Sorry to moan! Really wanted to get married in a catholic church near me, went there for a couple of weeks and approached the priest only to be told no, and that I wasn't in his parish. Had a little cry, I've got another church to try but now I feel like I want to just get married in the hotel! What a cheek, you'd think they would be glad people wanted to get married in church!!!!!
CommentAuthorMrsK2b
Did u ask him why? Are u part of that church or Another church?
I really wanted to get married in a church as well but my H2B didn't want to do all the wedding classes and going to church every week for so many weeks.
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CommentAuthorMrs Badger
Oh no, I'm sorry to hear that. Try the other church you never know, they may be much more accommodating. I've heard they can be quite fussy about your connection, which I don't really understand. xx
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CommentAuthortinkerbell2013
Sorry to hear that hun, hope u get the next church u want, fingers crossed for u Catholic churches are very strict about who gets married in there churches, where Christian churches have changed there rules and u can get married in most as long as the priest agrees or its in you area, going to get in contact with ours soon and see if we can get married in it fingers crossed x
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CommentAuthorkimi1987
i had that problem but it wasnt a catholic church. we didnt live in the parish of 2 churches i wanted, my parish church looks like a community centre surrounded by metal fence and barbed wire so i refused to be beaten, looked online at the rules of churches and found an even better church just down the road from where mil2b lives. hope you get your next church hun x
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Sorry to hear that when it was your ideal :( It might be worth asking why and seeing can you come to some agreement, but if not then don't give up, I'm sure you'll find somewhere even better :) :)
CommentAuthorMrsDanks
Oh no! Dont let it get you down I am sure you will find another church that you feel very happy with, let us know how you get on. xx
CommentAuthorladyannwyn
awww thats such a shame, we were lucky as the church i wanted is one that is very close to my family (5 weddings there and 2 family members burried in the grounds) so we were lucky, i would ask why it was a no and if there is any way that you could change hte decision (by helping out at the church or by spending more time there etc) if you have a second choice then try there as all preists n church have different variants on the rules :) chin up hun x
CommentAuthorxMrsMarshall2bx
Well he said the only other way we could get married there was if we were regular attendees, and quickly added we weren't because he'd never seen us before! I promptly added we had been there before! Cheeky (would love the swear!) so and so! I'm Not sure if he would class us as 'regular attenders' 6 months down the line and I need to get a date sorted! Already booked the venue! Going to try the other church before I loose all faith!
CommentAuthorDelirium
My sister had the same thing. She had her heart set on a local church but doesn't live in that parish and hadn't attended regularly. She spoke with the priest and told him how much she wanted it - it took a little persuasion but he agreed so long as she and her h2b started regular attendance. Maybe you could ask if this would be the same for you?
CommentAuthorJillybean
CAn you not go back and try and negotiate? twice a week for so many weeks or once a week for 2months or something? If you keep going back and showing you are keen he may change his mind xXx
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CommentAuthormadhen
Yeah I think all you can do is go and plead your case. Explain how important that particular church is to you and that you'll gladly attend from now on and help out where you can. If the answer's still no then you've done your best, x
CommentAuthorxMrsMarshall2bx
Aww thanks for the advice guys, I'll try the other church in 'my' parish, and try to be greatful that i won't be married by a priest that i have grown to despise for rejecting us (because if he knew us, he would love us!!!!) and go back and grovel as plan B!
CommentAuthorClarabella
We went to see our minister on friday and he said to us that even though we arent members of the church they are happy to marry us. It is costing us £200 instead of the £60 if we was members though but i dont think i could join just to save the money and not go afterwards. Id feel too guilty about it but he also said that its up to the minister nowadays and if that minister didnt want to marry us then he would put us n contact with another who would be happy to marry us in the church but unlike you we arent getting married in a catholic church.
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CommentAuthorsamitrev2B
laws for churches are strict c where we live i live on the wrong side of the road but i spoke to father n he said u can b part of the parish if u come at least once a month for 6months n he approved us we when filled out our wedding bands. its a beautiful church just cant believe because of the 10th century that im on the wrong side of the road.... but laws are strict in most churches but u get the fathers who r really traditional n some that are welcoming but u have to go for such time... i actually enjoy going every month meet some ovely ppl always stay for an hour for a good chin wag abd cofee plus they all coming to wedding as i cnt stop them as itsthere church so always consider the parish n how many of them may juat pop up as well and u cant tell them where to sit they will respect u n not sit in the first 3 rows they may not come but u have to consider that as well n respect it xxx
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CommentAuthorMrsShaw
We have been told by 3 churches that if you don't live in the parish, you can still get married there through certain ways.
1 - If you or your h2b have ever lived in the parish area for 6+ months, you can apply to get married there as you have previously lived in the parish.
2 - If you have a significant connection. For example, if you or your h2b got christened there, or at a push, if your parents got married there. Any connection like going to brownies at that church etc is worth mentioning. Oh also if your parents lived in the parish for 6+ months at any time, thats good too.
3 - If you become regular worshippers there. The vicar/father/minister can decide how s/he thinks regular is described. One church told us every 2 weeks, whereas another told us once a month would be fine.
Luckily as I mentioned I'd live in the parish for 6+ months, we just got away with getting our perfect church :) But otherwise we would have had to attend for 6 months.
Hope this helps :)
CommentAuthorSweetchilli
Aww that's so sad. We were going to get married in the church and didn't have to be a member or even attend classes, they were just happy that we were planning on being married in the church. We have now decided to get married in the castle though which I prefer.
CommentAuthorXTeresainLoveX
we didn't think we could get married in church again, but because of our family ties with the church where my mum still lives the vicar there had a new approach to his decision as i was confirmed there as a child and my children were christened there. Even though its 7 miles away we've actually started going back to it and my daughter is now getting confirmed there too. It is a case of how the priest or vicar are with you and what their views are. Its a shame when they turn you down just because of where you live etc instead of seeing it as 2 people wanting to make their vows to each other. Good luck hope you still mange to get what you want x
CommentAuthorbridalmiss
My auntie went church shopping for her wedding as her uncle was an ordained priest, so he could arrange to conduct the service - so if you have any connections etc you could use them maybe? Maybe you could have a talk with the priest and if you agree to do a marriage preparation course etc they would allow you to be married there?
CommentAuthorladyannwyn
wow! £200 is cheap, im paying £450 for our church wedding, and we have alot of connections with our church, its almost as much as the venue!!! we are on a saturday so i think that jumped the price up!
