I have a make up lady booked for me and 3 bridesmaids - found her online and liked her portfolio. (I've also paid 50% of total cost.) Our trial is due tomorrow - last night she emailed to say that her 4yr old son has a temperature and is feeling unwell and if he is the same today she will be cancelling the trial tomorrow but willlet me know tonight.
I had asked her for a trial during our school holidays as 2 of my BM work in school - she chose the last Thursday of the holidays. Rearranging will be an absolute headache to get the 4 of us off on same day again.
ok, so I am really concerned that she is cancelling because her son is feeling unwell. What if Thursday was my actual wedding day? It's made me worry about relying on her for the day. If her son was seriously ill/ hospital/ some other emergency fair enough - but children have colds and raised temp all the time.
I actually feel like cancelling her altogether and finding someone more professional!
I do tend to flip out so would really love the opinion of other brides Am I over reacting?? Or would you feel the same? Susan x
CommentAuthorMrsH-2B
I would be a bit concerned to be honest.. It's like you said, what if today was your wedding day ? Would she cancel that just as easily ? I'm not sure what I would do.. Maybe someone on here as been in the same situation ! xxx
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CommentAuthorChanelP
I would be very concerned- the best thing to do is wait and see if she does the trial tomorrow and depending on the outcome think about hitting someone else, maybe book a trial with someone else too? And go from there.hope it all goes well
XxX
CommentAuthorbarbie86
I would be concerned. She is a professional, offering a professional service which you have paid for. She should have arrangements in place for things like this; it is not your problem she has a child and that that child is ill.
I'd say best-case scenario is that she doesn't see the trial as massively important, and doesn't see an issue in post-poning it; whereas I would HOPE that if this happened on the day, she would ensure she was there no matter what. Only you can decide how comfortable you feel with it, but perhaps you could contact her expressing your concerns, and making it clear that you are not happy due to the difficulty of finding a day when you can all get together, and also ask her what her contingency plan is should something like this arise on or near the actual day itself. I'd then go from there.
CommentAuthorMrsThomson2B
I would speak with your make-up artist first. Start with aksing how her child is and if they are feeling any better. Sympathise and get her onside first. Then ask her ( if she cancels the trial) when she will be able to re-schedule. Then ask her what her contingencey plan is for if her chilkd becomes unwell on the day of your wedding. Say you chose her because you were impressed with her work and would be really dissappointed if she did not do your weding day make-up however you are concerned because your trial was cancelled and getting all of your bridesmaids together can be a nightmare due to other commitments. Tell her you might just be a bride who is over-reacting but you just want to be confident that on the day everything is going to be perfect and straight-forward on the morning of the wedding.
This way you are talking your fears over with her without acusing her of being lax but you should get the answers you need. She may also offer to refund cash allowing you to book elsewhere without losing your deposit if she is just not wanting to do any more xx
I would also assume she views the important-ness of a trial as less than an actual wedding. I suspect successful makeup/hair artists have something booked in for most days? (just guessing, don't really know) and she'll need to prioritise on which occaisions she rearranges.
Could you contact her and let her know you'd be willing to be flexible on the time of the trial, and explain why it will be difficult for you to find another suitable date. But also say that if she really can't make it, would she be able to arrange the new date/time for an evening or a weekend? After you've demonstrated your willingness to compromise, I would definitely ask what her contingency plan would be on the actual day though.
CommentAuthor*KelBel*
I'd be a bit concerned too, I have children but if one was feeling under the weather and I knew I had a contract to fulfil, then surely there are family members of hers tht could watch the child for a couple of hrs while she fulfils her obligations to you... Either that or tell her if the child's I'll to bring child with her and lay said child on the sofa while she does it, especially as ur wedding day is getting close now x
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CommentAuthorFinally Susan B
Thanks so much for your replies. My concern was she must've already had child care in place as she knew she was coming so the difference was cancelling because the child wasn't well - must be her child minder couldn't look after an unwell child.
I emailed her to say that I was concerned and asked if she usually had a back up plan if her son became unwell on the wedding day as I was relying on her for something so important to me and really wanted reassurance from her. she took massive offence to this and replied stating she was professional and had 'bent over backwards' to accommodate me in the holidays which she wouldnt usually do ( I had no idea holidays were a problem for her). She said if I didn't trust her we should cancel our arrangement! So I have spent the day emailing make up artists and have been surprised how many are actually still available at such short notice. After the emails, it would feel so awkward to have her do my make up - and I know I would be worrying during the lead up to the day that she may let me down so I think it's the best solution to find someone new x
CommentAuthorNicoleee_x
wow! i think that's really unprofessional of her :/ surely she can understand why you would be concerned? oh well, hope you find someone better! xx
CommentAuthordizzy_sarah
That us definately unprofessional!
I am struggling to get hold of my make-up artist! I dont think she has ever answered her phone! :(
CommentAuthorMrsH-2B
My goodness !! Bet you're glad this happened now so you know now how unprofessional she is !! xxx
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4th July 2015 <3
CommentAuthorMrsMoran
Wow, that is definitely so unprofessional, she should realise your concerns and be able to reassure you that everything will be fine on the day! As you say, kids get high temperatures etc. all the time and maybe she should find someone who will take care of her kid even when ill, as she is working in a job where she can't just cancel over something like that. How ridiculous, don't blame you for looking for someone else. xxx
CommentAuthorVintageChic
I agree, her response to your email is very unprofessional. I think you should tell her as much and agree to just call it quits there and ask for your money to be refunded. You asked a legitimate question, what happens if she cannot make it on the day? She should expect to be asked this question anyway whether or not she's mucked up someone's trial. She should have an answer to this not an attitude.
