Can't seem to find an answer searching the forum or on the web...We gave our notice of marriage months ago and she gave us the form to fill in with readings, promises etc we choose, and a book of suggested readings, but this is all the information we have had.
Is there supposed to be another meeting with the registrar before the Wedding? I can't remember if it was mentioned when we gave notice. But otherwise how do we know how the ceremony will run, for instance if we decide to do order of services, how do we know what goes where, surely this needs to be discussed with the registrar? And what about a rehearsal, is this just for Church Weddings?
This all just occurred to me and I started to panic thinking I may not see the registrar again until 10 mins before the Wedding?!! xx
CommentAuthorLauraM9144
there will not be another meeting the form tells you what happens when . the order your choosing is the order the service will go in. and unfortunately you dont get a rehearsal either thats just churches. i hve been stressing baout the same things as i have no idea how long it will take me and the kids to get down the aisle etc but im going to pop up and pace the aisle length so i can practice somewhere else roughly! but the registra did tell us she is there to help so give her a ring if you need too. you will speak to them literally just before you get married as in on the day just to make sure nothing has changed!
One BIG day will lead to lots of little happy days !!
CommentAuthorMrs T. 2 Be
In the front of our book there was an order in which things happen;
Entrance Welcome and introduction Reading 1 (optional) Marriage is... Declaratory and contracting words Promises Reading 2 (optional) Exchange of rings Signing the register Presentation of certificate Closing words by the registrar
A rehearsal depends on your venue and if it is available the day before or not.
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CommentAuthorSJJ
I'll have to go back to the book then and have a look, I have such OCD I dont know if I can handle not having another meeting lol, maybe I will phone them and see what they say! Im going to need to go over anyway to get them to sign my new passport form!
Thats a great idea about just practising the walk down elsewhere, if I get the length of the aisle, Im panicking that the song will be too short to get everyone down!
CommentAuthorChristieC93
I am getting married in a different borough to where I live so I will give notice at one place and have a registrar I've never met marry me on the day! Never thought of all this...panic!
I'm the same as you Christie. But met 2 of the registrars from the borough that I will be getting married in at one of our venues wedding fairs so perhapsnyou could go to a wedding fair at your venue if they have one to meet and discuss with them?
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CommentAuthorLauraM9144
i was the same sjj i have a four year old in my bridal party and was imagining her running off down the aisle to daddy as she wouldnt have a clue what was going on really so i am getting all the party together to practice its not particularly long aisle so can use my campsite bar for length i think if not they will have to go outside but its not for long i need to mae sure everyone knows how and when to walk and when i come in otherwise i will totally stress out on the day!
One BIG day will lead to lots of little happy days !!
CommentAuthorkatielea100
thats all the info i got too but she said i could ring and speak to them whenever i had any questions x
CommentAuthorSJJ
Im glad Im not the only one who stresses about things like this!!! I always need details to help me relax lol! I suspect the venue will probably have seen it a hundred times to be able to queue the bridemaids on the day etc, but I think a practise will help put my mind at ease.
Christie Im sure all the same rules apply so If you speak to your local registrar they will tell you the same as the one marrying you?
Laura you havent got long now how exciting! xx
CommentAuthorWhovianbride
I don't know whether you can have another meeting but you would probably have to pay for their time, or else just phone and talk to them. Im having a rehearsal with our wedding party and wedding coordinator, so they they can make sure the registra know what will happen and that bms etc walk up ailse at correct pace, and everyone knows where to stand , when to sit etc
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CommentAuthorgonzo
I'm having another meeting, I'm getting married in a different district so when I went to pay deposit, they said they will contact me 6-8 weeks before wedding day for me n h2b to come in, pay remainder and talk about what we want, readings music etc then the next time would be the wedding x
CommentAuthorLauraM9144
not getting the exciting yet sjj im just getting nervous and panicky! the bad dreams are coming thick and fast as are h2b's the other night he dreamt he walked down the aisle in his shirt and a giant bow tie as he forgot his trousers!!! and i dreamt i wore pvc rubber covering nothing and danced the aisle to dont you wish your girlfriend was hot like me!! now im not a small girl so this was defo not a pretty sight! its funny now but when i woke the relief it was a dream was insane! also had dreams like losing the dress and having to wear a really old plastic one! and getting arried in an airport and my guests getting on the wrong flight!! all very random! im not normally a stress kind of person im very relaxed but this wedding has brought a whole new side out of me ive learned alot more about myself and im more capable than i thought but im still terrified! hence having to get them to practice somewhere otherwise i just know it will go wrong!
One BIG day will lead to lots of little happy days !!
CommentAuthorSJJ
Thanks for all the advice everyone! I will give them a call and let them calm my nerves haha!!
Laura Ive had bad dreams already cant imagine what yours must be like so close!! Sorry but i did just LOL at the thought of dancing down the aisle to that song haha! Good luck with everything, sure it will go really smoothly xx
