I thought I would just write this thread as I believe that sometimes us brides can get a bit carried away with the wedding itself and forget the real reason we are having one. I had a big health scare before Christmas which has ended up with me having to have a major operation two weeks ago. I am only 23 years old and fairly fit so this came as quite a shock. I am now having to have a lot of time off of work in order to recover as my job is very physically and emotionally demanding (I work with people with severe learning disabilities) which means that my wages have dropped majorly as all I am getting now is statutory sick pay. This made me panic, a lot! We have a wedding to save for and how are we now going to pay for everything that we want that would have made our day special, well the simple answer is that we can't, and you know what, I'm OK with that. Before this health scare I had got so wrapped up in this wedding and what the day would be like, and what we could do to make sure that the guests were all happy, what we could have as favours etc. that I was overlooking the reason why we were having the wedding in the first place, because we love each other and we want to be husband and wife! I guess what I am trying to say is that everybody wants to have a perfect wedding and have things that will make the day perfect, but actually none of that matters, as long as you and h2b turn up, say your vows and sign the register, then the day will be perfect, because you have just married the person that you love! So when things are going wrong, or when you cant afford something that you want, or when your family, friends, and bridesmaids are driving you crazy just take a step back and remember why you are doing this in the first place. The most important thing to come from your wedding day, is your marriage and we should all be grateful that we have found that one person we want to spend the rest of our lives with, because not everyone in this world is that lucky! xxx

Sorry to hear about your health issues, hope all is okay now. I completely agree with you, so many brides get carried away, people keep asking why i'm so calm, the simple answer is none of it matters, because I'm marrying him. The rest will just fall into place, even if its just us, and we are in bin bags exchanging haribo sweets! xxx

I feel a bit more relaxed reading this, i've been worried about what people are going to think of our venue and worrying because they will need taxis after and have to find their own accommodation but it is our day, we're marrying each other because we love each other. It's not about impressing or pleasing other people or making sure they can get home, sure it's nice to have a lovely venue and nice do but it's not the main reason why we're getting married, people will sort themselves out and make the effort if they really want to be there to celebrate your day with you.

Just need to take a deep breath and remember it's about us.

Good post Linzi-jo, thank you.

xxx

I had this same thought over Christmas when I realised I was getting really stressed about matching the chair cover sashes to the bm dresses and didn't know how I was going to manage to do that. Then when I went to bed I just thought wtf are you doing - no-one else will care in the slightest if they match for goodness sake!! I've been far less stressed about stuff since and h2b is enjoying the more relaxed bride to be.

Hope your recovery goes well xx

Thanks for all the well wishes ladies :) I am recovering well and my consultant is sure that I will be completely recovered ready for my wedding in just over 7 months! I guess sometimes it just takes something bad to happen to help to put everything else into perspective :) Glad it has helped some of you de-stress a little! lol xxx

I couldn't agree with you more Linzy-jo and i hope you rest up and get well soon after your health scare All i want to do is marry The Love of my Life says our vows sign the register and enjoy our day this is deffo an eye opener and puts things into perspective for me Thank you =D <3 X

I agree, the most important things are sometimes overlooked. Being able to call my best friend and fiancé my husband is what's important.

I really hope you feel better soon.

X

Very well said! And so true!
Hope you feel better soon and you can go back to work as normal.

Totally agree! Get well soon.

My H2b has undergone 2 life saving operations in the last 3 months. It's really put everything into perspective. So much so, that we cancelled our Cyprus wedding and are having a tiny ceremony and restaurant meal. The small details no longer matter as I nearly lost my h2b forever. I just want to be married to him. :) x

I never forgot... i sometimes forget about the wedding when I'm so wrapped up in love with Him!

hard atm as he's deployed and I'm stuck back here... until he gets back and then i deploy! Spending 2 months out of 5 this year before we get married in May! Not a lot, but Precious!