i can understand how pants that is! we got engaged on 27th november h2b parenst said they will take us out for meal for it...... its nearly march still no meal! but theyhav made special meals for cousins etc for birthdays since!! grrrrrrr lol

No you really dont sound selfish or jealous, i think your right to be upset and annoyed. I know i would be, he is your dad, he shouldnt have that kind of attitude towards your wedding, i'm sure you're old enough to make your own decisions! He should be happy for you. my parents arent contributing but they have no money whatsoever, h2bs parents have savings but theyre retired and we arent getting anything from them either although his dad did pay for the engagement meal for 8 of us. I think maybe you should talk to your dad about it? say you dont appreciate all the negative comments he has on your wedding, its not fair on you xxx

Id feel the same in your situation as well. I agree with the girls, see if your mum can have a word with him x

Not at all hun. When my dad split from my step-mum my baby sister, who was still at home at that point, got bought almost everything she wanted - including regular pairs of nu-rocks at £100+ per pair. She would tell me all about how she had got this and that, and it really did hurt that my dad was throwing money at my sister and ignoring me and my brother - I can only assume that he thought it wouldn't be as upsetting to us as she was our step-mum, but she had been in my life since I can remember - and I still consider her family now!

thanks all girls at least when say something its not going to look like me being selfish and just wanting his money. to be honest if i didnt feel i had to invite him i wouldnt he is pervy to my friends and makes crude jokes he doesnt care about anything other then getting out of paying for anything.
my mum will say something to him but they arent exactly friends he was abusive and left her for another women when i was tiny since then she brought us up without anything from him so shes giving me away as i think she deserves the right.
i wont be having my dad on top table my real parents (mum and step dad) will be though and there will be a surprise thank you gift for all their help as i know how hard they have saved to chip in to make sure i get a perfect wedding day.
its prob going to look like a massive snub to him but to me hes hurting me already over my wedding and is lucky that im to nice to leave him off the guest list. xx

I really feel for you - you don't HAVE to invite him - it is your day, and if you feel you're going to get stressed over his behaviour maybe you should re-think? I know it's a hard decision (I'm not inviting my dad to mine) but you really need to have a good think about it.

hun the dress maynot actually have cost £400 .....working in a school i see the compatition to have the most expensive dress ,but i know that alot of it is just atlk and they havent cost that much at all

The dress is a long line of things I get rubbed in my face let's see since Xmas there's been hair extentions, a new laptop, a mini motorbike and a blackberry! All the time he's digging at me telling me he's totally broke so how am I affording my venue etc I know my dad has his favorite but I know he's going to expect to play the doting father of the bride come the day but I'm not putting up with it xx

id be upset if in ur situation. dont tell him anything about the wedding or conceal costs and then he cant go off on one.

you have no need to feel like that im in a kinda similar situation i have only recently got back into contact with my dad he is loaded and i had to ask for a little bit of money from him which he made a fuss about. my mum like yours is givin us £1000 and also paying for the cake lol our mums are the most important and if i were you i wouldnt even bother with your dad if he doesnt get a reaction he may start to react differently towards you. ignore him if he asks why tell him !!

me and htb had a chat last night he was furious when i told him the full details of the digs and comments my dad makes when hes not there hes told me that next time any comment is made tell him (dad) that as money is such a big issue if he doesnt bother coming to the wedding it will save him the worry of spending money on a gift lol my htb has said that he doesnt see why my dad should ruin what is going to be such an important day to me and shouldnt be invited as his attitude stinks.
i also spoke to my mum who told me she understands how i feel hes always a let down and to ignore him completely because as soon as they are in a better money situation (step dad recently lost job) she will be paying for as much as she can. i know its horrible for my mum to have to face my dad as he was a very nasty man when they were married so for her sake id rather he wasnt at my wedding, at my brothers 18th all paid for by my mum and step dad as my bro cut his cake my dad stood up and made a speech thanking everyone for coming etc taking full credit for the party you can imagine how my mum felt after that theres no way he will be taking any of her limelight at my wedding she will have the role of mob and fob and get the credit she deserves for all the years being an amazing mum im glad i have her support along with you all and htb i dont feel as gutted by the complete let down my dad has been im 23 and have my own 3 babies i shouldnt get so upset really lol xx