Hi ladies,
just a wee rant about something many of yous can probs relate to....MONEY! I hate the things, more so now. Me and H2B have not got 1p towards our wedding because we dont make enough. He works his backside off every night and I do p/t as well as have the kids. Past few months it feels like all our money is budgetted away before its even came in. As it is he is due to get paid on friday and thats ALL spoken for! As is my money we get every week, minus £50 for shopping and his lunches. What annoys me most though is his brothers gf has just been given a FULLY FURNISHED HOUSE by the council, all paid for and everything! She doesnt work and left college where she was doing a beauty course to "go on benefits else I wont afford my house" < in her own words btw! Then my brother is expecting and his on/off gf isnt working neither is he but she gets her house paid for, their kid will be paid for when it comes and he went upto the council to get a house for himself cos the "cant live together" ! WTF?! I know times are hard but just because you are 'better off on benefits' does it really mean you should sit your backside on them instead of working? I know some people genuinely are looking for work but i am talking about the lazy so and so's who cba!

At least you're working for your money so can see the rewards of your efforts :-)

I know exactly how you feel! We both work full time but nearly every penny we get is gone before we get it! We have a mortgage and a car and all the bills put together leave us with very little at the end of the month. The only way we can afford the wedding is because my man is an only child and his mum just retired so she has given us money from her retirement payment to pay for the venue. We've had to go for a venue I didnt really want at first, I've grown to like it now though. We've had to go without the Beauford car I always wanted (£300!!! no chance) and we cant afford a proffessional photographer either. We have managed to find lots of bargains though. Its very annoying that some people can sit at home and are better off than people like us who work our butts off. I hate my day job, I only do it because if I didnt we couldnt survive. If you need help on bargain ideas give us a shout

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Its just shocking that people who work their backsides off arnt aknowledged yrt those who cba working get it all! I phoned up the tax credits recently and the lady says we arnt entitled to help with dental care etc cos my partner makes just over what is the maximum. She actually advised me to get him to CUT DOWN HIS HOURS! These are meant to be people who are enforcing working aswell! Good on us and good on our men. Atleast our kids will be brought up with a good working attitude x x

i know how you feel. Adam and I bought our house 18 months ago - I have never been on such a good wage and yet I'm the poorest I've ever been! Half my money every month goes into the joint account to pay the mortgage, bills and shopping. I will admit that the reason I don't have much ready money is because I have 2 standing orders set up for savings (for the wedding and just a general account) but I don't consider that to be my money as its spoken for, and the rest goes on petrol and other things I need. I hardly ever go out because I'm saving every extra penny I have for the wedding and honeymoon etc. Its frustrating :o(
On the plus side though, I've managed not to dip into my overdraft for the last 2 months in a row - I'd been stuck getting into it every month since last Xmas but have managed not to! yey :o)

it really annoys me that some people choose not to work! Adam and I work blo*dy hard for our money, I'm a teacher and he works for the council doing HR - we leave for work at 7.45am, I 'finish' at 3.30 but don't get home til after 5 most days and he 'finishes' at 5 but never gets home before half 6.
My best friend used to work for DWP (Department of Work and Pensions) and he had to answer the phone calls from these people, complaining about their benefits and stuff. He said it was really really frustrating and felt like turning around and telling them to bog off and get a job!

Ugh such people really annoy me! H2B is now working nights as he was made redundant last year. The got a job that was a 0 hr contract. But has now managed to get a job working nights which is much better pay. I work pt and recently started delivering catalogues (K&Co, Very etc). Did the first lot in June and just finished the second lot on Monday. Got a call today that the lady has pit me forward for the courier work which i will be starting next week (with our daughter in the car, while N gets his sleep in the day).
As they say every penny counts and its all going towards the wedding.
My mom, sis, dad & uncle have offered to help (mom buy my dress, sis buy her bm dress n my daughters fg dress, my dad pay for reception venue and sort dj, uncle to sort food for buffet) despite this we are still trying to make sure we have money to cover these ourselves as both my parents suffer with diabetes, my mom is a foster carer so i dont want to take that money tbh, & my sis is in her final yr of uni.
Either way the wedding will be paid for by HARD work and if we do have the help those people will have also worked hard to give us that money

Exactly Geri. Hey we might have to bend over backwards to do our best but as long as i'm not filling the stage on jeremy kyle looking like a tramp with no teeth arguing over who my baby daddy is...
I will do anything for my family n so will N. x

Yep! I may not be rich, or skinny, or be having a huge white wedding cuz we r broke lol...but i'm so HAPPY...n that's all that matters to me! x