Hi, Im having a few problems with my mil2b. I have an 8 year old and a 2 year old daughter from a previous relationship. My h2b has bought the 2 yr old up since before she was born as her biological father decided he didnt want a family life after all. We have since had a son together and our family in complete. The only problem is that my h2b's family are catholic, they are not practacing catholics but its a family tradition of thiers to be baptised and go to the local catholic school. We have baptised our son, but as me and my ex wasnt catholics my daughters cannot be baptised. This doesnt bother my eldest daughter at all and likes her school ect, but the problem is my youngest daughter. For her to become catholic I would have to attend a night school once a week for a year and get baptised myself (I'm not religious and my partner works a funny shift 4 on 4 off) so 4 out of 8 weeks I will be needing babysitters). Also my eldest daughter would have to give up Brownies as it clashes. If she doesnt become catholic I then either have the choice of putting them in 2 different schools which would be a total pain (my h2b sister would pick up my son but would still be a pain) or do I annoy the in laws and put my son into a normal school -the same as the other two would go. I would kind of get it if they were practising catholics but only attend church for funeral, weddings etc. Ive tried talking to my h2b but he said he doesnt know. His mum can be very opinionated and forceful and will be very mad with us if my son went to a normal school.
Sorry this is long winded but I havent got a clue whats the best option and thought you ladies would have an outside perspective on this. Thanks Lisax
CommentAuthorStave
Just to let you know that you dont need to become a Catholic in order for your daughter to be. Obviously the Church "like" both parents to be Catholic, they would never turn down a new follower of Jesus. All you need to do is state that you are committed to bring the child up as a Catholic.
I have been through it with my Son, his Dad is Catholic. Obviously if your child will attend the local school, then they will need to be baptised and will be expected in Church EVERY Sunday. This task usually falls to the Mother and the way they see it, if the parent becomes a Catholic too, it is more of a committment. Aside from the Religious reasons, the Church attendance every week is because many people get their children baptised, just to get into a better school.
Good luck x
CommentAuthorlisaw
We spoke to our Father at my h2b's church and they said they wouldnt baptise her because both of her birth parents are catholics and they wont unless I convert to a catholic. I was christened when I was younger so I am CoE but they said that isnt enough. I hate being a hypercrite as I am not religious and after if she does get baptised, we wouldnt be going to mass and apart from them attending a catholic school non of the family have anything to do with the church.
CommentAuthorStave
Well I am totally shocked!!! I have never known anyone to say that a Church has refused to Baptise a child :-S
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
All catholic schools have to take a percentage on non-catholic pupils
I'd say go with your gut. At the end of the day, he's YOUR son not your MIL2B's. You and your h2b have the final say- if you'd find it easier and more true to you and your family to not baptise your son, then don't feel pressured into it.
CommentAuthormadison_uk
Don't feel pressured to do what she wants if your kids are happy thats all that matters
CommentAuthorSuzie Bear
I'm a teacher in a catholic primary and we have a percentage of children who are not catholics! They would be expected to be treated and join in as if they are catholic and that u would support the catholic ethos of the school. Normally they would go thru the sacramental programme during school time to prepare for confirmation and Holy communion. We've had children who have reached year 2 and their parents have said we are going to get them baptised and want them to be the same as their peers. Been no problem. x
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CommentAuthorderangedbride
my sister like me and our parents are church of england mymnieces are baptised at all as her OH doesnt believe she has decided to let them choice when they are older if they want to be or not the eldest has just started school which is a catholic one and because of this the youngest is on the list for starting there when she is older so they dont have to be catholic to go my h2b went to a catholic secondary school and like me is cofe
CommentAuthor~ஜ~Tiggs Daltry~ஜ~
years ago i was looking in to baptising my 2 and even though i wasnt a church goer they had no problem,as for your dilema personally i feel why should you have to slit them up just to please mil2b,,they are your children not hers
