When I get married it will be 10 years since I lost my mum and wanted to include her somehow. Also my step father and oh's uncle. I have a great photo of mum & step dad and one of the uncle. So I was thinking of having the pictures on the guestbook table with a candle and this poem.

"Although we cannot see you we know you are very near.
Smiling down upon us as we join our love so dear

Mum
Charlie
Sonny

Always in our thoughts forever in our hearts on our wedding day

Karen & Alan
27th September 2013"

Do you think it's ok or too much? Would you like to be at a wedding where the special loved ones are remembered or do you think it will be too upsetting?

I so want to do it but don't want to have people feeling sad about the ones we have lost.

It would be great to get your opinions, thanks, x

I think they should be remembered so think its a lovely idea!!!
I will be remembering one of our guests who was killed just before Christmas :-(
I asked his girlfriend what his favourite flower was??
She thought it was a lovely idea and was humbled to think that we will be honouring his memory!!!
So, my bouquet will be white tulips!!!

There are loads of special little touches that you can do like that??
:-)

Aww thats a really nice idea, because both our nans have passed away H2Bs only last year and mine years ago we're going to have a photo of them both either on the top table or on the table with cake with some flowers around even though we know they will be there in spirit it's nice to have a piccy of them there as well.

we are going to have a collage with photos of our grandparents and my stepmum x

I think H2B is going to mention the nans in his speech as well.

Karen its a lovely idea hun I lost my dad so I have a bouquet locket with his pics in and at my evening do will have his pic on the bar I think even though they cant be there in person to share your special day they will be there in spirit and its a great way of letting everyone know that they arnt forgotten :) xx

I think thats such a lovely idea.
Very touching.
Xx

I thin it's a lovely idea.... I mentioned to my mum about doing something like that for my grandad (her dad) but she said no because its meant to be a happy day and it'll make her upset xxx

i think that is lovelly....

I am having a locket with a picture of my dad in my bouquet as he left us 2 weeks ago.

As his death is so close to our wedding i am sure there will be lots of chatter about him and his presence will be there.

We will be doing exactly that too - a multi photo frame with a candle on the guest book table. I want a visible symbol of them there with me.
My sister had 3 tiny heart photo frames on her top table facing her with dad and grandparents in, as she wanted it to be her own private memories- I'm not sure anyone else in the room even noticed them.

My uncle was due to give me away but sadly died last month - so my son will be giving me away and will not exactly be making a speech but asking all to raise a glass to him.

@Kim, hope your wedding was lovely and how sad to lose your dad so close to your day x

Lovely idea honey. My H2B lost his mum 15 years ago and important she was remembered throughout our day so we are lighting a candle in church at the begining of the service which will be for his mum then the best man will take the candle to the recpetion and going to re-light it on our table so have dinner with us too. Within our order of service we have mentioned her and my 2 grandads who are not with us too xxx

oh i dunno, got me crying lol
it is lovely :) x

That's a lovely idea hun, I want to do something like this for my step dad and brother as they have both passed away and I want them to still be there on my wedding day x

That's a really nice idea Hun. I'll be having miniature photo's of my Dad on my flowers, just so I know he'll still be walking with me down the aisle. Xx