sorry to hear about your losses ladies xx and im glad there is some that admit they knew what they was doin was wrong but still went ahead for different reasons i hope all u ladies find the perfect happiness with your h2b's :-) x welcome to the site have fun and enjoy xxx
p,s i hope noone thought i was asking because i frown upon it (second marriages) because thats far far from my asking that infact xx
met him 25/8/97
he proposed 4/3/98
get married 21/4/12 then i will become mrs johnson
3 beautiful children together
CommentAuthorkrissy905
I'm having all the things i missed out on last time to febee my first was very low budget to the point of the wedding night at a local hotel was a gift from the girls i worked with or i would have been going home, had no honeymoon was back at work on the Sunday 2 days after the wedding had my reception at work so got the buffet cheap and room for free boss decorated her Mercedes to take me to the registry office and friend did my photos for free. think i probable spent less then £1000 and cant say i enjoyed it all that much but that wasn't for these reasons.
CommentAuthorClareS
stressed, no didn't think you were being nosey etc. It's probably a question others had thought of but dare not ask it lol x
CommentAuthorstressed to max b2b
hehe im just honest and probably a bit too blunt for my own good sometimes but its who i am and i cant help it lol x
met him 25/8/97
he proposed 4/3/98
get married 21/4/12 then i will become mrs johnson
3 beautiful children together
CommentAuthorClareS
and don't you change either, I'd rather have someone ask a question than not x
CommentAuthorstressed to max b2b
:-) x
met him 25/8/97
he proposed 4/3/98
get married 21/4/12 then i will become mrs johnson
3 beautiful children together
CommentAuthorvodkachick
stressed...it good to be honest....there was a lot of lies in my marriage and with some so called friends, i agree with ClareE...id rather someone ask a question and be upfront than not ask at all or make their own answers up.
ive started looking at dresses.....is it too early.....only had 6 weeks to plan first wedding.....got over 2 years to plan this one xx
CommentAuthorstressed to max b2b
vodka its never too early to start looking and planning hun!! plus if u start looking and tryin on then u get more choices and more times to get to try all those amazing dresses on hun :-) u dont have to make any commitments yet. just keep in mind that new season will come out later this yr and next yr xxx
met him 25/8/97
he proposed 4/3/98
get married 21/4/12 then i will become mrs johnson
3 beautiful children together
CommentAuthor~feebee~
Never too early hun x
Finally Mrs Grove :)
CommentAuthorvodkachick
think a bit of window shopping is in order then at weekend lol xx
CommentAuthor~feebee~
Yay, why not! lol ;0) x
Finally Mrs Grove :)
CommentAuthorClareS
It's never too early to start looking! If you've got plenty of time you can try lots of dresses on and get a feel of what style to you like. When you've picked a style you can then look at the finer/finishing details that you lije. You've also got the added bonus of picking up some very good bargains in the sales lol x
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
my first wedding was 1983............ 2nd april (& june) 2012
asked my best mate to be my matron of honour last nite.......she wants to know when are we starting shopping!!!!!!!!!!!!
CommentAuthorClareS
awww bless her. See, you've a good friend to do all the weddingy things together :) Wedding fayre season is about to start again so make sure you check out your local venues that may hold them. Get samples of everything and as many discount vouchers as you can lol
CommentAuthorvodkachick
gonna get local paper and have a look....or is there a site online that i cud use to find out where they are x
CommentAuthorMrsWade2B
Bit late to the party but congratulations and hi anyway! x
CommentAuthorClareS
I've usually seen them advertised in the local papers and on banners outside the venues. Some areas advertise them really well, wedding magazines, especially if you're down south x
CommentAuthorRaggedyAnne
my first wedding was in 1985 and my 2nd wedding is this year. things have changed. but THIS time we are having what we want, and not doing things to please anyone but us.
