I'm RC but partner is Methodist. We are getting married in a RC church as I am a practising RC and partner isn't and he's supportive of this. I want to have communion but fear it will split the gathering and set tongues wagging. Opinions please! C x
CommentAuthor*~Nicola~*
Sorry to sound so niave (I'm COE) but I didn't think you could get married in a RC church if your H2B isn't a practising RC?!
Regardless of that, what are your H2B's thoughts on you having communion? It's down to what you 2 want afterall, if H2B doesn't mind i'd go ahead, alot of churches offer communion out no matter what domination you've been confirmed into.
My H2B and alot of our friends and family would rather attend a civil ceremony rather than a church ceremony but my H2B knows how much it means for me to get married in the church i've grown up in so he's happy to go ahead for me and we're not bothered about whether or not our family like it, join in with the hymns or just stand there waiting for it to finish.
CommentAuthorclare0481
Yeah, as long as you've been baptised and one of you is a practising RC. We both attend mass regularly to. He will support me whatever the decision as he to knows what it means to me. It's just a couple of family members have said that they think it will make the service too long! It not like it will be a high mass, which is where you are both RC and the mass lasts about 90 mins. Why don't people get that it's our day not theirs?! C x
CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
If it's part of your/h2b's religion then your guests will know this. Of course you will want to have part of your religions expressed on your wedding day and your guests should be supportive of that! If it's what you want then I say go for it, it's your day and you have to do what feel's right for you and h2b whatever that involves!
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CommentAuthorMrsSaraParry!
if its what you want then go for it. However I will say that if I went to someones wedding and that was part of the service I would feel extremely uncomfortable, in fact I'd probably choose not to take part as I'm an atheist. On the other hand, you know your guests well and if you don't think they'd have any issue with it, and its important to you and its what you two want, then do it :o) xxx
Clare I think it's down to what you and your h2b want at the end of the day. My dad's side of the family are Catholic, my Mum's CoE. I was Christened but haven't made my Communion or done anything further, and don't really believe in God as neither of my parents are practising so I wasn't brought up to. When I used to visit Dad's family I went to Mass with them on Sundays and I just didn't go up for Communion. This has happened at most of my cousin's weddings and a lot of friend's weddings since and I've not been the only one. People shouldn't mind. It's not like you're forcing them to participate in something they don't agree with, they can just sit or stand where they are until the Communion part is finished. If anyone has a real problem and doesn't want to be there at all that's fair enough, it's their decision, but you should organise your day based on what the two of you want, because you'll never suit everyone. If you didn't have Communion it might offend some other family members - you can't win!
CommentAuthormillz090
You have to do what you want to do honey and what makes your comfortable.
My friend at work is getting married this year and RC and they are having full mass as what they want to do. We were talking about it in the office and i said i wont be going up as im COE but she said thats fine as alot of people dont go up for mass at weddings but stay seated and nothing wrong with that. I wouldnt worry about making people too umcomfartable as your day and i am sure they can put up with it for 90 mins if it is what you wanted xxx
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CommentAuthorPB
My cousin and her husband are RC and they didn't have communion even though most of their families are also RC in fact for a catholic wedding it was very laid back and casual.I am C of E and have been to plenty of C of E weddings that were a lot more formal and stuffy! If i attended a Catholic wedding and there was communion i wouldn't mind but i would be a little apprenensive as i wouldn't know what i was supposed to be doing and would feel like i was getting it wrong -perhaps if the priest said something like 'we will now be taking mass for those who wish to receive it,anyone who doesn't please remain seated' to make it clear to everyone? At the end of the day if your religion is important to you and its important for you to have communion at your wedding then you should do it. xxx
