Wedding Forum - Return Roller Coaster From Hell!...

What a 24 hours!!!!

I'm putting this on here because i think i might explode if i don't say anything, and the trouble is, i can't say anything because everyone who is close to me is involved!!!

A few weeks maybe a month or so ago i put 6 of the closest ladies in my life in charge of my hen do, because i was desperate for a suprise. Having organised the whole wedding, there isn't much of a suprise for me on the day so i thought this was my one and only chance.

I roped in my two sisters, SIL2b, and three of my closest of friends which i have known for years. I organised a group on the book of face with all those who i think would come to my hen do, set the 6 as admin, told them and then deleted and blocked myself from the group.

Anyway, i haven't heard any more, until Thursday night when i went round to one of my friends house (Friend 1) for a brew and a natter......

Whilst i was there at her house, Friend 1 said that she had something to tell me about my hen do, but i was to promise that i wouldn't go digging around for more information, once she had told me this one thing. So like a good friend i said, okay, i hope everything okay though (naturally concerned and worried at why can't my friend come etc). Friend 1 said, I can't come to your hen do, so we'll have to organise our own, just the two of us. I accepted this, although i was a bit taken aback, i realised that Friend 1 has an awful situation with getting her mother to do the childcare duties, so i thought it would have been down to that.

After that i went round to visit my MIL2b, and just in conversation brought up "Its a shame that friend 1 can't make it to my hen do". Well, you would have thought id said she'd have to sacrifice her first born to a cage of wild lions, as she turned and said along the line of "I knew Friend 1 would spoil it, i knew that she would have to say something, spiteful cow, i knew it. Just you wait until i tell SIL2b about this etc etc etc."

I naturally was like "whoa" whats going on, you don't even know friend 1 so whats the deal? she cant come, fair enough i'm disappointed but there isn't anything that you can change about that now.

MIL2B then said "She's only said that she's not coming because its not in "hometown". I was like, oh is it not? i didn't know. Then, MIL2B's faced dropped because she realised that she'd let a huge cat out of the bag, and then tried to cover her tracks by saying that "hometown" wasn't suitable, and that the ladies i'd left in charge had gone and done a bit of a trial run/ research night out.

I was then thinking Jesus Christ what the hell is going on. Tried to speak to one of my Sisters (Sister 1) on the phone to ask her if everything was above board with the whole thing, because naturally, my mind was all over the show by this point. Sister 1 said "ohh i don't know, ive not had anything to do with it, i haven't even gone onto the book of face to speak to anyone about it. Do you want me to say something?" I said, no let me sleep on it and speak to my mum in the morning.

The Next day i get up and have a text from Sister 1 saying that SIL2B is a silly crazy cow. I was like "What the fu*K has happend? Gets Sister 2 on the phone and apparently, Sister 1 had taken it upon herself to go in all guns blazing (baring in mind that she hadn't even acknowledge she wanted to be involved with a simple hello or anything) saying "that everything that has already been provisionally booked is now cancelled, it's not what bride wants, from now on you'll all listen to me".

Which, naturally, then sent Sister 2, SIL2B, Friend 2 and Friend 3 into a total frenzy consequently leaving the book of face thingy and leaving Sister 1 to do it alone!

I was like FU*K sakes!!! So then, i've had to individually speak to every person, appologise for my sister 1s out burst. and ask them if they will reconsider! That took the best part of 4 hours all in all.

Now, everyone had kissed and made up, i did find out that Friend 3 hasn't been involved very much either, and when i rang her she didn't even have a clue as to what i was going on about, so with that, i told her that she was the main in charge person because it's quite clear in my mind that everyone else i've asked to help out is a sandwich short of a picnic bonkers.

Still none the wiser as to what im doing, thank god - i do know that it's clean though :P - Thank god there won't be a next time!!

6 women! Oh my lord, sorry Hun but I agree with Katielea that's too many opinions... But I'm glad it's all sorted x

I think 6 is too many cooks :/ hope they sort it all out, I have two sorting mine.

Hopefully you can forget all this and just enjoy your night when it comes.

Well, now that all this has blown up and Friend 1 can't come because of childcare issues there is now only 5 of them.

However, because i found out that Sister 1 (apart from sticking her size 10s in) didn't do anything and Friend 3 had taken one of the more supporting roles/ back burner roles (she has a lot of college stuff going on so i don't mind) there is actually only Sister 2, SIL2B and Friend 2 who are "chief" organisers.

I think that now they have all cleared the air they will be fine. Fun that you say there are too many Cooks - That's H2b's name! hahaha

I am having my 3 bridesmaids sort out the hen do....i want 2..i want a spa day with the people who can afford to come and enjoy a day of relaxation and i want a night out at the dancing to get a bit merry....my sister has insisted i go to my old haunt to remind me why i am no longer in the dating game lol x