ok so our best man is H2B's brother, he is the only one left out of the groomsmen who has not sorted his suit hire, he has seriously let h2b down by not even starting to or attempting to arrange a stag do (h2b is not really fussed about this, but still?) i have messaged him twice about stag do ideas just to be ignored, when i bring this up with him he shrugs it off. So all this has made me start stressing about his best man speech! so when we saw him yesterday i prompted him by saying my dad had started drafting his father of the bride speech etc and he was like ' mine will just be thankyous and thats it!! and i was like errm are u serious? what about the banter etc and he was like no way! i hate speaking in front of people!!.. and to make it worse h2b just laughed it off with him! how can i sort this without being a naggy pushy sister in law to be?! my h2b has been pretty useless with the planning but im not too fussed as im a bit of a control freak and i expect that off him, but to have a rubbish best man speech?? id be gutted :( I have asked h2b to have a word but he's so laid back, and doesnt want to be pushy either.. HELP!! :(
CommentAuthorRags
Could it be they're both just trying to get a rise out of you and they have secretley sorted it all out???
If not then I would try to focus on other things, and if anything gets mentioned just laugh and say well my mum wont stand for him being in church without the suit on and he'l just make a fool out of himself if he can't pull the speech out of the bag!
I know its not very helpful but if you lay off and see it as a private joke, they'l probably start to worry coz your not.
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CommentAuthorMrs Steer
ahhh thats not very fair of him is it?! My h2b has 3 best men all are his brothers and they are so excited about it all im sure they pretty much have a speech made up already. Men eh? I hope it all works out for you hun xx
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CommentAuthordebs x
Maybe you should tell him does he realise he has a big important role in your wedding and he should take it all a bit more seriously x
CommentAuthorSuzi
Jesus I thought I had written that first post in my sleep but no it was you Lulu lol... all I can say is SNAP!!!
Dodges brother is his best man and he has shown little interest, I have organised his stag do cos his brother has done pretty much nowt and what he did organise was too late for people! He was just going to wear a plain white shirt cos he "couldn't afford" to match Dodge and his dad, there was no way that was happening so we sorted him a shirt (well his wife made sure we got the money) he didn't bother going to sort his suit out until last week and now he is saying he hasn't written a speech! I am dreading it although to be honest this guy wouldn't need to write a speech as he could sell ice to the eskimoes lol.... Fingers crossed he steps up to the plat on the day!!
make the appointment for him to have a suit fitting then give him the time and place thats what i did lol.then if he doesnt show up u know hes being funny. were not having speeches cause h2b and my dad i think they would choke and i dont want them to feel under pressure. does ur best man have to do a speech? i know with our wedding i would rather everyone enjoy them selves than stress and worry. my h2b was a best man last year and he made himself sick wiv worry, now when he looks back at that wedding its wiv bad feeling i dont want that at mine x
CommentAuthorsbride
I think if people are really nervous about speaking in front of people they shouldnt be pressurised into it coz it will make them feel more nervous. I would just leave it up to your H2B to sort it. If his not bothered by it, then dont worry yourself over it.
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CommentAuthorlulu83x
lol i dont think its a point of him being nervous, lol, he jus cant be a-r-s-e-d lol, debs your right, i dont think he is taking it seriously, he's a confident kinda guy, he jus doesnt understand his role i think, lol dove! how funny is that? my poor h2b i feel sorry for him in a way about stag thing, but ive offered to sort it so many times and told not to interfere lol, blinkin men eh xx
